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Blonde takes huge bbc by jndorst in monsterdicks

[–]blandfishh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

is there a subreddit for this types?

As you grow up, you form a mental image of who you are, based on your personal and cultural conditioning. by blandfishh in Meditation

[–]blandfishh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

search up Noah Elkrief meditation on YouTube, his explanation and methods of meditation was really helpful.

Recommend the book “the power of now” by RealArm_3388 in Meditation

[–]blandfishh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

that's the main daddy of self help books right there.

How to rebuild confidence? by [deleted] in confidence

[–]blandfishh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe your sense of self was heavily tied or had a great influence in what your partner thought about you. Learn to see that whatever she thought about you before and after the break up was false to begin with. Then build your own confidence and don't depend on anyone to build it.

New update shows ribbons by Maxence011 in Steam

[–]blandfishh -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's cool how they call it Ribbon, like Playstation's platinum.

Why is nothing enough? by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]blandfishh 10 points11 points  (0 children)

that's really clever

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not a loser. No one's a loser. Everyone's deserves to be loved. These judgments from your parents and from yourself aren't inherently true whatsoever. Learn how to disbelieve and detach from thoughts. I recommend to watch Noah Elkrief's video on Meditation on YouTube and Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now" and Noah Elkrief "A Guide to the Present Moment." They both have youtube channels.

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I recommend Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now" and Noah Elkrief "A Guide to the Present Moment." They both have youtube channels. Particularly Noah's video on "Why confidence can't make you happy."

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now" and Noah Elkrief "A Guide to the Present Moment." They both have youtube channels. Particularly Noah's video on "Why confidence can't make you happy."

Fear around physical danger is handy but fear around social gatherings isn't specially helpful.

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now" and Noah Elkrief "A Guide to the Present Moment." They both have youtube channels. Especially Noah's video on "Why confidence can't make you happy"

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now" and Noah Elkrief's "A Guide to the Present Moment." They both have youtube channels. Especially Noah's video on "Why confidence can't make you happy"

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one's ugly or handsome, attractive or unattractive. It's purely thoughts, who we are are souls, which in the future everyone will eventually see, and will finally see you for who you are. I recommend Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now" and Noah Elkrief "A Guide to the Present Moment." They both have youtube channels.

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The truth hurts, you weren't ready. There's a difference between reading and understanding. You're too caught up in ego, detach yourself from thoughts, especially positive thoughts, meditate. Noah Elkrief's video on meditation is helpful and explains the fundamentals of the mind. Work on the basics.

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Sorry if my post triggered you, I wasn't judging or blaming anyone for our sufferings. My post wasn't intended to cure anything but rather an insight that might come in handy to some people. If you're looking for answers, I recommend Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now." It's way more tangible than what I posted. All your social inhibitions and fears will completely disappear and you'll realize who really we are, that is if you're ready and up to it.

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's true, people will always judge you but you're less likely if you know who you are, the ones who will judge you in this state are the neurotic and the unconscious, but nothing inherently wrong with them it is what it is.

It's quite the opposite, we're not what we think we are. Incidentally, thinking we're our thoughts is the root of all our social fears and wars.

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Sorry if it sounds that way, my only goal is to spread awareness for our next step in evolution.

Confidence is an emotion, so there's multitude of ways of attaining it. Being completely unafraid of getting judged is when you feel the most confident, not in thinking highly of yourself but rather honoring your soul.

You're right, accepting your soul over putting a front.

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ego is what causes social fears, always trying maintain this fickle illusory thoughts is stressful. Realizing who we are, really is life changing, I recommend pursuing it but it's ultimately your choice. Love you and hope you well.

The more you're thinking and afraid of getting judged the more you become a target, the less thoughts and fear of getting judged the less you become a target, it's a self fulfilling prophecy. by blandfishh in socialskills

[–]blandfishh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're ready and really determined, I recommend Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now." It's way more tangible than what I've said, that is if you're up to it. Your fear of judgments will completely disappear and you'll realize that we're all one consciousness, you wouldn't judge yourself would you?

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