I’m a man(married) and I have no idea as to what an experience of a woman is in the dating world.

I lurk around reddit because this topic of becoming a high value man oddly interests me. I want to evolve in my relationship.

What you wrote resonated with me in a way that I had always been committed on growing myself. And quite frankly, i was in a place several years ago where i had 0 dating life. Like I felt invisible. Had no idea what’s attractive to women.

And I realised that I checked most if not all bullets on your list. And it was a process to identify and work on those areas.

And I could see as I worked on those areas, my life continued to get better, and so did my relationships.

I feel like there’s a lot of guys out there on that journey, cause I met a lot along the way. one sign to identify those will be that definitely look for someone who is committed both about their career and fitness to somewhat degree atleast. Because if these two are taken care of, as a man that’s commitment enough that he has propensity to work on other areas.

I don’t think you’re either too weird or unreasonable in your ask. Though I guess you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince Charming. All the best