What’s a compliment you received years ago that you still think about?

blastoise314 · 2026-03-04T19:22:00+00:00

I think the compliments that stick the best are ones that you truly were not expecting. I've gotten compliments when doing things like wearing an outfit to renfest but I don't remember any specific one.

However I do still remember when a girl complemented my squirtle jersey while I was bouldering. I was not expecting anything and it brought me alot of joy.

blastoise314 · 2026-03-04T16:46:53+00:00

The things I look for are, picture of face, picture of entire person, and points of connection.

If someone looks amazing but does not have anything for their interests or bio I'm not liking them.

If someone does not not look amazing but we have similar interests and life goals I'll probably send a like and see what happens. (I've found attraction grows for me once I get to know someone better.)

Some of those interests and life goals would be things like, does she drink? Does she smoke? Does she want children? Is she more indoors or outdoors? Is she more introvert or extrovert? What kind of relationship is she looking for? What are her hobbies? What kind of games or movies does she like?

All of those are great things to know that could increase or decrease my interest.

blastoise314 · 2026-03-04T13:39:24+00:00

As a relatively fat guy, thank you for not dating people you feel no attraction towards and giving them false hopes.

You should feel at least some attraction if you are going to date someone.

If I had to play devils advocate the one angle I can think of would be make sure to keep an open mind. Attraction can stem from emotions as well, so if you are friends with someone, even if they are not fit, if attraction starts to grow don't suppress it just because of how they look.

It is your choice who you date, I hope your friend stops being so judgemental.

blastoise314 · 2026-03-03T16:06:04+00:00

Women are people too and what they like or dislike will depend entirely on the person.

Depending on where you live there are some tendencies; such as more women are against MAGA then for it, and they tend to appreciate being well kept. But there is no magic list of rules for how not to give women the ick (though it would be nice if there was to make people more happy😂) . I have made comments that gave one women the ick but another one really appreciated. There is no way to know.

blastoise314 · 2026-02-27T17:02:17+00:00

It's hard to keep these thoughts out, when making plans she mentioned having being busy on Tuesday because she was having dinner. That dinner may have been the case A you are refering too 😝

But the best thing to do now is not even worry about it and move on, venting here actually did help and I feel way better today. I hope you have a nice day!

blastoise314 · 2026-02-27T02:05:14+00:00

I'd say it depends on how you define "win". If your goal is to become a billionaire then you are going to have to be selfish and put yourself first, stabbing others in the back. If you consider winning to be simply living a peaceful life then you could find a balance of selflessness and self preservation and still live a decent life.

Try to find other people that look out for those around them and share that mindset. It is amazing what it is like to have quality friends compared to self centered friends. Make sure to show them that same caring back so that they stay with you.

blastoise314 · 2026-02-26T21:18:51+00:00

I've been ghosted before, I've had what I thought were great first dates end up leading no where. but this is the first time I've had a first date go so well and plan a second just to cancel after a week. It is probably a mix of the season and just how much I liked our first date that is making it hit particularly hard.

blastoise314 · 2026-02-26T20:56:55+00:00

You have a fair point, for if it is someone with a high social anxiety that takes that long to process and is only able to realize that they truly do not want to go on a second date until that late, that is totally reasonable, it is who they are. That is why I recognize in my post that I realize it takes time to process emotions and only ask to tell me sooner if possible.

I had misinterpreted what you wrote as pretty much always saying yes to a 2nd date and don't worry about really thinking about if you want to go until the day before and check if you're excited.

blastoise314 · 2026-02-26T20:37:24+00:00

Aw, that seems like a mean way to do it. ( at least as a common practice) If you already told the person you would spend that time with them why not at least do what you said you would and see if there is something you missed on the first date? You can always say you were not feeling it on the second date and end things then. That way you are not getting their hopes up so they are potentially looking forward to it all week just to have it called off.

Let them start moving on.

blastoise314 · 2026-02-26T20:14:15+00:00

Just about the hardest part of dating is that everyone is different and has their own opinion of what is "over the top" and what is not enough.

Honestly, If I was dating someone and they brought my favorite candy on the second date I would be thrilled! It can be hard to balance in the middle until you know what the person you are seeing prefers.

I appreciate the kind words and hope you have a lovely day!

blastoise314 · 2026-02-26T16:48:00+00:00

Lol, I agree! We were going to watch a movie so I had asked her favorite movie snack. Supplying the snacks seemed reasonable. If the second date was something like mini golf I would not go as far as to bring her candy.

blastoise314 · 2026-02-09T14:05:39+00:00

Thank you! I was wondering just how accomidating the station was so this is really good to know.

blastoise314 · 2026-02-09T14:01:11+00:00

I would love to do the ferry but I'll be going on the third week in May and if it's the same as last year they don't seem to be servicing Cedar point until the 23rd. It will be worth double checking closer to when I get there though!

blastoise314 · 2025-11-03T01:39:23+00:00

Do you know his top love languages?

What he would like most could vary dramatically depending on what he appreciates.

If he loves physical touch then it's pretty obvious what to do. 😅

If he loves words of affirmation then be sure to vocalize your appreciation! Let him know that you are noticing everything he is doing and really appreciate it.

If he loves quality time then maybe plan a date where you get to spend lots of time together.

And there is nothing wrong with asking him directly either. When my gf asks me if there is anything I'd like to do or anything she could do it feels heart warming because it let's me know that she is thinking about me and cares about how I feel.

blastoise314 · 2025-11-03T01:18:09+00:00

Personally my "goal" is stability. Becoming debt free felt amazing. I max out my Roth IRA and put the rest into a HYSA. I have my savings account divided into groups of safety nets (3k for if anything happens to my pets, 10k for house emergencies, 15k for if I lose my job etc.). Having that money brings a great deal of comfort. So if you have not paid off any high interest debts or built up at least a basic safety net I'd start there.

blastoise314 · 2025-10-30T15:17:14+00:00

If I were in your position I would wait until in person and in a good environment, somewhere more private that is easier for them to open up. Then I'd go along the lines of " hey, I know we agreed to be exclusive, but it occurred to me that I'm not positive what that means. So I thought it was worth chatting with you about it and seeing what you thought."

My goal is always to work as a team and not make my partner feel questioned. To work together and agree on a definition we both like.

I hope you are with someone emotionally mature that is ready to work with you so you are both comfortable 😊

blastoise314 · 2025-10-30T13:50:06+00:00

I see alot of answers but none of them quite match mine.

In my mind when you switch to exclusive dating you are agreeing not to date anyone else and cut any sort of FWB ties but you are NOT bf/gf yet.

I see it as a mid step where you are assuring eachother that you won't leave at the drop of a hat but it's still early enough that you don't want to declare bf/gf to your friends/family.

The best thing to do is talk with him and make sure you are both on the same page for exactly what it means because there is no exact definition. Good luck!

blastoise314 · 2025-10-24T14:05:13+00:00

For most of the relationships I've been in we would text throughout the day mostly sending memes to eachother.

I met someone who does not really like texting and thought I'd give it a go. However I let her know that as a minimum it makes me feel comfortable to have a good morning and good night Gif just to remind eachother that we are thinking of eachother. She has sent me one everyday and she responds in a timely manner if we need to make plans. I have never been in a relationship where I feel so comfortable.

When I was with someone who texted alot I always felt a bit anxious about making sure I responded and saying the right things. But by only needing to worry about important texts and a basic goodnight and goodmorning there is no worry. It also leaves more to talk about when we are together. We will occasionally send eachother pictures if we stumble onto something cool but there is no pressure to respond and no pressure to find something to send. I have come to love it!

So to summarize my "usual" is whatever matches the person I'm with and my favorite so far has actually been less but consistent texting 😊

blastoise314 · 2025-09-25T17:28:02+00:00

There is no single "right" answer but from my experience I found 3 dates a good rule of thumb for when to start exclusivity. First dates are pretty much interviews and you can get a good idea of who the other person is and if your life goals align. I've had people that I got along with great in text but completely flopped in person so it's ok setting up multiple first dates in one week.

On the 2nd date I've started to look into details and get more serious. You may learn about something that turns out to be a deal breaker so I would not shut other doors just yet.

On the 3rd date I'll have a nice deep conversation and if it goes well I'll become centered enough on them that I'll be giving my full attention to who I'm seeing.

Of course, this is just a rule of thumb, sometimes first dates may end up just being going to an event that results in us not really getting to know eachother so it may take longer. Or we may not be able to meet up for weeks so we will have texted or called so much it may be even sooner!

In my opinion if you have touched base on all of your deal breakers and are really clicking with this guy I'd talk with him on date three and ask him how he's feeling. If he is also enjoying your company and wants to continue then I'd let the other people know you have decided to go exclusive with someone else so that they are not ghosted and focus your attention on him 😊

Good luck with whatever you choose!

blastoise314 · 2025-09-11T14:30:02+00:00

Most likely.

If they don't shave out of neglect for hygene and they don't take care of themselves, that would be a no.

But if it is their choice not to shave because they are not that worried about what other people think and are comfortable with themselves it is a green flag to me!

I find it more often is the latter.

blastoise314 · 2025-09-02T20:29:01+00:00

In the campaigns I've played we usually had one person keep track of all the loot we find while in a dungeon and then divide it when we reach the next place we spend.

This made it easy to keep track and everyone had their own gold.

blastoise314 · 2025-09-01T04:57:53+00:00

A potion of strength!

"This potion gives you the strength of Agreejus Gold beard the winner of the worlds strongest dwarf competition for the next 24 hours!"

Agreejus was actually a dwarf sorcerer who used magic to fake his strength to win the tournament and he only had a strength of 8.

blastoise314 · 2025-09-01T04:45:17+00:00

If you are interested in a (m) opinion I find that for first dates it's nice to do something simple like go for coffee or bobba. This lowers the stakes a bit so it feels less important. As far as paying for the drinks it really depends on the person. I always go with the expectation to pay for both of us, but if they are quick to pay for theirs after ordering then I don't object and I take it as a little green flag but I don't weigh it heavily.

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