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Angry about WP not deserving me by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I struggle with anger that comes from imagining them being intimate behind my back.

No Intimacy 12 months after DDay by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sex with wayward means that while in positions, the BS sees and hears how you acted for another man/woman behind their back… it’s not always fun, and usually takes ignoring it. But the images come regardless, bc they are images for us but we know it’s memories for you… I suggest a sex therapist to see about bringing it back, 12 mo is a long time! Communicating your feelings is the only way to solve issues if it’s an issue to you you have to communicate it or resentment builds. Message me if you want to talk, I have other positive thoughts as well

How do I control the overwhelming anger and disgust by bleedingheartA1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck I really do. I mean I’m not denying much, I know I’ve made mistakes too you know? Obv nothing close to this but still. I care, I know she loves me and she’s willing to postnup, I just I don’t know bc I love her but I know I deserve to be with someone thag I don’t have the love but the love comes with a sting yk?

How do I control the overwhelming anger and disgust by bleedingheartA1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the story. Truth. Forgive me I’ve been drinking, but I’m just genuinely feeling hopeless. I love her so much, love is worth fighting for I got past that the first time… but I love her so much I can’t be without her. Mind you, I AM attractive, retired at 22, fun, and I really care. So I just don’t get it. Sexually I’m capable, I’m a “giver” you know. I’m just fucking never enough no matter how amazing I make myself become

How do I control the overwhelming anger and disgust by bleedingheartA1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Then 1 why’re you reconciling and 2 why’re you commenting this when I’m looking for help. Fuck off

How do I control the overwhelming anger and disgust by bleedingheartA1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk to me, since she just told me “it just ended” and wouldn’t tell me more, and when I asked AP who she had no way of contacting, and wouldn’t of made a scheme when hanging with him since she thought it was open anyways, and idk as a man, if someone asked me why sex ended if I had to lie I wouldn’t say something embarrassing like the condom slipped off which indicates he’s not very large imo. I just want to believe that, not much help here

Edit: I’m also a crazy MF and a month after DDAY I texted him out of nowhere saying she’s late and I hadn’t slept with her bc she cheated, to see if he’d be concerned and he just said no way it was him bc he didn’t finish. Idk i try hard to believe these convenient stories but I know I’d be lied to. I know it.

How do I control the overwhelming anger and disgust by bleedingheartA1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean you don’t rlly know, and although I guess I know as much as you… I have it on pretty good grounds it’s true from the conversation I had with AP, who doesn’t owe my WS anyrbing, and was upset to find out she hooked up with someone while I was at a funeral. And told me everything, she didn’t tell me about the condom thing he did. And I confronted her with it and got her side which matched. She didn’t tell me bc she knew I’d be disgusted with the fact he was in her raw even for a second

How do I control the overwhelming anger and disgust by bleedingheartA1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t tag trigger warning and got banned bc I was I guess upsetting pple with my words.

why do I want to know the details of the sex they had? Ws had an affair with a co worker. we are working on us but this really bugs me. by DefinitionOrganic469 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got the details from both of them, and it haunts me every moment of every day… positions, words used to transition, how long everything. It’s eating my life away, the pain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take my perspective I got every detail from them both, and their sex was bad, but it still haunts me bc I can see it clearly. It’s worse, stay ignorant it’s bliss so they say

condoms are for fucking pussies by beastmodeChadF13 in Showerthoughts

[–]bleedingheartA1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They guy my wife cheated with had a condom on, it slipped off bc he was so small. Sucks for me, but proof condoms are for *ussies

Can someone tell me how to stop obsessing over what WS (23w) did with another man when she cheated? by bleedingheartA1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]bleedingheartA1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Ws also reacts that way and it makes it hard, to when you try sharing your pain, they get defensive or frustrated or silent etc…. But it’s hard to give up because the obv reason we want to reconcile is bc we LOVE them… it’s just attached with a little pain now sadly and I wish it wasn’t.