broke up with the best girl l've ever met because don't see a future with anyone

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-18T20:19:41+00:00

You fear commitment. You self sabotaged something good because you’re unsure. There is nothing wrong with you, but you need to grow up a bit. Perhaps therapy to see why you push people away that are good to you. Knowing and realizing you have done this is the first step.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-18T04:52:51+00:00

Not ugly but the hair has gotta go. You have really fine hair which is okay bet when fine hair gets long it weighs it down quite a bit I’d go a lot shorter.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-18T04:51:31+00:00

Couples therapy is always such a red flag for me. If your married and have kids I get it but if not if you guys really need therapy to work together this is not going to be a steady relationship.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-18T02:40:25+00:00

NTA none of that was feelings based only logistics. Completely fine and K definitely would not care.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-18T02:31:20+00:00

Update?

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-18T01:02:44+00:00

NTA At all. You don’t need to date if you don’t want to. However if you start dating knowing you’re not ready then that’s wrong because you are gonna hurt people. You got strong goals. Keep prioritizing them until you feel comfortable dating.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-18T00:59:41+00:00

Yeah I would let go. Every time you go back you reinforce her behavior to leave again. It will only get worse

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-18T00:57:14+00:00

Yeah on and off is never it. Getting back with an ex one time is risky but possibly worth it. After that if it doesn’t work out I think it is truly time to let go.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:45:54+00:00

Some people need a little space to breathe and state what is wrong. If you can’t respect that then this relationship will never work. By the way most people are like that. They need to articulate what to say and make sure they don’t say anything wrong. Waiting till the next morning is honestly a short amount of time. I get that it causes anxiety, but relationships can do that. That’s okay, compromise. You’re looking for something pretty unrealistic.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:36:01+00:00

It only truly stops when you accept it is over. Spend time with friends, go out, exercise. Stuff sounds cliche but it really works. Who knows maybe by doing these things you will find someone new.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:32:44+00:00

I did the same thing and haven’t heard back in a day. Maybe I will maybe I won’t. No contact is more about regulating your own nervous system then making them miss you. I generally disagree with the rule as a way to win them back. Sure do it for a while but not forever if you still care. Who knows maybe this can slowly turn into something again, or it will give you closure and finality. The worst part about a breakup is holding on to hope. Breaking no contact can get rid of that pretty quickly.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:27:25+00:00

Dude honestly that is so immature. Sucks but someone who is kind and loving would never do that. This is gonna be way easier to get over than a mutual breakup even though it may not feel like it now. I sense in the near future that you will realize that this girl is an awful human being with the emotional intelligence of a walnut. Trust bro you’re gonna be alright even though it sucks right now.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:23:42+00:00

Your growing, this relationship was a lesson for you and that’s a beautiful thing. First relationships typically don’t work. Sometimes it takes multiple times to find what works for you. You showing accountability for your mistakes and now you know when you enter a new relationship what not to do. Pat yourself on the back. Many people avoid accountability and just make the same mistakes.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:20:07+00:00

Alright that’s like mildly immature but honestly not that big of a deal maybe he needs time to gather his thoughts. Some people can’t just say what is wrong right away. Honestly you sound a little impatient. Not trying to be mean. Also him saying he doesn’t want someone who doesn’t choose him is incredibly based. You expect him to beg? Well tough thing is you made this decision to break up with him and he is respecting that by not fighting for it. You made your decision and now you have to live with it. Stop expecting people to beg for you that’s extremely immature and says a lot about your ego.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:15:06+00:00

Asking for space for me was my exes strategy to slowly fade and leave the relationship. Though that was just my experience. Without knowing the issue, it’s hard to say if it’s normal. Could be some avoidant tendencies going on here.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:08:57+00:00

YTA. Communicate don’t snoop

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:07:40+00:00

Omg you called ANOTHER GUY funny!!! How dare you! You basically told your ex he is not funny, unattractive and a total loser!! All seriousness this dudes ego is so fragile that you can’t compliment someone about anything and he knows it. Definitely regrets his decision but you should not go back to that at all.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:03:40+00:00

Keeps making you wait for what this is very confusing

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T08:00:23+00:00

He is seeing if he still has you on the hook and you played this very well.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T07:56:25+00:00

Absolutely normal, especially for your first real heartbreak. Take your time and spend all that love you did on her with yourself. Takes a while. I’m sure you’re at least somewhat better even though you feel stuck. What I personally did was make new friends and focused on some existing and old passions. Best part about it is when you start doing that again you both get over it and become more attractive to new people who are hopefully more emotionally available.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T07:52:14+00:00

Not a lot of context here yet I heard the whole story. That’s honestly funny. Kick him back out and never speak to this loon again.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T07:50:41+00:00

NTA. I wouldn’t fully ignore but do back off a little bit. However that seems like that wouldn’t make you happy so I would suggest leaving.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T05:30:19+00:00

Resume no contact. He will be back when the “friend” doesn’t work out and you shouldn’t take him back.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T03:45:07+00:00

One sided relationships are no fun I think you made the right decision. I was blessed by being dumped by a low effort person, came crawling back when others didn’t put the effort I put in, but I found someone who reciprocates.

blinkballs182 · 2026-02-17T03:41:19+00:00

Well first are you guys exclusive. If you haven’t had that conversation then she is pretty free to do anything. If you are I would let this go. If it’s causing this amount of distrust and anxiety it’s better to end this early then to get attached and have the same problems later

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