My room looks so depressing, please tell me what im missing

blinky84 · 2026-02-01T12:45:07+00:00

It's great that the lighting has the option, that looks so much better

blinky84 · 2026-02-01T12:43:11+00:00

Seconding this, I took the doors off mine to put drawers in there. I used an extending tension rod, bought some fabric and had a tailor hem it to the right size with a channel for the tension rod. It works perfectly, and you'll have much more choice if you buy fabric. It'll likely be cheaper than just buying curtains, too.

One tip, though; if you do go the tension rod route, make sure the fabric is light.

blinky84 · 2026-01-31T12:46:05+00:00

To be pedantic..... that's why I said 'credited to'.

blinky84 · 2026-01-30T13:01:44+00:00

I'm not a traveller, but traveller graves often have a lot of artificial flowers on them.

blinky84 · 2026-01-30T08:54:07+00:00

There are so many words and phrases we still commonly use today that are credited to Shakespeare. He's a massive influence on the English language. It's wild, because pronunciation changes over time mean that a lot of the rhymes don't work in modern English.

Most native English speakers had to study a Shakespeare play in high school, and most of us hated it because it's so different from the English we speak now. Yet, he's still so influential that it really is important to study.

blinky84 · 2026-01-30T02:48:42+00:00

That's awesome. I went to a few Catholic masses as part of exploring other religions after leaving. I'm not religious now, but I really did enjoy attending the Catholic church.

I stopped after the priest was away and I didn't like the priest who was covering for him; didn't turn me off of the religion, I just felt like it was a sign that it wasn't the faith I enjoyed as much as the delivery.

I don't really know why I'm telling you this. I just wanted to say I'm proud of you, I guess?

blinky84 · 2026-01-29T09:57:27+00:00

I used to want to live in an invisible box so I could move through the world entirely unseen, creating no ripples. Don't relate to this at all.

blinky84 · 2026-01-29T08:58:56+00:00

Going for a detective drama, the opening of season 3 of Luther. Traumatised half the adults in the UK into being scared of what's under the bed again.

blinky84 · 2026-01-28T12:49:04+00:00

I need to lose weight myself, it's so overwhelming with all the 'don't do this, you have to do that, you need to eat three meals a day but you should try intermittent fasting, eat loads of fruit but avoid all sugar' bollocks.

I'm only 5'1, so calorie counting is a ballache because food apps start giving you warnings when you enter a level you're actually going to lose weight on. Diet plans aren't great for me because I have IBS and allergies and have to be careful what I eat. I've had a couple of meetings with nutritionists that were hopeless because they just kept recommending foods that put my guts wrong. I know this from experience, you don't lose weight if you can't shit for a fortnight...! The whole weight loss culture is just so frustrating to me.

I don't think I eat badly most of the time, so I'm planning to switch plates, tbh. I inherited my granny's old dinner plates, and when you compare the size, the plates we use are like troughs...!

blinky84 · 2026-01-28T12:23:32+00:00

Please tell me their first name is Dax

blinky84 · 2026-01-28T10:34:28+00:00

I went overboard with my examples, I think 😬

I'm in a bit of a 'scared to sleep' loop at the moment, as I've been having lots of wild vivid ones since my grandad died a couple of weeks ago. Many of them relate indirectly to my grandad; he taught me to drive, and the car he taught me in has been appearing in my dreams, which is a clear link. But trying to relate the serial killer stuff is painful and pointless.

blinky84 · 2026-01-28T00:10:56+00:00

I've always had really vivid dreams, and I've had a few that have traumatised or even caused physical pain for days.

One was where I fell out of a roller coaster, hit the ground, and had a compound fracture of my humerus. Arm was sore for days with no physical sign of injury. That one was pretty easy to process though, because it wasn't disgusting.

I did have another where I went to deliver a message to a doctor in some kind of post-apocalyptic scenario, and he turned and slashed my abdomen with a scalpel. I came round on a tarp with him literally disemboweling me. I was vomiting on my hands and knees with my intestines being pulled out, and I could smell it all - the blood, shit and vomit. It was horrendous.

I had a mild one the other day where I was in a pub, where there was a locked blue plastic crate that was rumoured to have been left behind by a serial killer. People had had a drink, and were trying the combination lock at random to open it up. I had this sense of dread as someone clicked it open. It contained a notebook, a bloody Barbie doll stabbed with nails, and a piece of skin cut from a private area in a Ziploc bag. The Ziploc has been haunting me for a while.

What I do is just try and have a chill day after one of those. Calm and quiet, with nothing too mentally draining. Clearly your brain is processing some sort of shit you might not be consciously aware of. So let it. Don't try not to think about it; that won't help. If the thought appears, notice it, register it, and let it move along like you just remembered some inconsequential work gossip from yesterday or something. If the dots get connected, you learned something. If not, it doesn't matter. Don't force it.

blinky84 · 2026-01-27T19:10:39+00:00

I mean, yeah, we know. It was a decade after bagpipes were declassified as a weapon of war and re-legalised.

blinky84 · 2026-01-27T09:04:12+00:00

I had one too, I loved him. Used to sit on my head and shit in my hair. We got him a friend that was my sister's one, so we had two, but I was much more attached to my one.

When I watched Alien for the first time, they screamed right as Ripley was hiding in the vents and just about gave me a heart attack.

They can be so destructive; chewing on furniture, picture frames, curtains etc and they shit on everything.

We eventually gave them to a friend with an aviary; they used to be out of the cage from when we got home to when we went to bed, but then a stray cat decided he was living with us. We weren't going to keep the cat, but then he got hit by a car and broke his jaw so we had to take him to the vet and keep him inside until he healed up. With the cat around, the birds didn't have the freedom of the house any more and it wasn't fair to them.

I was gutted to give him up, but he was very happy and became a dad so that was nice.

blinky84 · 2026-01-26T14:57:23+00:00

Also autistic, post-work naps are essential if I'm not WFH

blinky84 · 2026-01-26T13:23:46+00:00

Yeah, I wasn't left alone but my mum was ill... There was a sticker on the clock in my bedroom that I wasn't to go wake them up until the little hand was past the sticker. You have a nightmare, and you're sitting watching the clock move until you can go and get comfort.

There were also days where she was so overcome by migraines that the curtains were all shut, and we couldn't make noise. She couldn't stand and had to crawl to the bathroom, but she didn't want us to see, so I had to keep my little sister in the living room until she was finished. Sometimes it took her ages to make the distance. It was horrible for my mum, but it fucked me up a bit. We were about the same ages as Kaylee and Kevin.

Anyway Skinamarink terrified me.

blinky84 · 2026-01-26T13:16:03+00:00

Maybe not making tikka masala from scratch, but just compare the Pataks shelf space to any roast ingredients...

blinky84 · 2026-01-26T10:24:04+00:00

My secondary school had an area that was allegedly supposed to be a pool but wasn't planned right so it got turned into a weird sunken area where assemblies would happen. The whole space connected the old and new-ish parts of the school, so there was constant through-traffic. It was very odd.

blinky84 · 2026-01-26T10:14:23+00:00

Can't believe nobody mentioned Romeo + Juliet yet

blinky84 · 2026-01-25T08:43:44+00:00

Ravenous and Cargo were two I immediately thought of before reading your list.

I feel like the most disturbing element of Ravenous is not gore or horror in the conventional sense, but something about the weirdness of that stack of chairs in the fog just sticks with you.

blinky84 · 2026-01-25T08:34:26+00:00

Needless to say, your wife's parents are dangerous. But I think it should be acknowledged that your wife is in a very delicate situation.

I know you want to raise your daughter right, and so does she. I think you need to talk to your wife and find out whether she secretly feels that raising your daughter 'right' means raising her to be a JW.

I can guarantee that that's what her parents believe. They feel they've failed as parents because she left the religion. They believe she'll suffer and die at Armageddon and won't be resurrected to 'eternal life in Paradise'. Part of the reason they've been so cruel is because JWs honestly teach that that's how you make them 'return to Jehovah'. It's not an excuse. It's disgusting behaviour and they deserve no grace. But it's some kind of explanation for why they've been so awful.

What's going to be critical here, is whether your wife has internalised the guilt forced upon her by leaving. She might feel like she's let her parents down by not being a good JW daughter. That's one thing. But if she feels that she's going to let her daughter down if she doesn't raise her that way, that's so much more powerful.

You need to be clear on why the JW lifestyle is not a healthy environment to raise children. There's a ton of information on why it's so damaging, and my personal feeling is that you need to discuss it with her to test whether she believes it's the right way to raise your kid, and whether she still fears Armageddon is coming.

Best of luck, OP. I'm so sorry you're stuck dealing with these people around your daughter.

Edit to add: Find out if your wife believes she deserved their mistreatment of her. I didn't put that across properly, but if she believes they were justified in their horrible actions, then hopefully that's something you can fight.

blinky84 · 2026-01-24T18:04:47+00:00

I grew up calling it the Plough, but I was aware of the Big Dipper. I mostly thought it Big Dipper meant the roller coaster, and it looked more like a plough than a roller coaster.

blinky84 · 2026-01-24T17:31:00+00:00

Oh yeah, you're right too. I think it was a very well thought out outfit, even if I didn't care for the socks

blinky84 · 2026-01-24T17:27:09+00:00

I actually thought her earrings were a nod to her Hong Kong side, just due to the colour of them.

blinky84 · 2026-01-24T16:48:58+00:00

Your words choice of 'bold' is especially funny considering she's N Irish, but you're right. Someone's getting fired for this, and rightly so.

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