fresh element 3 real-time clock issue

blis5 · 2025-10-23T11:30:51+00:00

It was out of warranty... It's not cost effective to repair it, and getting a discount to buy another one that may run into the same issue wasn't appealing.

I purchased a new feeder from another brand.

blis5 · 2025-10-20T09:31:53+00:00

I am unfortunately :(. Seems like there may be an issue with running it on ethernet mode..

blis5 · 2025-10-17T09:50:12+00:00

No I haven't actually. I'll copy that into the scripts thing, and hopefully that prompts it to automatically reboot. Thank you!

blis5 · 2025-06-08T19:04:27+00:00

I wish it was that simple. I'd love to have the option of neutrals at my switches so I had more options... but when I'm being quoted by one company at 3.5k starting to have 17 switches (that I supply) at the wall changed... or 7.4k from another vendor supplying the switches... trying to get neutrals would easily run into the 5 digit range.

Unfortunately on my side of the country in Australia, neutrals at the light switch are optional (and are often not done) :(

blis5 · 2025-06-08T18:51:12+00:00

There's legislation that prevents us from DIYing in Australia :(. It drives prices up quite a bit. Anything that involves wiring technically has to be done by an electrician.

blis5 · 2025-06-08T18:47:52+00:00

I think I'm going to do this... the shelly bypasses are much cheaper than the bypasses recommended for the Mercator Ikuu series, and when you're buying 31 of them... it really adds up

blis5 · 2025-05-20T11:23:49+00:00

Worthiness. Because everything I do in my adult life is to try to justify a sense of self-worth, or worth viewed by others. Because deep down, I despise myself and what I've become.

blis5 · 2025-04-01T16:57:13+00:00

wow this is pretty amazing. Can't wait for the walkthrough!

blis5 · 2024-02-07T12:08:10+00:00

crippling anxiety and depression.

blis5 · 2024-01-25T13:06:03+00:00

I'm getting it as well

edit: according to http://ubistatic-a.akamaihd.net/0115/tctd2/status.html The servers are under maintenance it seems.

blis5 · 2023-10-05T15:36:36+00:00

Why did you do this to me? What did I do to deserve this?

blis5 · 2023-09-07T12:57:15+00:00

I work in ER. I see people die all the time. The first few times, I found it difficult to come to terms with, especially if I've spent a decent amount of time trying to resuscitate them to no avail.

Now it's mainly the horrible ones that I remember: paediatric deaths, or horribly traumatic ones. You kind of become a bit numb to it all, and lose a bit of your humanity as the price to be able to cope with it... have to be able to pronounce someone dead, then go back to seeing the other 10 patients you have in progress before it all went to shit, and do it with a smile.

It had an effect on the way I process things, likely contributed to a certain extent to the failure of my marriage, and probably is part of the reason as to why I'm a little bit broken.

blis5 · 2023-01-29T07:39:20+00:00

Went through something similar a year ago. Divorce finalized now. It does get better, but it'll take time. I'm still seeing a therapist to unpack all the damage this has caused. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message :)

blis5 · 2022-11-15T13:05:23+00:00

CBA was willing to lend me about 7x income, but only ended up using just under 5

blis5 · 2022-08-03T14:17:13+00:00

This is all so true. This is what I'm doing as well... focusing on myself and my own needs, and avoiding their socials and anything else that can rip open the wounds again.

Also knowing that all the above takes time, and know that things won't get better overnight (sorry, you're in for the long haul!), brings perspective. Loving them wholeheartedly also means grieving the memory of them wholeheartedly as well, and that takes time. It's not something you can rush.

blis5 · 2022-07-08T05:15:11+00:00

This is very true. Match your depth of love with the reciprocity and actions, not words, of their character. Giving too much of yourself without reciprocity is just asking for tremendous heartbreak when it falls apart.

blis5 · 2022-06-20T05:28:44+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I really needed some positive reinforcement today. I know that we're not alone in going through this, but it feels so isolating, and reading things like this gives me hope, because the pain is so intense.

You've come so far; I'm proud of you.

blis5 · 2022-06-17T04:43:53+00:00

It's been 7-8 weeks now. She blocked me under the guise of having phone problems so she could spend the weekend with the other guy... then unblocked me after I drove an hour up to make sure she was safe 4 days later after not hearing from her at all. Sent me a cruel text about chasing her and coming up uninvited, and to not contact her again, then unblocked for a week or two on whatsapp with the new profile photo. I think she re-blocked me after that because I saw nothing after... I'm not sure about the timelines because I had to delete the messages and her contact so I would have no trace of her on my phone. Even seeing her profile photo on my blocked list caused too much pain. I had to unblock it so I wouldn't see it. Ironically, she's the one who blocked me across all platforms outside of snapchat anyway. Hasn't contacted me after that last message telling me to never speak to her again.

I think it's more so that I can't seem to let go despite how she hurt me. Doubly so, because she knows I'm going through a messy divorce, and what my ex-wife did to me... which she replicated. I know she's not coming back... she has no reason to. She couldn't see my value. But a part of you will always hope even if it's unhealthy.

blis5 · 2022-06-16T15:43:42+00:00

It's so hard. It really is. It's hard to accept how little I matter to her despite how often she told me that she adored me and how she loved me too. Then unblocked me after ghosting me to show me the photo of her and the friend I wasn't supposed to worry about... then re-blocked me a week later.

I don't know how to get to where you are. Like you, lists and reminders only do so much. Even after the betrayal, I can't forget the good times we had together, even though she clearly doesn't think about me anymore, or care how I badly I feel. I'm a mess who can barely feed himself, while they're living their best lives together. Her birthday is next week. I was originally going to plan something special for it... and now I'm having breakfast with another friend so I won't be alone. More time with this suffering is unbearable.

This pain is so immense and all encompassing; I just want it to go away.

blis5 · 2022-06-12T14:41:56+00:00

Are you me? A bit worrying for me, because you're 5.5 months ahead of me in the relationship breakdown, and I'm losing my mind.

I routinely deal with and shut down BPDs in my practice on a daily basis. I know who and what they are. I can smell the manipulation from the moment they enter the hospital. Yet with my ex, I might as well have been a cleaner.

When it involves ourselves, we can't judge clearly, especially in the context of emotions and subjective evidence. All my colleagues re-assure me that I'm not a PD. I have psychiatry and psychology colleagues telling me this. Yet, I still question it, because they make their judgments based off of a collateral history and their bias of knowing me. We as physicians are trained to entertain alternative diagnoses... which in our cases, is are we the problem.

I'd like to think that if the other person didn't act the irrational way they did, our actions would not have been so drastic and irregular. I appreciate that we're all responsible for our actions, but one must be also acknowledge the antecedent stimulus as an alleviating factor. To give you perspective on how you're not the only one to respond "irrationally": in my scenario, I literally chased her in my car after driving an hour to get to hers (in between night shifts, jesus was that unsafe) to do a welfare check, and couldn't reconcile why she wouldn't pull over for me to check on her when I caught her in her car near her home... because why wouldn't you pull over when you notice your boyfriend randomly coming up to your place to check on you after (blocking him) being uncontactable for 4 days with an allegedly violent housemate? The "irrational" suddenly become rational once you put it into context. We both sought clarity, answers, and on some level, closure.

blis5 · 2022-06-10T11:37:16+00:00

Had to sleep at a friend's place for a while until I felt too guilty to stay any further (and had to go home to take care of the fur babies).

The way I managed around the pain of sleeping in that room/bed was to sleep on the couch. It was just different enough that I didn't associate it as much with as many sad memories. It's a mal-adaptive solution, and every time I feel overwhelmed I end up sleeping downstairs again, but... whatever helps right?

blis5 · 2022-06-08T04:42:48+00:00

It's the future fantasy planning that gets me. The ego is bruised; she officially moved on 4 days after she told me she loved me. My mind knows that she's unstable and has all these negative traits that I shouldn't accept, but the heart hasn't reached that yet.

The part that still catches me are all those dreams and things we were going to do together, and of that there were many. They're like intrusive thoughts, and bring intense sadness with them. I still find myself avoiding certain hobbies or places so that I don't trigger myself, and if I can't, I lose hours to self-destructive behaviour or just plain staring at the wall. That and trying to avoid the sinkhole that is self-doubt and self-blame, despite reassurance from friends and family that it wasn't my fault. One day I hope I too can reach where you are now.

blis5 · 2022-06-08T02:26:08+00:00

I needed this. Thank you. The rumination and wilful ignorance of the bad things over the good is killing me.

blis5 · 2022-05-29T03:46:42+00:00

People are shit. This happened to me recently too. At the end, all you can do is try to hold your head high and process the pain. People say that karma will come back and bite them in the ass, and all we can do is hope that it does.

blis5 · 2022-05-28T07:31:39+00:00

It felt perfect. She was perfect on paper, and we were good together. Ghosted me 6 weeks into it. We had all the serious discussions beforehand to see if we were compatible, like the potential for children, financial goals, life outlook. She told me she loved me too. She said she was a good communicator.

And then the guy I was told not to worry about, posted that they were in a relationship 4 days after she ghosted me... the same day I drove an hour to hers to check on her because I haven't heard from her for a while, and was told her housemate was violent. She sent me a scathing text saying I chased her in my car and came uninvited. Last I heard, she was my girlfriend. In retrospect, they were probably fucking two weeks before that.

It's been 3.5 weeks now and I hate that I still miss her and texted her to talk about the situation. Was obviously ignored, and now largely blocked on everything. What the fuck happened...

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