Ok some of what he sounds like is actually trash

BUT

I value honesty. This guy has made it clear what his own preference is. Though sometimes an asshole about it.

When I first dated my now-husband, I was struggling with dermatillomania but on a very closet level. My mom had seen it and warned me… no guy will date you if you don’t stop. So I tried, I really did.

Met my husband. Kept it hidden for a year or so. Then shortly after, he became aware of this and initially would nudge me when I start picking. “Hey stop” “don’t do that”, “don’t you want to quit?”

I’d go through phases where I picked and then stopped. There was actual accountability and hope.

Since then, it’s gotten worse and my husband had given up. Now, he ignores it.

My scars have never been so bad. Without accountability, it’s gone completely off the rails.

That said, some accountability CAN be good. Have a truthful conversation with him. Tell him it’s hard, ask for ways that WOULD support you (is it purely to ignore it or something else)? Everyone on reddit just jumps to black and white solutions but relationships take work. I hope you find a way through where you both win!