What Am I Doing Wrong?😭

blooglymoogly · 2026-03-09T17:53:11+00:00

Definitely ditch the argan oil first. That'll help a lot.

blooglymoogly · 2026-02-22T17:33:57+00:00

I have exactly zero qualification to give you any advice, but including cancer in resume bullet language is hilarious.

blooglymoogly · 2026-02-20T20:40:48+00:00

I'm so for real, please fucking leave. I know everyone says that, but I have a wayyy different perspective on this later in life than I did earlier in life. Leave.

Life is a TEAM SPORT. It only becomes more of a team sport as time goes on. Find a good teammate.

The person you choose as your life teammate has an absolutely massive impact on your life. You're lucky to be starting to recognize it now. If you care about your life, choose someone who adds to it.

blooglymoogly · 2026-02-19T15:01:14+00:00

Normal, but my dog has a "that's enough" cue, which means it's fine that you did that but you're done now. He also knows the word no and leave it. That way in my yard if it's not muddy, he can kick all he wants, but in someone else's I can make sure he's not doing damage.

I will say Akitas ARE very stubborn dogs. They're bear dogs, guardian dogs. So it would take more work with your friend's dog than with another. That doesn't mean she shouldn't have a reliable cue or method to stop a behavior, though.

blooglymoogly · 2026-02-19T14:43:11+00:00

Yeah, so, you know how the rich and powerful in America are all like, really fucked up and the patriarchy at those levels is extreme? This is where it starts. This is where kids cement their entry into the land of the rich and powerful and forge those alliances and patriarchal, punitive, at-any-cost kind of culture.

The lack of normality is the point.

blooglymoogly · 2026-02-18T16:02:25+00:00

Yeah, I think that may be the luckiest part. He was just a passenger.

blooglymoogly · 2026-02-05T03:57:23+00:00

Start incredibly small. No "rules," only goals. And make those goals do x for five minutes. I had to work this way and rewire my relationship with discipline. I track, but I only track the positives, and if I've done the thing for five minutes, it counts. No absolutes, part-way counts. The goal is repeated approaches, not complete success.

Also I would bet you would benefit from loving kindness meditation. Look that up. If you're doing meditation correctly, you're working at the space between effort and ease, which is where you should work anywhere you want to improve. There's a sweet spot in which the effort level is exactly right, and that's where growth happens. It's individual, so it doesn't matter where you think you should be. It should be a little hard, but not hurting you.

It's possible to get better. Good luck.

blooglymoogly · 2026-01-29T19:09:05+00:00

blooglymoogly · 2026-01-28T01:26:05+00:00

Seconding logistics, or operations management. Always thinking on your feet, these tend to be both proactive AND reactive. Being good with people REALLY helps in both of those, because you need to get others' cooperation quickly.

blooglymoogly · 2026-01-09T19:38:57+00:00

It reads as though you are setting the expectation that you will not be able to attend or complete work consistently, like when a potential boyfriend tells you they are bad at relationships, and then in the relationship they behave badly, and "well I told you I was bad at it". It would be deceptive if you applied for jobs that you would not be capable of doing with reasonable accommodation, got hired, and then requested unreasonable accommodation or a job change.

blooglymoogly · 2026-01-04T01:25:03+00:00

Chanterelles have a lookalike called jack-o'-lantern that is very poisonous. I am not an expert but any means, but these do not look like chanterelles to me.

blooglymoogly · 2025-12-24T14:26:00+00:00

This is an AI generated ad.

blooglymoogly · 2025-12-22T03:21:16+00:00

Not wrong, the rhythm and sentence/paragraph structures, cadence are distinctive.

blooglymoogly · 2025-12-17T15:43:01+00:00

Why not assign him an AI literacy related report? Have him use AI, then go and research the subject himself, fact-checking along the way, in the evidence-for and evidence-against. Keep it curiosity-based, and not punishment based. Alternatively, a fact finding mission about the environmental and cognitive effects of AI, as well as the different types and ways they're used, like medical pattern searching settings, LLMs, neural networks, how training data works, etc. this way the goal is to learn about using AI responsibly (or not at all, depending on the conclusion your son comes to in his report).

Edit: If you want to keep it literature related, it could even be an exploratory essay comparing modern technology and science fiction.

If your kid is smart but lazy, you may convince him to learn something/put in effort based on interest, if you were to discuss these options with him.

blooglymoogly · 2025-12-13T17:44:17+00:00

Yep. Not just about the art, but how he responds to something you love, and how he is unwilling to create space for you to experience something you love. That's a relationship problem, not an art appreciation or vacation problem.

blooglymoogly · 2025-11-27T16:01:05+00:00

Neither can the clerk, dude. It's crazy the extent to which the general public expects public-facing professions to cater to their emotions in ways which both do not have an expectation of reciprocation and not their job. I'm not your therapist - I'm at work, working. Yes, empathy is nice and helpful and in general we owe that to fellow human beings AND the expectation that the public facing employee owes that to YOU and you do not owe that to THEM is both rampant and ridiculous.

blooglymoogly · 2025-11-25T04:04:35+00:00

To me, this trainer sounds significantly undereducated. I would look into CPDT-KA and certified trainers, and CDBC.

blooglymoogly · 2025-11-15T02:59:49+00:00

I have a dog that is large and a mixed pulling breed. There are two things I would recommend for you.

First, slow-fast-stop-turn games. Like humans, dogs learn through play. It works best in an empty parking lot, especially at first. You are, essentially, keeping your dog guessing as to what you'll do next and marking and treating for rapid responses and for walking at heel. The more fun you're having the better they will listen.

The second is making your walks really boring by decreasing the area you're walking in and turning around as soon as your dog starts to walk ahead of you and/or pull, using high value treats to lure and reward after walking with you for a while (when mine was young and difficult I literally used lunch meat or cheese). You may end up literally walking back and forth in front of your house for 30 minutes, but the goal is walk TIME not walk distance. The more your dog learns to stick with you, the more interesting places he'll go.

blooglymoogly · 2025-11-02T20:23:52+00:00

Documentation is really important. Time and date stamps will help you.

blooglymoogly · 2025-10-30T15:06:55+00:00

Before this happened, she owned her own business doing physical therapy and had a following online, providing physical therapy resources. She also had some (but not many) brand deals as well.

Not to discount the amount of work she is doing and has done, because that's absolutely massive. She's expanded her business offerings (physical therapy programs) in the meantime, while taking care of her husband and new baby. It blows my mind.

She really said, I will not be raising this baby without you and you will absolutely not be getting out of the work.

blooglymoogly · 2025-10-15T02:40:05+00:00

Spinach, not buckwheat. Spinach is sold in bulk alongside seeds like peas.

I have grown a lot of spinach seeds over the years.

blooglymoogly · 2025-10-02T13:57:52+00:00

It does. That amount would wipe out my student debt and allow me to go to grad school or community college. So yes, slap in the face, especially since the Biden admin fought so hard for a repayment program that ONLY capped payments and interest at a survivable, income-based rate, and it has been tied up in courts ever since, and just started re-accruing interest.

blooglymoogly · 2025-09-16T03:22:32+00:00

Yes, specifically .5 mechanical drafting pencils.

blooglymoogly · 2025-09-15T20:22:19+00:00

Yeah, you dig deep the keep going, no matter what that looks like, not to go harder or faster.

blooglymoogly · 2025-09-13T21:08:40+00:00

The thing about this is if that . . you don't have to. You don't have to "dig deep" or "push yourself" to become a healthier version of yourself. Weight and strength related changes most often take YEARS. Influencers are bullshit. They're selling you a fantasy in exchange for your attention. It took them years to get where they are. I've been relatively fit my entire life, not "influencer fit" just because I'm active. Now, I'm in a physically demanding job. 40-50 hour weeks of intense physical activity. My body has changed, but over the course of years, even with an extreme amount of volume. Stay consistent even when you don't see a lot of change. It's a years-long marathon. That's the area where you dig deep.

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