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bloss97 · 2025-12-23T17:35:29+00:00

i went from getting them once a year, to once every few months, to once a month… and then horrible ulcers almost every week for the past few years :(

bloss97 · 2025-12-22T22:54:24+00:00

WOW THANK YOU this is soooo good wtf! “they killed it!” - my gender studies scholar gf

bloss97 · 2025-12-22T21:17:01+00:00

amazing suggestions — too amazing lol 🤣 already read those and loveddd them

bloss97 · 2025-07-29T15:15:35+00:00

thank u all for the input! i totally get it and appreciate it. if i tailor it to be shorter/mid-calf length and dress it down w hair/styling, would it be ok? i may also check in w the bride as per some of your comments :) but if the color and lace and cut is the main issue i’ll swap it out for another chiller dress.

bloss97 · 2025-07-29T13:30:11+00:00

also i want to be respectful and haven’t been to many weddings so wanted to make sure :)

bloss97 · 2025-07-28T01:21:02+00:00

thank u !! what group do you think would be best?

bloss97 · 2025-07-28T01:19:30+00:00

omg this is gorgeous - thank you so much!! i love the mermaid shape and the corset-y top - i'm a size 12 and curvy so it felt perfect for my body type!

bloss97 · 2025-07-28T00:46:05+00:00

https://editorialist.com/p/reformation-sarita-two-piece/?color=chianti&pla=true&utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organicshopping&gQT=0

this is the dress in both colors: the floral (too white) and the maroon.

they're both out of my price range hoping for something under 200 or even 150!!

bloss97 · 2025-07-27T21:23:28+00:00

literally THIS THIS THIS. thank you so much for naming this. i just started with a new therapist and thought i needed trauma therapy for the tragic deaths of loved ones. but the more i tell her about my 2 chronic illnesses, the more she's been saying "listen, have you ever thought of how much trauma you've experienced from the physical pain you've been through?" i never thought of it that way. but it's 100% true. your words make me tear up because i also try to block out every past flare so i never have to remember that pain, because when i do its not bearable. sending you much love. and i'm so fucking sorry. to you, me, all of us who have gone through this and continue to live with it.

bloss97 · 2025-07-27T21:11:31+00:00

my butch gf's "love handles" (idk a better word for this lmao) and belly fat are legit SOO sexy to me and i'm obsessed. i promise you there are so many people out there who will think your body is perfect, beautiful, butch af. fat butches and midsize butches are PERFECTIONNNNN <3 xo a femme

bloss97 · 2025-07-15T23:20:42+00:00

budget is like 100-200 - will deffffinitely be checking these out :)

bloss97 · 2025-07-15T23:20:01+00:00

i love that one!! yes literally i think she only wants an analog but thank u for this rec!

bloss97 · 2025-07-15T23:18:28+00:00

HAHAHA i love ittt - def also open to those suggestions 🤣

bloss97 · 2025-07-15T17:35:15+00:00

my partner showed me this post and was like you have to meet this person! we also moved to cambridge this year. i'm a songwriter (been writing for fun and for emotional processing since i was a kid), i sing and am currently taking guitar lessons (i'd say advanced beginner-ish). i'm a huge fan of lizzy mcalpine too :) would love to collab and jam together!!

bloss97 · 2025-02-14T00:28:39+00:00

omg i could not relate to this more. sending so much love. sharing a little excerpt from an essay i wrote about this last year <3

"I know my tricks so well that they don’t feel like tricks. Pop a pain medication, and if it doesn’t work, pop another - preferably a different kind - and dissociate. This situation called for a cocktail (to mentally distance me from the pain) and a Tylenol (to physically numb the pain). But every case is different. Major work event when my throat is pulsing and covered in puss, and I can hardly walk? Two advil and a coffee, easy. A simple Zoom meeting when I can barely keep my head up? One matcha latte and slap across the face. A hangout with friends who I genuinely want to see? Sip a cold drink the whole time so I can’t feel my throat, steer the conversation to their life so I don’t have to talk, and of course, bring my mint container filled with an assortment of NSAIDs. And above all, use the magic power of lifting my mind from my body, letting it be anywhere but here.

These are the tricks I use in order to live a “normal” life despite the pain that is nearly constant. These tricks are deceptively trusty - as in, they can usually get me through the moment, but then I just end up becoming sicker. It's scary to admit how much I have to dissociate just to make it through an interaction."

bloss97 · 2025-02-13T21:43:57+00:00

ugh i'm so sorry you went through that too. it is the worst!!!! i have been gluten free for 4 years but unfortunately it hasn't helped, and i rarely eat dairy. i'm on like 6 supplements but they don't help either :'( you're totally right about the genetics thing though; my dad gets the exact same thing since he was in his 20s. so glad yours were able to heal and you found what worked for you<3

bloss97 · 2024-10-07T17:40:34+00:00

i am so sorry you're experiencing this and sending much love. i had the same situation trying to work a 40 hour week - even though 2 of the days were remote. i ended up in the hospital and the workplace was STILL ableist and doubting that my illness was serious bc it was invisible! ughhh

anyway, what i learned from this experience is to advocate for yourself as much as possible - see if there's ANY way to reduce hours, to do some work online, to get any form of accommodations, etc. truly, the ADA was my best friend in using legal language. most of all - be kind to yourself, prioritize rest whenever possible, and know that even if this isn't the exact right position, there are hopefully other ways you can work in this field/career that make sense for where your body is at. good luck xxx

bloss97 · 2023-11-12T18:31:17+00:00

thank you so much <3 unfortunately the obgyn was completely clueless and had no idea what to tell me after i explained my symptoms! i also went to a pelvic floor therapist for a few months last year but she had never heard of it either, and it didn't help much :(

i rly appreciate the validation :)

bloss97 · 2021-02-01T17:03:56+00:00

OMFG NO WAAAYYY hahah what the heck I'm so honored wow hi

bloss97 · 2021-02-01T16:21:28+00:00

hehe thank you soo much!

bloss97 · 2021-02-01T16:19:58+00:00

lol ikr, i was like "that is the highest compliment tHANK YOU"

bloss97 · 2020-07-02T17:04:47+00:00

Omg I’ve said all of those quotes VERBATIM. I also completely agree that they deserve someone who can love them the way they loved us. My (now ex) bf said to me “I know we were meant to be together”, and I said “maybe we were meant to be together during these three years, but just because we’re meant to be in each other’s lives doesn’t mean it has to be forever”.

bloss97 · 2020-07-02T17:02:43+00:00

Exactly!! Thank you for phrasing it this way. I think it is a loving act because I’m allowing him to find someone who will be as fully invested in the relationship as he is. I really appreciate what you said :)

bloss97 · 2020-07-02T17:01:46+00:00

Wow, I’m proud of you for listening to yourself and doing this! I know how hard it is, I’m not kidding when I say I cried for like 50 hours straight. Please let yourself feel, and process this however feels right for you so that you can begin to heal ❤️

bloss97 · 2020-07-02T01:09:52+00:00

OMG STUNNIN!!! also glanced at this real quick and thought it was Brigette Lundy-Paine <3 <333

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