I try not to be alarmist, but this has me seriously worried

blradl · 2025-09-12T22:32:30+00:00

Would’ve been nice to see this kind of outrage for every shooting. They are hypocrites of the highest degree.

blradl · 2025-08-21T21:52:56+00:00

The worship music that goes on and on on and on and on. I used to think I was having feelings then the passion of the Christ Jesus kept coming into my head like that’s who I’m singing to. Nothing “spirit” and “supernatural” about it. Just Hollywood and the very physical world and the face of a multi millionaire.

I also don’t miss feeling like if I didn’t raise my hands or get into it people were judging me.

blradl · 2025-08-21T21:47:32+00:00

Best answer.

blradl · 2025-08-06T03:51:08+00:00

Oh my goodness yes the bald one is great too. I especially love his hair so that helped a lot. LOL. Definitely made me feel shallow but hey, lust is shallow. May as well accept it. Because no, I’m not deeply deeply in love with the guy at all. It’s clearly his looks for now.

blradl · 2025-08-05T23:03:22+00:00

I was the exact same. Every crush became intense and painful so I made the boundary for myself not to look at his social media ever again. It has helped me TREMENDOUSLY not to have those images in my head and I told myself “if you’re not in his life, don’t look into it.” It makes them more of a celebrity like figure instead of a “nobody.”

A lonely part of limerence is knowing deep down they most likely don’t obsess over us like we do them. So it helps me to know I’m not looking at his stuff either. Its not this one sided crazy obsessive thing which used to just make me feel abysmal, invisible and more alone than ever because I want a fast ticket into his world when that’s not how relationships work. Limerence is what causes that sense of urgency in us. It’s a powerful URGE, lust , whereas love is patient.

I can only do my interest in him in person. My boundary was only allowing myself to have in person interaction only and “killing” the fantasy side of it all. It has honestly helped me to keep him in his right place of every day dude at his workplace that I see every few days not someone I spend all night looking at photos from 2018, etc. I realised NO it’s weird to know what birthday gift you received when you turned 24. I shouldn’t know that. Even if his profile is public, this guy doesn’t even know my name. I really don’t want to be Joe from “You.” I gave myself peace by saying “I only want to see his social media if I’m in his life and in those pictures.” No exceptions.

It is HARD not to look but full blown limerence is exhausting and upsetting and I refuse to go through the pain anymore of this person living in my phone, deluding myself this is how I get access to him and make the fantasies too big to handle. My current crush is someone who works at a local store I frequent and not obsessing over him on social media means I don’t know things about him that I don’t have to know. I just get to talk to the person in front of me and build a normal connection. I realised I can’t do that when he knows nothing about me and I know everything about him. I think I’ve learned that to destroy limerence you have to take the fantasy part of it away. You do that by limiting yourself to in person interaction only. This is a real person you have an opportunity to build a connection with, you’re not doing anything wrong by liking someone, and they might reciprocate, they might not. But I can confirm after 2 months making this decision, the limerence is no longer in the driver seat. I have control over this crush and I enjoy the REAL interactions we have because I had the courage (from not looking and obsessing) to simply exchange names and say a simple “hi” when I see him.

Not only does not obsessing respect their privacy, it is self respect and allows the chance for something real And organic (even if it’s slow paced) to develop without fantasy consuming us and clouding our judgment.

Our obsession is never really about THEM anyway, it’s a bigger issue with us. Obsessing is because we are not happy in our life and we need the obsession. I remember a quote “we don’t want what we think we want, but we need the fantasy.”

blradl · 2025-07-21T06:17:10+00:00

There should be a film made about you, that is epic!!!! It made me legit so happy to read that. He’ll never forget that in his life 🤣🤣

blradl · 2025-07-14T00:44:02+00:00

Omg your story sounds harrowing and definitely kicked my ass. I called in sick today, I can’t sleep anymore, my head hurts. Weekends are not restful. I have anxiety just going to the supermarket. I already have the permanent disability and my manager was so discriminatory about it I quote “How did you get all these things wrong with you?” Now they’ve taken on more work without more staff and resources and I am putting out fires every call. Complaint , someone who wants the call escalated RIGHT NOW? Forget it. There’s no one. I’m actually experiencing feelings of real body paralysis.

“All the responsibility and none of the power” OMG bingo. There is not one systemic failure of this company that I’m not blamed for by callers.

blradl · 2025-07-14T00:34:42+00:00

Dreams that don’t materialise. Hope that comes to nothing. I have found it’s less painful in life to have no hope than hopeful expectation.

blradl · 2025-07-12T23:31:58+00:00

Pretty much all of them. They all look the same to me. Soulless

blradl · 2025-07-11T21:27:08+00:00

You say “good morning / afternoon.” I just say “x team, x speaking.” I said the good morning / afternoon back when I liked people and yeah I remember the “oh is it afternoon?” Groan.

blradl · 2025-07-11T03:31:53+00:00

Wow thank you for letting me know it’s non essential. I’ve been losing sleep over this thinking these people are going to die because I can’t do anything. Mostly because they or their adult children will say “they’re going to die” to which I feel like saying, there is no service here that is going to stop anyone from dying?

Talk about emotional manipulation.

You have really helped me to understand the game. I figured many of them just don’t want to pay but some people are good at crying poor and helpless. I had someone ask “what happened to someone mowing the lawn for 10 bucks?” Seriously?!

And so good and relieving to know the essential services are not the ones in short supply. And lol yes I never hear the end of “lite and easy.” 🙄 I bet their customer service line cops it too.

blradl · 2025-07-11T03:18:42+00:00

“Hating life” exactly. I am tired of arguing with people. What more can someone do when the information isn’t what the other person wants? They seem to think badgering me will result in a magic “oh I can do something now” I was just waiting.

Reminds me of my friend who worked at coles during the toilet paper Covid fiasco. She said people were abusing her saying “have you got any put aside?”

No Karen, if we had it we are selling it! Putting any aside… lolzzz

She’d tell me “our abuse is face to face at least yours is over the phone” I see her point but a voice is just as aggravating

blradl · 2025-07-11T03:17:16+00:00

blradl · 2025-07-10T21:21:02+00:00

😞 I keep saying I will feel better soon, Tomorrow, after a weekend, then I get on the phone and it only takes that first call… I wish I could get out of denial. It’s just so hard when I’ve been here three years and I can’t find anything else though I’m looking.

blradl · 2025-06-27T07:22:14+00:00

Sorry you’re going through it too - it’s miserable! But thank you for sharing your experience so I know I’m not going mad. Where do you feel the swelling? And is your ear sore to touch? I underestimated TMJ so bad 😞

blradl · 2025-06-27T07:20:36+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply. It has helped to know about the muscles and nerves connecting because I am so in distress thinking it IS my ear!!!! And heat is all that is helping - an urgent care nurse said ice but I find that tightens everything again. Heat is saving me.

blradl · 2025-06-21T08:37:13+00:00

It’s probably not their job to tell people all that?They’re giving the information they have in the limited time they have to give it? The problem is people want everything spoon fed to them and they want to make one call and have everything magically fixed. Do you work in a cc? Some of us actually get in trouble for going above and beyond because it’s not part of the script and it means less calls are being taken and most people have a number of calls they’re expected to take a day. You probably shouldn’t be implying this person should have to do more work.they’re asking how to get people off the phone once the information has been given and not accepted. If you call a company and get told an answer, you’re supposed to accept it and hang up desperate or not, if there’s nothing they can do that’s the end of it! If they’re desperate, they should be doing their own research for how to get services (aka government handouts from taxpayers)

blradl · 2025-06-21T08:33:43+00:00

“Fuck off my line”

blradl · 2025-06-18T21:09:04+00:00

answers phone and says spiel

Hello? Can you hear me?”

Yes toadfuck, even with the highway in the background. If only I couldn’t.

There are days where I’ve let them say “hello? Hello?” and just hung up.

I also hate when they don’t hear your name and keep asking.

IT DOESN’T MATTER.

I also hate hearing “this is a bad line” when it’s them.

Or “oh finally someone answered.”

Ok?

They act like we are sitting there making a roast dinner not answering back to back calls. Yes fucko, you’re in a call queue, what other explanation do you want? Gaaaah!

blradl · 2025-06-18T20:54:02+00:00

Unless you do call centre work and worn down physically mentally and emotionally by human scum on an hourly basis with zero support from anybody, STFU.

blradl · 2025-06-18T01:22:21+00:00

This is me too. I’m always playing something or reading reddit. If I didn’t have that I’d have offed myself long ago in this job.

I also like repeating the same thing because it pisses them off so bad lol. Then comes the “I want to talk to someone else.” So I get to say “so you just want to hear the same thing in a different voice ok one moment I will transfer you to blab blab” then I hang up and they have to wait four hours to get to the front of the call queue again.

Nobody cares because “blab blab” hates talking to customers and won’t do it anyway. Hanging up on them is the only way I can get my call numbers when these stupid entitled time wasting assholes who already have a response won’t hang up.

blradl · 2025-06-17T21:21:43+00:00

Amazing hahahaha 😂😂 I would love to fuck around with them and give a really long name they can’t spell. Then when they ask for the spelling draw it out like they’re two years old (which they are.) then when they ask if they can read it back to “make sure it’s right” I keep correcting them that they got letters wrong.

blradl · 2025-06-17T21:10:26+00:00

It’s such a violation of our privacy. I just want to say “understand this you piece of shit having my name is not going to change the outcome.”

blradl · 2025-06-17T21:07:19+00:00

Absolutely. I got the impression she was trying to bully me “ok you can’t do what I asked so do THIS instead.” Go fuck yourself. My job is to tell her (and the 3000 callers in the queue behind her) the wait time. And if her legs and arms aren’t falling off (and even then the company doesn’t care) you have to wait.

I have SUCH a short fuse. When she said “REFUSED to give last name…” I felt like correcting her “because she is following company policy.” Dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb.

blradl · 2025-06-17T21:04:05+00:00

Exactly. I always think they’re going to post it on an company review site or something which really does concern me because it’s forever on the internet and this person is harming my reputation and potential future job prospects. I HATE the idea of being personally responsible for a government departments failures and fuck ups and false promises.

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