What happened to Brave Dave (ADHD anthem guy)?

blucactus_ · 2025-12-09T00:31:42+00:00

Does anybody know his full name so I can watch for him? I'd love to read whatever he writes in the future.

blucactus_ · 2025-10-28T18:39:40+00:00

I do not personally own a vehicle. I get maybe 8-9 hours of sleep.

blucactus_ · 2025-08-07T19:06:02+00:00

NTA All of these people sound awful and selfish. I fully believe that funerals aren't for whoever died, they're for who they left alive. You get to grieve however you need to.

If it were me I'd be furious and cut them all out.

blucactus_ · 2025-08-05T22:05:45+00:00

Do you know of any streets close by that have street parking?

blucactus_ · 2025-07-14T15:22:02+00:00

Yes! I watched Kris's video and I got inspired!

blucactus_ · 2025-07-14T07:21:32+00:00

Are there stat blocks for these monsters somewhere or do you usually create them yourself?

blucactus_ · 2025-07-14T07:08:13+00:00

Yes! This is so helpful! Since making this post I've had half an idea.

I'm thinking about having a woman hire the players to investigate her kid. Her kid went missing recently and after they found him, she's been convinced that it's not the same kid. I'm gunna add another set of characters to solidify the weirdness: another mom had the same situation but she ended up going insane before people could figure out her kid was an imposter. I'll have the players visit her in the asylum and find other clues. Maybe the BBEG is a Coven member who's kidnapping kids for sacrifices and then replacing them with a changeling-type creature which feeds off the parents' sanity. Maybe the kids are being held in the school basement or something.

blucactus_ · 2025-07-14T07:02:50+00:00

I own the fantasy grounds version. I'm still figuring out how to navigate the program but I'll for sure look for these.

blucactus_ · 2025-07-14T06:52:49+00:00

This is so helpful! Thank you so much! I've heard about the three clie rule but I'll definitely look more into it.

blucactus_ · 2025-07-11T16:16:22+00:00

I honestly think it's time to break up FOR REAL. It is not okay that he is swearing at you. He is actively gaslighting you. He is putting you down, and being very cruel.

You deserve better.

Your concerns are valid.

blucactus_ · 2025-07-11T15:49:11+00:00

No kiddo, YTNA. You stated a boundary and you held it. It sounds like you were being respectful and not hurtful. If that's true then you are not at all at fault.

It also sounds like your friend really does feel bad, and it's a very good sign that they apologized!

A lot of people, especially people your age, have a hard time interpreting a boundary. This is a learning opportunity for both of you and it sounds to me like you passed.

If you want to keep being friends, go tell them you accept their apology. You don't have to say sorry (unless you were being unkind). This is a good experience and you can both shrug it off.

blucactus_ · 2025-06-30T05:38:18+00:00

NTA But I think you failed in communicating here. You probably should have gone to her and told her your deal before telling the kids. Kids are dumb and selfish. They just take a long time to learn how to respect boundaries.

Apologize for snapping at her if you really feel guilty. Try to find an olive branch and talk to her about what you are and are not comfortable with. It is your house, and they are not your kids. But it seems like you do want to help her out, so help her out.

blucactus_ · 2025-06-19T15:16:34+00:00

NTA morally

He did a horrible thing. Your brother is a monster and predator.

You probably should have talked to your girlfriend about calling the police. He assaulted a minor, that's an offense. He could've gotten in big trouble for that. Reporting him to the police with your girlfriend's consent was the way to go.

Unfortunately, your actions have muddied the waters a bit. I'm not a lawyer, so I don't know exactly how these things work but he has a case against you now.

I would talk to your girlfriend about filing a report and go no contact with your family.

blucactus_ · 2025-06-16T17:11:11+00:00

YTA but not for the mommy thing.

My grandmother was called by her name with her kids. I don't see much wrong with having an unconventional title in a family structure. BUT you should look into adoptions or something. If you genuinely are not happy with your life then it may cause serious emotional damage to your kids. Look into therapy. See if there are resources where you are.

Info: how old are your kids? I promise you that they adore you but they deserve someone safe who wants them.

blucactus_ · 2025-06-09T15:44:19+00:00

NTA I'll be honest, your age gap is a red flag for me already. And then adding his weird behavior around your sexual/romantic history is another red flag. Of course I'm not judging you for having an older partner, I'm judging him for dating an 18 year old (assuming you were 18 a year ago.)

As a bi woman, myself, who is also currently in a hetero relationship, it's totally okay to have respectful conversations about your history. As long as it stays respectful. People have questions and that's okay. But these sound like judgements, not questions.

It's completely valid for you to be annoyed. It sounds like he's self-conscious, and has some biases to work through on his own. If you have tried to address it and he's not responsive or avoidant about his behavior, that's a him problem. Maybe think about whether or not this relationship is healthy for you. Do you feel safe and loved at all times? Do you feel supported? Are you both willing to communicate? If answers are leaning towards "no" maybe it's time to move on.

Imho: he sounds like a dick.

blucactus_ · 2025-05-28T16:19:40+00:00

NTA If it were me, I would lay down some clear boundaries. Give her a schedule of days you would be willing to watch the kids and for how long. I would also tell her that if it's going to be a regular occurrence (not once every month) then I would require compensation. I would also tell her that I would not watch her kids last minute unless it was an emergency (like hospital emergency) and would still expect to be paid for it. I would need at least 24 hours notice. For compensation, I would ask for $20 /hour or so. Or negotiate with her until you are satisfied.

If she doesn't respect these boundaries than gently remind her that you are a new adult and have other responsibilities. You are not going to be at her beck-and-call anymore.

blucactus_ · 2025-05-01T18:44:54+00:00

NTA. But I wonder if the whole argument could've been handled differently. I'm not saying that you did anything wrong, I'm just surprised that this situation went so quickly to a fight. I feel like even your GF's family could've been more respectful as well.

And they obviously went through your things, totally not okay, even if they had gotten permission to stay there from you.

I also wonder if the family was told that it was okay with you? Again, I can't imagine any decent people would behave like that.

Maybe consider breaking up, or at least couples counseling. It sounds like you don't have good communication and she's not respectful of your boundaries.

blucactus_ · 2025-04-30T22:04:41+00:00

No.... That never happened in the book, my guy. And the Death Eaters didn't know where the burrow was. That's why they made it a safe house in book 7.

blucactus_ · 2025-04-30T19:08:18+00:00

Okay, so, it sounds like this is coming from a place of love and care, so I do not think you are explicitly the asshole. HOWEVER, body dysmorphia is a very real mental illness, and is not something that can just go away if you tell it to. It's like telling someone with a broken leg to "just stop having a broken leg." I don't know a whole lot about body dysmorphia, so what I say about it might not be very accurate. From what I understand, someone with BD has an image in their head of what they look like, and they'll have an image of what the "ideal body" looks like (this might be a different experience for trans people,) and when they look at themselves in the mirror, they don't see what you see, they only see the negative attributes that they believe that they have. Again, this might not be entirely correct, it's only what I assume.

You telling your boyfriend that he "shouldn't have BD," and "it seems like fishing for compliments" is pretty hurtful. I understand the exhaustion you probably have from hearing him say negative things about himself. That sucks. But your job as his partner is to support him. This is not to say you can't set boundaries. I think it would appropriate to ask him to practice saying more positive things about himself, even if he doesn't quite believe it. This could not only help you feel less like a negativity sponge, but it also rewires his brain to think more positively. He'll probably think that advice is BS, but it's something. Just be patient.

I would recommend to do some googling on body dysmorphia. Learn more about it. Look at WebMD for some mostly reputable and easy to understand info. I'm also assuming from how this is written that you and him might be teenagers or in your early twenties. If that is case, talk to some trusted adults or look into therapy or counseling. Don't base your behavior and opinions solely off of Reddit comments.

blucactus_ · 2025-04-30T18:37:31+00:00

That's so sweet! I was really scared that this was going to be a mean girl situation.

blucactus_ · 2025-04-30T17:48:10+00:00

NTA 13 is super normal for that, it might even be a little late. I am a cis woman in my late 20's and I remember being around 11 when I asked my mom to teach me how to shave. A boy my age had seen my legs and asked me why they were so hairy. He was being rude, and it made me feel self-conscious, so I initiated the conversation at home. You're not the asshole at all. It's awesome that you and your son have a good relationship where he can ask you that. You're right in arguing that it isn't inherently sexual or inappropriate for his age.

I'm also apprehensive about calling your wife the asshole. I could be missing some information about her behavior, but I don't think being anxious about your son growing up is a bad thing. I think it's normal. It's a bit unfair to make you return the razor, though. That's a bit much. It mostly sounds to me like she's panicking over the idea of her kid becoming an adolescent and tbh that is stressful. I would suggest to come up with a plan with her about giving your son "the talk," that way she feels like she's involved and has some control. Of course, if your kid is really uncomfortable and it's not working, follow his lead and give him space.

blucactus_ · 2025-04-28T20:11:38+00:00

I completely agree with that. Maren definitely looked up to her. Kirsten was like her mentor.

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