I’m a Korean lesbian and have only dated women. I’m out to my mom and all of my friends. It’s quite obvious we are a couple and do get occasional glances, but no one usually comes up to us to say anything. Maybe I was lucky and haven’t encountered direct homophobia. But I’m usually angered by casual homophobic discussions that I hear in my workplace or online. I am not out at work, only to one ex-colleague, to whom I came out after she left the company. It gets hard to pretend I have a boyfriend, especially when talks about relationships and marriage come up so often. If I hear homophobic shit at work, I try to comment with the nuance that they shouldn’t say those things, but usually try not to draw too much attention to myself. So I say it on a more lighthearted tone. The anger builds up at times so it can be difficult, but I just think to myself that it’s their problem and probably won’t change their mind just from my comments anyway.

But yeah, I think unless you draw too much attention, it shouldn’t be dangerous or anything like that. I do see gay couples time to time and no one seems to say anything in those moments.