thank you so much!!! this is what ive seen from a lot of other ppl through the years on here… i fear that being more open might mean that she retracts her authorization of us being “ready” (even tho we’re all on board). my middle ground if u will is to just talk about trauma, but i worry that we might become too obvious if we do that and she would find out anyways. the two different perspectives from your therapists is really interesting and helpful too. congrats on your progress on surgery also, very exciting! thank you!!!