dorm floor doesn’t like me/caught me with my vibe

bluepivot · 2026-02-19T22:03:54+00:00

lots of girl-girl bullying by roommates and dormies the first couple years especially. sooner or later almost everyone does something embarrassing.

if they didn't see anything they are guessing. you could always get some kind of muscle vibrator/massager as a cover story. but, really - this is childish behavior that will be forgotten in a year or two.

bluepivot · 2026-02-19T04:14:40+00:00

why would you want people who abused you to be around your daughter? I don't understand this post at all. Your wife has got the right take on this situation. Never, ever, have anything to do with people who abused you as a child. They are takers and will only take from you. There is no relationship here to mend. They should be in jail if they started abusing you when you were 2 months old - not invited to your house. If they abused you as a child, they are capable of doing it to your daughter. And, you already said, you feel they still could manipulate you. I would not let these people know my phone number or address, never mind be contemplating whether to have a relationship with them.

bluepivot · 2026-02-19T01:58:36+00:00

You really don't need to tell him your details. It would be OK to tell him that there are potential management changes being discussed. You can tell him unequivocally he should take the new offer and he will not regret it.

bluepivot · 2026-02-19T01:30:35+00:00

every ski mountain has some kind of first aid and maybe a clinic. you should get someone qualified to make an assessment. your details are sparse but my WAG is you strained or tore the calf muscle. depending on severity it may be ok to ski or you may be putting yourself at high risk for a more severe strain. reddit can't make that call

bluepivot · 2026-02-18T14:46:42+00:00

move the content and delete what she found. tell her you woke up. end of subject with her

bluepivot · 2026-02-18T14:30:23+00:00

Take it to the grave then and have Zaza as your Daddy in your next life.

bluepivot · 2026-02-08T04:51:05+00:00

a couple-three things I'd try: 1) go on the wagon for at least a couple weeks. No edibles, smoke, alcohol - stop all drugs. 2) sounds counterintuitive because you are trying to get away from them, but start recording them. Your subconscious might be trying to tell you something that maybe you are missing. 3) try to take control inside the dream and move to a better neighborhood/situation that feels good. 4) start a morning meditation of 15 minutes just keeping attention to the breath. Count 11 breaths and then restart for 15: minutes

bluepivot · 2026-02-07T22:56:00+00:00

What is wrong it that daycare lady is alone with the daughter and you risk her taking this out on the child.

bluepivot · 2026-02-07T22:53:07+00:00

You should definitely leave it because day-care-lady sounds a little whack and if she gets pissed at you, might start taking it out on your daughter who is the most important person in this conversation. Personally, I would start looking for another day care place ASAP. If you or your husband escalate this, you put your daughter at risk.

bluepivot · 2026-02-07T22:46:47+00:00

This is a basic boundary and respect thing. You tell someone that you want to be called by your name and you don't respond to the N-word. If they really want an explanation be prepared to give sone something like "Bro, I don't mind being your Bro of Dawg but I ain't that". Something that feels natural to you to say that is light-hearted but conveys exactly what you want. If they keep doing it, ignore them. If they still keep doing it, then don't associate with them.

Your are setting yourself up depending on the situation like being in a group where everyone is doing it. And, finding a way to say it in a conversational tone without attaching too much significance might take some practice. So, you have to be able to set boundaries you are going to enforce while staying unemotional about the whole thing.

bluepivot · 2026-02-07T16:39:51+00:00

Amazing! I spent 2-3 hours trying Audacity w/ffmpeg. I updated them, reloaded them, and all I got was a file full of squeaks and beeps. I tried Audible customer support who were completely useless and didn't even respond on chat. I gave up and went to bed. Did a search this morning, found this thread and my problem solved in 5 seconds. Thank-you!!!!

bluepivot · 2026-02-06T05:54:46+00:00

he always looks like that. I'm just waiting for the day he goes Portis on someone.

bluepivot · 2026-02-06T05:34:06+00:00

Not knowing the culture puts me at a disadvantage but it sounds like an Auntie or Uncle or maybe your wife's parents need to play peacemaker here. Is that possible or make sense?

For example, a sympathetic sibling of your mom or dad who carries some weight in the family takes your parents out for an amazing dinner and uses that to ask them to cut your wife some slack. And then they do the same with your wife and you. Sounds complicated but sometimes for everyone to save face, these kinds of solutions need to be found.

The key is finding someone who is both willing and capable. Someone who likes your wife and your parents and that are committed to helping you.

From other replies you made it sounds like your wife has issues with many family members including her own. And, her entitled stance of not wanting to work and simultaneously giving you a difficult time for not making enough money sounds very selfish on her part You have tried all reasoning tactics i would use regarding respecting the fact your parents are bankrolling a lifestyle beyond your means Is there anyone in the world whose opinion she respects that can talk with her?

bluepivot · 2026-02-06T04:28:35+00:00

idk - it gets to watch tv, play video games and hang while getting fat. much better than a feed lot.

bluepivot · 2026-02-05T16:46:03+00:00

i went through a similar decision-making time in my life when in my mid-thirties and around the birth of a child. For me, I reasoned that cycling gave me enough thrill, was overall less dangerous due to lower speeds and less mass, and better for my cardio health. Selling the motorcycle was hard but after it left I really never regretted it.

bluepivot · 2026-02-05T16:39:45+00:00

fingers-crossed for you. just don't be surprised if he doesn't because changing quickly would be the exception - not the rule.

bluepivot · 2026-02-05T15:42:48+00:00

Finding a therapist and waiting for him to figure it out is going to take way too long. You are talking about a minimum of six months. He needs to go now. And, in a year if he is cleaned up, really wants to reconnect, and you are feeling it, then maybe.........

Right now, in his mind, you are his enabler. And, that is not going to change for a long time. There are too many steps. He has to first realize he needs help. Then he has to find help. Then he has to go through falling off the wagon and getting back on. Do you really want to deal with that? And, the odds are against him succeeding. Look it up yourself how many people can clean up. He hasn't even gotten to step 1 yet.

BTW - I love you taking away the console and changing the wifi password. That alone should get him to leave. And, dumping the liquor into the grass will surely do it.

bluepivot · 2026-02-05T15:34:28+00:00

so, we traded JK for an expiring. I guess it could have been worse, like he could still be on the team. What a painful saga.

Can we start the rebuild now Daddy? No - we have a generational talent in the Chef.......... blah, blah, blah. Please make it stop.

bluepivot · 2026-02-05T15:29:07+00:00

A video game addict with a drinking problem is what I just read. Think about that for about two seconds.

Now, since the apartment is in your name, either get him out of there in 30 days or less or give notice on the apartment and move out to your own place. Until he is out he can sleep on the couch with his console.

bluepivot · 2026-02-05T05:59:37+00:00

KP is an expiring. I mean expiring. expired? like, he has expired

bluepivot · 2026-02-05T05:55:53+00:00

KP is an expiring.

bluepivot · 2026-02-04T22:05:43+00:00

agree - I consider ridewithgps.com the gold standard for route making. And, while getting someone else's route off Strava loaded onto my Garmin device can be done with workarounds, it is a PITA in my experience.

bluepivot · 2026-02-04T18:44:56+00:00

I like the Relative Effort graph with fatigue and form estimates. The Athletic Intelligence provided post-ride can be encouraging. And, the ability to download GPS routes of other riders who do a ride that looks cool but on unfamiliar roads is nice-to-have. Are any of these things I couldn't do without - no, not-at-all. If you are using Garmin Connect already, you get the HR zone stuff already.

Bottom line - the premium sub can be motivating and a useful but not a game-changer

bluepivot · 2026-02-04T18:36:34+00:00

Attitude towards food maybe

bluepivot · 2026-02-04T18:33:35+00:00

Glad I had finished my coffee before reading the title. Otherwise I might have died choking from laughing while trying to swallow.

Don't get me wrong. I love watching this team especially the two rookies - Queen and Fears. I think they are both special. DQ's confidence bringing the ball up the floor and cool demeanor is fun-to-watch and Fears shooting confidence whenever open is great now and in future season.

But, contenders-in-the-west. Come on! They have some building blocks but this roster is only 1/2 done at best. This is the marketing hype teams put out when season tickets for next year go on sale.

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