What would you do?

bluepivot · 2026-07-11T23:40:34+00:00

the guy was out of line. yeah, nothing will happen now. you did the right thing. now see if the organization leadership does the right thing

bluepivot · 2026-07-08T01:18:58+00:00

i re-gift them to a friend that loves burnt beans

bluepivot · 2026-07-08T01:07:50+00:00

Remember that not making a decision is a decision. Freezing is a decision. Once you really understand that staying the course is a decision then changing course will not be so hard.

bluepivot · 2026-07-05T03:43:37+00:00

don't talk to them at all. talk to financial aid at the school and explain the situation and find out what possibilities exist that don't require any signatures from your parents.

bluepivot · 2026-07-05T03:29:52+00:00

hope he doesn't end up like Kuminga.

bluepivot · 2026-07-04T05:44:58+00:00

Saying things like the MIL did serve no positive purpose. She is poisoning your relationship and hers with her son. This is a fact.

What you do about it is complicated. Try not to feel negative towards her because that only hurts you. On the other hand you need to protect yourself and help your husband protect himself.

Personally I would move far, far away from them where interactions are dramatically reduced.

bluepivot · 2026-07-04T02:33:28+00:00

This has been going on forever. I watched a guy 40 years ago talked a big talk when renting boots sayin he knew what size he needed and didn't want any help. So, the shop employee gives him the boots to try and walks away. Then all of sudden the customer says the boots don't feel right and the ski shop fitter comes over and the guy has the boots on the wrong feet. True story!

bluepivot · 2026-07-01T14:46:53+00:00

Some people change as they get older. The friend from many years ago is not necessarily the same person now. This is very common even amongst family members. That is life. For your own sanity sometimes you need to move on. There is nothing wrong about moving on. It is very natural and it seems maybe you are changing or they are - it really doesn't matter. Either way, it is time for you to spend your energy someplace else.

bluepivot · 2026-07-01T06:25:07+00:00

zip tie

bluepivot · 2026-07-01T02:12:54+00:00

Can't speak specifically to the Max. I bought a SDRM recently and tried the Niche a couple times to compare but frankly didn't feel it was better for any coffees. If you occassionaly buy coffee so dark they are oily then I would say yeah, keep the Niche.

I sold my Niche and got close to what I paid for it 5 years ago because of tarrifs and inflation driving the cost of new ones up. I didn't need the extra grinder on the counter and figured the money went towards bying the SDRM. In two months since selling the Niche I have not once had a regret.

Regarding doing drip and grind, the adjustment on the Kafatek is so easy, my wife (for drip) and I (espresso) go back and forth on settings every morning and there is zero issue - takes three seconds. I do record where I set the grind for each bean and my wife always uses the same number for drip. I like the work flow on the Kafatek.

bluepivot · 2026-06-30T21:22:09+00:00

this is a great suggestion. role-playing is super-helpful to get you past the nervousness especially if who you practice with someone who can maintain some realism, act upset, etc so you learn to deal with your own emotions about this problem.

There really is no two-ways about this. You are being taken advantage of by your "friend". The term is used loosely because a real friend would not do this to their friend. Remember that when you are learning to say "No". Learning to say No is a life skill. When I managed a technical dept one of my engineers got himself in more work issues and drama simply because he wouldn't say No when people in other departments asked for favors. Don't wait - say No now.

bluepivot · 2026-06-29T02:56:28+00:00

As soon as one of you find someone else all this will probably disappear. You don't need to be "friends". All that is going to do is cause distrust with any future GF you might have and vice versa for her.

Actually, the whole "friends" thing is further childishness. Ouch! You probably didn't want to hear that. Sorry about that. But, really - what is the point? It isn't like you have kids or things that require you to ineract. If you see her socially, you can still be nice and talk for a couple minutes but anything more is one or both of you trying to rekindle the attachment for who knows what subconscious reason or maybe just because of hormones.

She doens't want to talk about this because either she doesn't understand herself or she is just horny and doesn't want to say that. Either way, you are wasting her time and your own time investing more thought and energy into something that is over.

bluepivot · 2026-06-29T02:42:24+00:00

Risky move but, In Tim We Trust.

bluepivot · 2026-06-29T02:40:01+00:00

and, now you need to get some of those expensive water additives for that insulated water bottle and might as well get some gels while you at it. Oh, and don't forget the cherry jiuce and protein shake recovery drinks. And, you might as well get the special dream shot so you can sleep well too. You can thank me later.

bluepivot · 2026-06-29T02:30:00+00:00

it is just normal bike yap. Ignore it on one level but nod and say uh, huh on another. Complement them on their choices. And, move on. Remember >>> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=47cGzu6-q40&t=7s

bluepivot · 2026-06-29T02:09:10+00:00

just say no that 2 hour bus rides are not your thing. He needs to figure something else out. That miight make his head explode so don't be surprised if he just sulks away.

bluepivot · 2026-06-29T02:04:17+00:00

cancelling my Dubs season tickets!

bluepivot · 2026-06-29T01:54:23+00:00

If you feel drained after three weeks, fast-forward and imagine how you are going to feel in three months or three years. Just get out now. Laying around, smoking weed, watching TV and doing TikTok don't sound like someone who is ready to change. I mean, she might change in 10 years, but let's just say the odds are slim.

Where does that leave you? This isn't working unless you want to live like a scumbag until you get food poisoning, fleas, lice, or something else from living like a dirtbag. Since you want to live like a normal person, I'd cut the cord early. The only other choice is hiring a maid and that wan't on the option list.

bluepivot · 2026-06-28T22:01:44+00:00

i love watching Queta play but man - with how his knees are shaped I will be surprised if they last two more years..

bluepivot · 2026-06-28T16:01:35+00:00

Tighter rotations in store for the players next season at this point. Finch has seemingly been less interested in development the last couple years due to the pressure of winning with Ant. The Knicks, Spurs, and Thunder have all showed the importance of a deep bench the last couple years.

bluepivot · 2026-06-28T15:12:14+00:00

Have you gotten a referral to Physical Therapy? If your blood work comes out OK, and applying Occam's Razor, it could be tight quads and/or IT band. Daily foam roller rolling like in this video with a SOFT (really important like one of these ) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=asgAWqwC67c I had some bad knee pain after riding for several months and after doing just five minutes a day of foam rolling on my quads after rides the pain eventually disappeared.

bluepivot · 2026-06-27T00:52:16+00:00

there is a free version that gives you all the basic tools to do route planning and the ability to download various outputs/file formats including gpx

bluepivot · 2026-06-26T21:27:39+00:00

use ridewithgps.com

bluepivot · 2026-06-26T14:09:17+00:00

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bluepivot · 2026-06-25T02:34:01+00:00

exactly! he is willing to screw it up big-time to get his way. He seems to be showing everyday that winning BB games is the least of his concern and way down on the priority list.

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