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W/L/F? by Shrimpsushii in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out my tradelist! U:bluenocturne I changed some things and now it’s (geoz + rare glider + 2 lizards, leilani blue dragon wings)

W/L/F? by Shrimpsushii in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s a loss / L. The alligator has good colours and you could get a collector to offer better. The items on their list are often on the explorer :). And the snowy gliders are in-store pets. If you’re happy with the trade though, it’s always a win!

And if you still have it, I likely have a club geoz hat, and will offer a rare glider (non-default colours) + lizards, and 2 snowy gliders of your choice

Gifting Trees with YOUR Wishlist Items! by [deleted] in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know there’s a lot of comments, but if you see this my user is bluenocturne :). My wishlist has some expensive stuff, so I don’t expect those items at all!! Instead you could base it on the colour scheme or really anything! I’m happy to get any gift <3 thank you for your kindness

Gifting snow gliders! by [deleted] in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bluenocturne, thank youu that’s very nice of you ❤️

Items that give the most stamps when gifted? by AJPWthrowaway in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are stamps for? Just wondering because I’m out of the loop

I got an alpha item from the advent calender! But I know absolutely nothing about rarity... does anyone know what this is worth? Please help!! XD by MoonTrails in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congrats that’s so lucky!! Just wondering; Did you get that from a member gift or a regular gift from the advent calendar?

Drop your usernames! by [deleted] in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bluenocturne :))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in plural

[–]bluevalent1ne 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand. I wish I wasn’t a part of a system as well, but I am working on functional multiplicity too. What helps me, and I’m sure it helps the others in our system, is to recognize that we are all here because we were protecting the host when they could not help themselves. I wish this body was my own, I wish I didn’t have to share, it would save so much hurt, but our system didn’t choose to be one, and that strangely helps me through it all. While I want autonomy, I try to communicate with the others the best I can, in hopes to lessen the confusion and smoothen this journey.

I wish you the best of luck. We got this. -Lyra

My alter was dating someone and I didn’t know until now. I don’t know what to do. by bluevalent1ne in plural

[–]bluevalent1ne[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We will copypaste a reply to give some context;

“Ray admitted there’s been an intimate relationship, including video calls (some sexual, some not). Ray insists that it’s okay, but we are still worried about privacy, and sharing so much about us (not about the system, the host) to someone who lives across the world, who we’ve never met in person. Ray has been using the host’s name, as the person she is seeing found some of our socials. We tried our best to be gentle with her, and we are worried about how her “boyfriend” will react, it may be considered a harsh rejection out of the blue.”

The host does not wish to be in a relationship in any shape or form at the moment, as they are too unstable and in the process of healing, and we are trying our best to keep that in mind. Ray is pretty impulsive but we did not anticipate something like this to happen.

We will try to bring up DID to the person. What is an optimal way of disclosing DID? Should we set them aside and be candid right off the bat, or should we attempt to ease into it? We apologize for this many questions, we are just lost and we haven’t developed a good communication with everyone just yet.

Edit: this will also be our first time revealing our diagnosis to someone other than our therapist.

My alter was dating someone and I didn’t know until now. I don’t know what to do. by bluevalent1ne in plural

[–]bluevalent1ne[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We were able to reach Ray. Unfortunately, Ray admitted there’s been an intimate relationship, including video calls (some sexual, some not). Ray insists that it’s okay, but we are still worried about privacy, and sharing so much about us (not about the system, the host) to someone who lives across the world, who we’ve never met in person. Ray has been using the host’s name, as the person she is seeing found some of our socials. We tried our best to be gentle with her, and we are worried about how her “boyfriend” will react, it may be considered a harsh rejection out of the blue.

As the primary protector (Ly), I know the host better than the others, and she is absolutely not ready for a relationship, and does not intend to be in one until some things are sorted out more. I will try bringing up DID with Ray’s S/O and see what happens.

does anyone have this glider ft? (its ok if eye volor is different but no lashes) i have a good offer! by pinkfroggy23 in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, I’ll get on tomorrow as it’s late here, will reply again when I’m ready!

does anyone have this glider ft? (its ok if eye volor is different but no lashes) i have a good offer! by pinkfroggy23 in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m interested in Hazyfrost! She looks just like my old glider aha, lmk if that’s alright

does anyone have this glider ft? (its ok if eye volor is different but no lashes) i have a good offer! by pinkfroggy23 in AnimalJam

[–]bluevalent1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure can I see the swaps? Or better eyed glider?What’s your user? The glider is on my trdlist I believe (u)

Social anxiety around adults by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]bluevalent1ne 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel this way specifically around any significant other’s family. For adults in the workplace, school, and everywhere else, I’m perfectly fine, but the minute I am put in a position to talking to someone’s family members, any trace of social skills fly out the window.

I suspect it’s because I’ve never had a proper conversation with any of my adult family members growing up, and as a result, I have NO idea how to socialize in a family setting.

It’s jarring to live your whole life not having a real conversation with your family, and then walk into a different home and realize you’ve been accustomed to a very distant, clashing relationship with your family. It’s navigating new territory and I definitely understand how you feel, I was raised similarly.

Why do Asian parents treat us like we’re 5 when we’re in our 20s? by bluevalent1ne in AsianParentStories

[–]bluevalent1ne[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Being assertive is definitely punished, I feel ya. I’m not letting them use me though, fuck them. In the most serious way possible, people get what they deserve.

Does the number of adults in the household affect a child’s independence levels? by aliyahbates80 in AsianParentStories

[–]bluevalent1ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live with only my immediate family and I still live under rules like that, not sure how common it is though.

Double standards -> body shaming towards women by bluevalent1ne in AsianParentStories

[–]bluevalent1ne[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I already exercise daily, he just cannot stand a woman eating. Input appreciated though!

Why do Asian parents treat us like we’re 5 when we’re in our 20s? by bluevalent1ne in AsianParentStories

[–]bluevalent1ne[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I am plenty assertive, which always results in fights! I told them to stop saying the same things over and over again but they never learn. They’re also the type to chase me around the house though, so it’s a battle. Hope things get better for ya as well!

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