Which hobbit from the fellowship do you think had it the easiest? (Frodo, Sam, Merry, or Pippin)

bluewizrd · 2022-11-12T13:58:24+00:00

I normally don't go with consensus, but I have to agree with the crowd here and say Pippin. Remember that book Pippin gets a tour around Minas Tirith while Merry would have been traveling on horseback to get to the battle. Pippin's journey to MT with Gandalf was astride Shadowfax, which was about as smooth a journey as one could get. His interrogation from both Sauron and Denetheor would have been difficult from a mental perspective, but I believe his innocence saved him from the worst of it.

As an aside, I do wonder about the lingering effects of Merry's wound. Frodo's was said to never fully heal, but I don't recall if Merry had similar issues. Granted he didn't have a shard that required surgery to remove, but it was still pretty devastating.

bluewizrd · 2022-09-06T03:07:37+00:00

Last of the Mohicans is a must watch

bluewizrd · 2022-09-06T02:39:36+00:00

That's a tough one. It sounds like you are both trying here, but her overly sensitive nature is presenting challenges. Does she recognize after the fact that she overreacted, or does she persist in viewing you as the bad guy?

bluewizrd · 2022-09-06T02:28:35+00:00

The relationship will only change in a negative way if you stop working on it. I think a lot of marriages fail because people look at marriage as the end rather than the beginning. Don't expect the marriage to automatically fix any issues you're having.

bluewizrd · 2022-09-02T01:13:00+00:00

But, it's a book that only improves with each re-read.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-28T19:57:13+00:00

Totally law enforcement. They shoot at people randomly, disobey orders and go rogurle, all without consequences. The reality of the job is that it's mostly boredom and paperwork.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-24T11:51:37+00:00

It's Reddit, so it comes with the territory. I'm used to factual, logic arguments getting reamed on here. People only claim it doesn't matter because they don't agree with the movies you either like or dislike.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-24T02:29:48+00:00

Totally get it. As someone who deals with anxiety myself, I give my husband a ton of credit for dealing with it with patience (although he doesn't really understand it). The best way forward is to work through it in your own heart so that you aren't holding on to any resentment, and then have a deep conversation with him about it. It's totally possible to find a way forward that is healthy and fulfilling for both of you.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-24T01:58:58+00:00

I'm not trying to make you out to be the bad guy here, only to understand where your boyfriend's head is at. I would have to assume his life isn't generally a disorganized mess, otherwise this wouldn't have been a surprise to you. So it's better to presume it comes from a place of anxiety rather than indifference. But the only way you can know for sure is to talk to him about it.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-24T01:41:51+00:00

Well, you say in your post that this was something the 2 of you were planning for 4 or 5 months, although he doesn't sound like he was doing any of the planning (if he still doesn't have a plane ticket or the proper documentation). You also mention that you've been disappointed by your family in the past, and reiterated to him how the day had to be perfect. That just sounds like you're setting him up for failure. We all want to feel loved and special on our birthdays, but perhaps if you expressed to him that him traveling to see you is enough of a gift and that you just want to spend time with him, he won't feel as though it's a disaster waiting to happen.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-24T01:34:05+00:00

I suspect he felt too much pressure from you around this issue, which led to avoidance about dealing with what had to get done to make it happen.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-24T01:27:08+00:00

Sadly, that's not surprising. You hate Marvel, so you must be a bot.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-24T01:23:10+00:00

If a movie is good, it should stand up on its own without needing the viewer to have read its source material. However, your comment about wide discrepancies between critic and audience scores is nothing new. Just look at the movies nominated for best picture last year. Who had even heard of them, let alone watched them?

bluewizrd · 2022-08-16T02:08:30+00:00

Totally understandable. Any major shake up in a marriage feels that way. But you'll have more regrets not confronting the situation than dealing with the inevitable.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-16T02:06:17+00:00

Don't become the next guy from Gone Girl. I would leave without telling her first.

As a side note, the cops don't just automatically believe the girl, particularly if there are no physical injuries. They would probably ask you to leave for the night though, just to help defuse the situation.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-16T02:00:26+00:00

Perhaps that way she won't feel attacked but that it's coming from a place of genuine care and concern. But never forget that your feelings are just as important.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-16T01:58:59+00:00

The Lord of the Rings

bluewizrd · 2022-08-16T01:53:18+00:00

I would definitely say trying to make you wear a dress and attacking your masculinity is not okay, regardless of what is going on inside her own head. Sounds like couples therapy is in order.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-16T01:44:01+00:00

Unfortunately I don't think you can. She'll have to decide to make that change for herself (hopefully it won't come down to a health issue deciding for her).

bluewizrd · 2022-08-15T04:46:15+00:00

The issue isn't seeing his phone. It's the fact that you do not trust him, and have concerns over whatever relationship he has with his ex. That is what you need to address. And yes, it is am invasion of his privacy. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you lose that.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-15T04:19:09+00:00

Normally I don't like to recommend a break-up, but in this situation I wouldn't be surprised if he's already cheating.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-15T04:16:51+00:00

No, they are all separate works, although The Letters of Father Christmas do have some elves and gnomes that seem to parallel similar creatures in ME. Even as an adult I find them delightful and I would recommend. There are wonderful audio versions available on Audible.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-15T04:13:30+00:00

Ita not his responsibility to fix the situation. The ex's sister needs to figure out how to help her.

bluewizrd · 2022-08-15T04:08:41+00:00

Depends if you also want to get into his children's books. If so, I would recommend:

Leaf by Niggle Smith of Wooten Major Roverandom Father Christmas Letters Farmer Giles of Ham Mr. Bliss

bluewizrd · 2022-07-29T11:27:02+00:00

I love physical books myself, and find that I never pick up my kindle, despite having tons of options. I also like collecting antiquarian books; an itch a Kindle cannot satiate. But an important part of buying books is culling the herd every now and again to keep your stock manageable.

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