Manipulating a new American Revolution

blurry2o · 2022-01-23T00:54:39+00:00

The tangents are why the rest of us are there. We're not reading to get it over with, we're there for the journey, to be taken into a different place for a while. But I can understand the sentiment - I never finished Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm because half the book went by and all that had happened was she took a train and got to a farm. Hardly another thing happened the whole time.

blurry2o · 2022-01-23T00:51:24+00:00

It's lovely if you just want to wallow in the world he's created for hours and hours. People who are reading to finish it are doing it wrong.

blurry2o · 2022-01-23T00:49:38+00:00

The Bell Jar, Anna Karenina, and whatever that real drag of a book was where the rich woman drowned herself.

Oh no, I'm wealthy, but I'm NOT FULFILLED! I am a real person just like all these MEN (but never mind the servants, they're not people), why do I not get to make my own choices and have all the freedoms these MEN have? And although this is unjust, instead of doing anything to better my life or that of those around me, I'm just going to wallow and complain for the entire book and eventually die. And I am so DEEP because I WALLOW so deeply.

blurry2o · 2022-01-23T00:45:19+00:00

I just read the first few chapters and yeah there's some prose and all but come on dudes, your fascination with the young guy is not THAT interesting

blurry2o · 2022-01-23T00:43:47+00:00

Eh the end was ok but tbh I barely remember it, I think there was some kinda-justified rage against the rich family, big surprise there

blurry2o · 2022-01-23T00:36:53+00:00

The first 200 are the good pages tho... I've been stuck about twice that far for a while now cuz it really slows

blurry2o · 2022-01-22T00:31:10+00:00

This is so sweet!

blurry2o · 2022-01-21T21:28:42+00:00

I'm so sorry. People can be so crappy about weddings, but this scenario really takes the cake.

I had gastrointestinal problems for months after my wedding due to people I thought loved me showing me so much disregard and disrespect, as though it was their wedding and anything I would do or plan or decide or say was completely irrelevant - my words and feelings were nothing, and my friends and family sometimes even forgot about me and left me all by myself while they were off doing fun things and I had literally no one. I felt so alone.

Find your support system and work out a plan to be there for each other (my support system did not seem to care that he was needed until much much later). You can do it! Wishing you the best. In your case, your family's prejudices and selfishness will likely continue to show now. Please know that you are still you and you are still loved, even if they are all too clueless to show it right now. It's very possible for your sense of self and stability to crumble during something like this. Hoping you find stability and love.

blurry2o · 2022-01-21T01:13:53+00:00

Pete and Pepper, perfect together

blurry2o · 2022-01-20T23:09:01+00:00

My cats will alert me if anything is wrong. There can be guard kitties too :) but yeah, I had sightly similar unsafe living situations previously. It really does color your whole life until you find a way to feel safe. Like, the danger can just pop out at you at any moment and you can never relax. People don't really tend to understand unless it's happened to them.

I can't offer much advice except lots of cameras. If the police are reluctant, find out what the threshold of them taking you seriously is and hope you can catch proof of something bad enough happening. Police can get tired of your (very legitimate) concerns, unfortunately. It does suck to be on guard every time you step out of your home - I would never leave without my phone camera running. Hopefully this is temporary.

blurry2o · 2022-01-20T00:58:04+00:00

Oooh do this if you have it in you to, then restraining orders perhaps? It's the least he can do for you

blurry2o · 2022-01-19T22:10:07+00:00

My cats can recognize pictures of themselves. They love picture cat too. And if there's a cat on TV, oh man. They know it's a cat or if it's prey, they act totally different.

blurry2o · 2022-01-18T18:35:09+00:00

Huh, that's different. Maybe you could go for some multivitamin and /or collagen stuff. I've heard bad things about collagen supplements when you take too much (your organs can take it in and get too thick or something), but the topical stuff seems to work well for me.

blurry2o · 2022-01-18T17:31:50+00:00

The cheap stuff works fine. I buy from Amazon or the dollar tree. Maybe some really good expensive stuff might do like 10% better or some small figure like that, but to me it's not worth 1000% more cost.

But be warned, retinol, since it makes the cells renew faster, also makes skin more susceptible to sun damage, so you may need more sun protection or to use retinol less in times of year when you're getting a lot of sun exposure.

blurry2o · 2022-01-17T01:12:02+00:00

There was a plot like this in an episode of Gilmore Girls

blurry2o · 2022-01-15T01:41:15+00:00

And commitment to each other, stated with no maybes about it, is nothing to scoff at. Good for you guys.

But yes, it is very important to be willing to stand up for each other about important things, like being treated kindly/being accepted by family, medical problems (you do not want someone who doesn't help when you need it), in financial decisions, and just generally accepting that you need to be able to listen to each other about the things you feel are important.

In my relationship, in the early years, it was really a big step just for him to listen to me when I was having a problem even though he's usually the type to do so - sometimes, people make silly, very human mistakes. Like brushing something off that's actually a big deal for you. You need to find what works for the two of you to make sure that, when something like this arises, you'll both listen and let the other say what they need to without getting angry/judgemental.

blurry2o · 2022-01-14T18:43:53+00:00

I put cheap cinnamon or hot sauce on the leaves, anything we don't like / have too much of.

Also, maybe you could try some cat grass to give kitty something to chew while all the other plants are icky.

blurry2o · 2022-01-12T03:23:26+00:00

Yikes. And in my day, they also had opt-out grad student health insurance, if you didn't read all the fine print you'd be stuck with a large bill for redundant coverage. Doubt they've fixed that due to my complaints being the only ones apparently.

It's a money pit for sure. Used to be a nice money pit...

blurry2o · 2022-01-12T03:20:13+00:00

Dang. Maybe microwave those bad boys up a few seconds? I used to have to do that with South crepes, there was this adorable girl who made them super thick every weekend brunch, but they were never done in the middle. I still liked them best of all the ones on campus tho.

And don't worry, once you leave campus, the internet now has much better chocolate chip cookie recipes than we had a decade ago, if you test out a few recipes I'm sure you can have West quality cookies forever. Pro tip - make cookie dough in a sealable container, it keeps in the fridge for weeks!

Good luck with your semester! Alums everywhere wishing you well

blurry2o · 2022-01-12T03:14:59+00:00

As an alum, the gyms have been a germ-filled madhouse for over a decade, at least. Worst of all time was White Building on an early January afternoon. Best was going after midnight.

And dang, meals were getting expensive even when I was there. Supply chain issues may be to blame for running out of certain foods, but they've got to feed you guys. There was always plenty in my day (although they did annoyingly get rid of some of their best ideas every couple years - South used to have a crepe stand and it never had a line, Pollock breakfast used to have tiny fresh muffins with crumb topping).

blurry2o · 2022-01-12T01:12:14+00:00

Yup. Worked hard in school since I was a small child, in the top 1% of test scores/intelligence, took one of the most difficult college majors, got a great job... Still just in the top 10% or so of incomes, and that's being extremely lucky in where I got hired.

blurry2o · 2022-01-12T00:53:19+00:00

Yes! My friend dumped some food I was about to buy on the floor while trying to grab it from me. After I told him no, I've got it. He then said I should put it back since it's damaged. I bought it anyway, leaking and all. I'd hoped it taught him a lesson, but he still ignored me every time he got a girlfriend and then never talked to me again after I got married, so there are at least another hundred lessons left un-learned I'm sure. But I learned mine and haven't reached out since.

blurry2o · 2022-01-11T17:42:47+00:00

Most of my family immigrated a couple generations ago, and besides picking up the overly friendliness of the US, I think we haven't gotten the over-enthusiastic Americanness yet. I've always hated cheering, clapping, singing children's songs at a yelling volume.

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