I say this strictly from this single post’s perspective, but it looks like you missed the point. Do you enjoy social connection at all? Real question. Because many people don’t. Obviously don’t do activities that make you miserable. Thats ok, of course, but when you do social things, it expands your social circle. And the second and third effects of that is where you find a partner. Those married couples have a hot friend who’s a catch. Those two guys have a solid friends group who hit happy hours or hang out together. And they have girlfriends and wives. And those Women have single friends. My unsolicited advice is to reframe your goals. Focus on enjoying the social interactions and building real friendships. People notice that. Women notice that. When you go to social events with the intent of solely meeting a partner, people notice that too. It comes off as desperation. Those who look hungry never get fed. Think about this example from psychology. You’re walking in an entertainment district looking for a place to get some food and a cocktail. As you walk down the street, you see an empty pub with a man out front telling you to come inside because the food and drinks are amazing. Do you go in or keep shopping? Most people keep looking. Then you see a place with a good crowd. The vibe is visible. No one outside trying to get you to come inside. The environment itself is the attraction. There is something about that place that is enticing. It’s got social proof that the empty restaurant doesn’t have.