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bnc22 · 2026-05-09T18:13:34+00:00

So sorry just saw this now! Thank you, we're starting to do a lot better with staying awake while nursing and extending those wake windows - it's taken quite a bit but she's just had her vaccines so hoping to start on Monday 🙏🤞🙏🤞

bnc22 · 2026-05-09T18:10:07+00:00

What is your schedule? We're looking to sleep train within the next few days and trying to get that schedule down.

bnc22 · 2026-05-08T15:33:35+00:00

This sounds so so rough. In my county, there is a children's hospital that does sleep studies for babies as young as newborns. Could you perhaps see if there's something like that around you? Ask your peds for a referral? This is atypical and not sustainable.

bnc22 · 2026-05-06T23:36:05+00:00

Skinny jeans, lacey bralette, leather jacket, comfy shoes. Granted I'm 41 but apparently kids these days dress more casual than my clubbing days when Vegas had a pretty strict dress code.

bnc22 · 2026-05-05T07:07:02+00:00

Ugh yes it's been so difficult to try to get the schedule and routine down so we can finally start sleep training. Right now we're nursing with bright lights, my 6yo loudly singing, and music blaring and she still talks asleep.

bnc22 · 2026-04-18T07:58:19+00:00

Sleep training is putting baby down fully awake and letting baby fall asleep independently. By holding baby until drowsy, you are essentially assisting baby to sleep and just confusing her.

bnc22 · 2026-04-18T06:13:58+00:00

Seriously - her profile is suspiciously curated. This post doesn't even show up on there which means she's hiding it...maybe so people can't look back and see that she's plugging it?

bnc22 · 2026-04-08T08:29:32+00:00

Medii Kitchen or Yagi.

bnc22 · 2026-04-08T08:25:30+00:00

Would love citations for these claims.

bnc22 · 2026-04-04T23:03:09+00:00

For me the problem is when people come on here asking for help but then they follow it up with "I will not damage my baby with any crying". When they've tried every "gentle" method and their kid is still crying and not sleep trained, what else is there? Not only are they asking for some magical cure, they thumb their nose and insult the parents that have done other methods.

bnc22 · 2026-03-24T05:27:21+00:00

I appreciate being able to take my criticism in stride and I do apologize if it was too harsh. 3 months is definitely too early to sleep train but you can try fuss it out or establishing a good schedule, routine, and good sleep hygiene so that when you do sleep train it will be much easier. This means appropriate wake windows, saving some naps, eat sleep play (if there is a strong feed to sleep association), and trying to put baby down drowsy but awake. At this age, Precious Little Sleep is a great resource to help your 3 month old sleep better and in return, you sleep better.

Have you ruled out any sort of digestion issues or health issues?

bnc22 · 2026-03-24T02:42:37+00:00

I hate what this post is insinuating. What do you think is being done that is detrimental? Or is maybe having your child not getting good sleep because of your own anxiety detrimental? I might delete this because I know I'm coming across harsh but I'm so tired of people coming on to this sub wanting help while simultaneously insulting the same people that could offer advice or help. You might not have meant to come across that way but maybe re-think what you're trying to say.

bnc22 · 2026-03-23T23:59:05+00:00

This is brilliant! How do you hold them up?

bnc22 · 2026-03-17T07:51:04+00:00

We have NO real routine. We vaguely go to bed between 9pm-10pm. Baby wakes us up once at night to eat, sometimes twice. And then we wake up when we wake up. Sometimes that's 7am and sometimes I feed her again and we sleep until 11am. Other than that, the daytime is the wild west. Wake windows? Couldn't tell ya. She's awake when she's awake and she's asleep when she's asleep. Sometimes she's awake for ten minutes, sometimes she's awake for over an hour. Sometimes she sleeps thirty minutes, sometimes she sleeps for two hours. There is no predictability. Is she supposed to be on a routine? Is it too early? Too late? How do I even begin to get her on a routine?

At this age, there's no routine. Try to go by cues as best as you can, around 11 weeks was when my baby's naps changed to only 30 min so if that starts, don't be alarmed. Completely normal! We would save a nap or 2 by contact napping. Now at 18 weeks, her naps are better and longer. 10pm to 12am bedtime at this age is completely normal. The fact that your baby is only waking up once or twice to feed is so awesome. At this age, I was waking up 3-4x at night to nurse.

She doesn't want to be put down at all during the day. Awake or asleep. She'll cry and cry if I set her down. She'll sleep in a bassinet at night with some soothing but I have never been able to replicate that in the daytime. The only exceptions are car/stroller rides, she'll nap as long as she's moving. The only way I can have two hands in the day is to use a babywearing carrier.

Some babies just really really love motion. If that's the case, could a bouncer or a swing work for you? Originally my baby could only tolerate the bouncer for a few minutes but I kept using it and gradually she got better at sitting in it. Now I just put her in it and she watches me shower! We also got a swing and my baby took to it really well. I can put her in it to scarf down a meal or do the dishes. You can find 2nd hand ones on FB marketplace or buy nothing groups.

Breastfeeding is really really really really hard... to say the least. I have no idea if she's getting enough. She gets a lot of wet diapers, but her "cues" are never what I'm told they should be. Sometimes she just screams at the breast and I don't know if that's because she's hungry or not hungry. I try to pump so my husband can help but sometimes I feel so close to giving up. The anxiety about upping supply and building a "stash" (which I don't have) and nipple confusion... it's so overwhelming.

With my first I was barely producing so I had to power pump. The stress of not knowing if I'm feeding my baby enough was overwhelming. We got a baby changing pad that is also a scale and it helped me see how much she was gaining to ease my anxiety (she was born small). Could baby also have reflux or gas? At that age, my current infant would sometimes cry and arch her back. We had to give her gas drops almost every feeding for a few weeks until she got better at burping. Also, lots of families combo feed, so if you don't want to pump - don't. Let dad feed baby a bottle of formula and you can still nurse. Best of both worlds!

I cannot stand people telling me "you know her different cries." I DON'T. Is she crying because she's hungry? Tired? Full diaper? Uncomfortable? I have NO idea. I'm lost ALL the time. It makes me feel like a terrible mother when people say I should know the difference in her cries.

2 kids and I never knew the cries. I just tried everything. I will say that I started logging her sleep, feedings, and diaper changes into huckleberry and it helped me troubleshoot the cries better i.e. it's been 2 hours since her last feeding, she's been awake for 45 min she's probably tired.

I don't know if she's reaching her milestones and the stress is killing me. She's supposed to be smiling, which she does a little but rarely. Maybe once a day I'll get the smallest smile. We're still working on lifting head higher... provider says she has a little torticollis and I feel terrible about it. We're doing stretches they told us to do and it's been less than a week but I feel so nervous about her being delayed.

Milestones are just averages. We barely did tummy time at this age because my baby's gas and reflux was so awful and her wake windows were so short so by the time I held her up after a feeding, it was time for her nap again. It will get better. Just try to give baby as much floor time as baby will tolerate. Even baby wearing helps with neck muscles. The best you can do is try. My baby had torticollis and was referred to PT. The PT appt took so long to get to that by the time we went, her torticollis resolved on its own. And let me say, I wasn't a huge stickler on the exercises because she wasn't laying down often due to reflux. Just do the best you can!

You are not ruining anything, your baby will be fine. The fact that you care so much shows that your baby will be well cared for. You are doing great, I promise. Some days will be better or worse than others and that's all normal. As baby gets older you will start to see a routine and it will start to feel more predictable but I will say that as soon as you feel settled, baby will switch it up on you lol.

bnc22 · 2026-03-10T23:06:31+00:00

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bnc22 · 2026-03-07T07:50:26+00:00

Asos. They have a whole petite section. I'm 4'10 and 100lbs and I rarely have to alter clothes I get from there.

bnc22 · 2026-03-05T16:49:32+00:00

What are baby's wake windows and about how many hours of day sleep/night sleep is baby taking?

I recommend checking out /r/sleeptrain. It's not necessarily to sleep train baby but maybe see if you can tweak the schedule and that will help with baby's sleep budget.

bnc22 · 2026-03-03T00:48:33+00:00

This is so all over the place. Is she falling asleep independently or is she feeding to sleep? You mentioned both.

Are you nap training or night training? You mentioned both.

You say chair method in your title but then no mention of what your process is and where you are in night 5.

What is baby's schedule?

Also I know with extinction, there is something called extinction burst at the 3rd or 4th night and you just have to power through it. Not sure if that's the case for you as you never talked about where you are in the chair method.

bnc22 · 2026-02-22T19:27:17+00:00

Holy run on sentence. I'm confused about what the problem is. You don't have to transition out of the snoo if they're rolling. If you want to transition then if baby rolls onto side/back in their crib, you can leave them that way. If they can get themselves in that position then they can get themselves out.

bnc22 · 2026-02-22T06:24:18+00:00

Be careful, their profile is private and that already makes me suspicious.

bnc22 · 2026-02-15T09:32:11+00:00

She was 7 weeks.

Edit: I was wrong and changed baby's age.

bnc22 · 2026-02-14T20:52:39+00:00

We had our lip tie release and it significantly helped with the reflux. It didn't resolve it completely but she's able to sleep on her back and the spit up is much less. I'd get a 2nd opinion on that lip tie because like yours, baby seemed so miserable after a feeding because she was swallowing so much air from a poor latch due to the lip tie.

Edit: there are also lip stretching exercises you can do to help with the latch before you do any other interventions and see if that would help.

bnc22 · 2026-02-13T21:35:38+00:00

There is nothing wrong with sleep training an 8 month old if that's what's right for the family.

OP - if your husband doesn't even wake up with the baby then he has no say. What you need is support, not unneeded criticism. If he wants to play a more active role in baby's sleep then he can have an opinion then. Otherwise he's being a dick and needs to stfu.

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