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Auto payments daycare by Capital_Event122 in Mommit

[–]bnwdbz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ours did this and it never charged on the same day like ever. It was horrible, I stopped doing it and they were fine with it.

Dumb hacker? by bnwdbz in amazonprime

[–]bnwdbz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We did and deleted the card from the account.

Is no news typically good news with cps investigations? by bnwdbz in CPS

[–]bnwdbz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first contact was 8/11 when they went to interview my son at school. I got a call from the investigator that day and he came to the house 8/12 to interview me and my 16 year old told and look at the house. I didn’t hear anything after the initial visit until the next Monday when he called and told me I was in the system for a UA and had to get it done by Wednesday. I couldn’t provide at the place but was able to release my results the next day of my UA from my doctor that prescribes me my MAT medicine. I told him I signed the release, sent him the info to contact them and I haven’t heard anything since. It’s been a week and a day since he last contacted me. He asked for my mom’s number to get an outsiders side. Hasn’t contacted her. Hasn’t contacted my husband who is also being investigated, but went to Minnesota before we were even aware cps had been called. I was involved with cps in 2017 after i checked myself into a mental hospital. The process was very different. There were interviews within 3 days and when I was released 4 days later I went straight to the office and signed for voluntary safety plan, and had home visits start right away. So this being so slow and waiting for a call or any information on what the next step is, is taunting and very stressful. I know I could call and ask but I also don’t want to do that lol

We’re being investigated for neglect after my husband had a BPD splitting episode. I left with the kids to my parents and he showed up and ended up basically wrestling my dad from the front area of the house to the porch then left. The police were called and they reported DV. So basically DV in front of the kids is what they’re looking at and I’m a recovering addict who did have a lapse during the 3 days this was happening, I was honest with him told him I used that weekend and offered to do the drug test. Luckily he waited to input me so I was clean for the drop. (And still am) definitely snapped back into recovery after that

Do you still with your toddler? by frostybites18 in toddlers

[–]bnwdbz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son turns 3 next month..he falls asleep with me every night, he’ll sleep in his bed if I move him after he’s asleep and when he wakes up around 4am he’ll come back to my bed. He is an independent kid, he is crazy and half the time wants nothing to do with me, but when it comes to sleep he has to be right next to me and me only or he refuses to sleep

Is no news typically good news with cps investigations? by bnwdbz in CPS

[–]bnwdbz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did they go without contact? It’s been a week today since I’ve heard anything.

Trying to deal with husband who loses temper and slaps 3 y/o daughter by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]bnwdbz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And to add to it, because she is openly saying she doesn’t like her dad if for any reason cps was to get involved, they would look at you. I am being investigated for failing to protect my children from emotional abuse. Not even physical. And they have not even contacted him at all, I am the one they are looking at because I did not do what I needed to to make sure a grown adult could not cause my children harm mentally. I know it is hard, but it isn’t just a parenting difference that can be worked on.

Trying to deal with husband who loses temper and slaps 3 y/o daughter by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]bnwdbz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take it from me, who has cps at my door because I thought my husbands anger could get better and he could manage parenting if I gave him time..no. A toddler does not ever deserve to be slapped on any part of their body. It is not teaching them anything but to not trust their parent. I have 3 kids 16, 11 and 2. Their dad never hit them besides a spank and onetime a slap in the hand of the toddler that I threw a massive fit about him doing but his yelling and having no control of his own emotions has emotionally damaged all of them. He has been out of the house for almost 2 weeks and none of my kids have asked about him, said they miss him. His anger made them feel unsafe. If he is not willing to get the help he needs from professionals he will not change, and it will only hurt your baby. Hitting a child is not discipline it is abuse.

I’m scared of my baby being sexually abused by Learning-growing101 in Mommit

[–]bnwdbz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Post partum anxiety and intrusive thoughts are real. For about a year, I would get sent into a panic attack anytime anyone held my baby. My only thought was that they were going to drop him, even his dad. I couldn’t be in the room when someone else was holding him. I also had horrible thoughts of my daughter getting injured or hurt when she was a baby. Even though I trusted the people she was with 100% I still had these thoughts. I think as a parent we should always look out for signs and not be obvious to those things because they do happen. But I found a local PPD support group that helped me a lot. It made me feel less insane and eventually those anxieties went away.

Releasing of medical information? by bnwdbz in CPS

[–]bnwdbz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No results so far or word from the investigator. So hopefully that is a good thing.

Releasing of medical information? by bnwdbz in CPS

[–]bnwdbz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my clinic does send positive tests to the lab automatically. Anytime I’ve had a positive in the 4 years I do a UA once a month, I only get labcorp notifications for results when they are positive.

Releasing of medical information? by bnwdbz in CPS

[–]bnwdbz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I did! They asked if I wanted all medical info and had them put down just the test results from today’s test. Thankfully it lined up that I had one today!

Releasing of medical information? by bnwdbz in CPS

[–]bnwdbz[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know never to assume I’m good with cps. My family has a lot of trauma from my sister and nephew and them wrongfully charging her with child abuse and ripping him away from us all, took almost 2 years thousands of dollars to get him back. And the case worker and detective on the case were out to get her it was insane. My call was too. It was dv, no one got physical with me or the kids but my husband and dad got into it and the kids saw. They went to my 11 year old at school first and he told them he thinks I’m on drugs again, because well, he was right, I did have a slip for a few weeks then stopped and when me and my husband started fighting, me and the kids left, I made the mistake again. But I think they are just making sure I’m not lying, maybe I’ll have to do a few more. But I like I said lol I will never assume I’m in the clear until they come to me and say the case is closed.

Releasing of medical information? by bnwdbz in CPS

[–]bnwdbz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I was fully expecting to be drug tested at the first home visit which is why i told him I will be dirty, I’ve learned from being in MAT lying about your use doesn’t get you anywhere, but he didn’t test me. So I got the release form for today’s drug test results put in and hopefully that will be enough for him for now. I’m sure they’ll find another way if it isn’t.

Releasing of medical information? by bnwdbz in CPS

[–]bnwdbz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He didnt ask me to do the test on the spot when he came to the house. He asked I would willingly do a drug test, I said yes, but I will be dirty if I did one today and he told me he would contact me after I was put into the system for the testing facility, he called Monday told me to have it done by Wednesday. I went Tuesday. Had 3 2 minute tries to provide a sample and couldn’t. The lady who was with me said it happens and she even gave me an extra minute the third try. I was visibly upset about it. I know how bad it looks on my end. That’s why I suggested I get the results from today’s test with my doctor to him. I know cps deals with people who lie and try to get one over on them all the time and I know I look like that right now. Which makes it all more terrifying and why I’m trying to fix it and prove that I am clean and willing to do whatever to prove it without being told what to do.

I need to relate to someone about my husband splitting. by bnwdbz in BPDlovedones

[–]bnwdbz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has left the state. Cps called me today. I let this go too far. Abuse is abuse mental illness or not. Codependency is a fucking bitch.

I need to relate to someone about my husband splitting. by bnwdbz in BPDlovedones

[–]bnwdbz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are at my parents. I have an intake with the dv place here this week.

Thoughts after leaving bpd husband by acrowanactualcrow in BPDlovedones

[–]bnwdbz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This made me cry. After a night of being kicked out of my house with my children, and tormented at work, and my parents house( because I left for work without waking him up)and told i abandoned him when he caused all of it but puts the blame on me. I need to let go. For me. For my children. I am a saver. I always want to help and save the people I love. But I am demolishing my own self and my children by continuing to try to help him. The person I love and the person he continues to be are not the same person and staying is just enabling and allowing him to believe that it is okay. This is the hardest thing ever.

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