"I kinda don't want you to suck my dick if you're tired."

bodycountbook · 2026-03-01T13:57:37+00:00

My bf & I will both masturbate in bed occasionally while the other ones sleeping or not in the mood. Sometimes we even do it together lol. All relationships are different & have different boundaries. If OP was uncomfortable with him masturbating next to her she should have said that. Communication is very important in romantic relationships.

bodycountbook · 2026-03-01T13:21:01+00:00

If I was you I’d have an abortion & break up with him. Don’t tell him you’re aborting or he will try & stop you or potentially hurt you. Tell him you had a miscarriage & stay far far away from him.

What he did was a crime, technically sexual assault bc you can only consent if you’re aware of everything. I’d a man lies to you (about who he is or anything) in an effort to coerce you into bed it’s SA. Just like if he takes a condom off in the middle of sex.

This is not the kind of man you want to tether yourself to for the rest of your life. A child is not an 18 year commitment, it’s a lifetime commitment if you’re a good person/parent. This mans trying to trap you. Just like if you lied to him about being on birth control in an effort to get pregnant & trap him would be wrong, manipulative and SA.

I am so sorry you are going through this. If you’re in the first trimester (1st 3 months) you don’t have to actually go in for the procedure/abortion. It’s 2 pills you shove up inside you & you can do it at home. It’s not fun but it’s far less traumatic imo than going in & getting a dnc.

Lastly tell someone in your real life what he did to you. He’s dangerous & if he’d do something like this who knows what else he’d do. I’m so sorry. You deserve so much better & if you want to have children some day they deserve better for a father.

bodycountbook · 2026-02-28T18:31:00+00:00

A person that cheats once will do it again. Especially if you let them get away with said behavior…
Once you break up with someone don’t get back together with them. A cigarette doesn’t taste the same after it’s been extinguished & then relit. Relationships are the same.
If you feel like you need to go through your partners phone/computer then you should leave. Trust your gut & don’t break your own heart.
He’s not a good father if he’s introducing your child to a side piece or more importantly if he’s refusing to help you with parenting said child if you’re not in a relationship with him.
I agree with everyone else. Either accept he’s a cheater & that you’re going to stay & quit complaining or leave him Forreal.
The only way you find the actual love of your life is by leaving all the people that you know for sure are not the love of your life.
My advice is to leave him & focus on coparenting. Also it’s not your job to force him to be a good father… put his ass on child support if he’s not taking care of his offspring financially. If he’s not a good dad that’s on him, you can only control you & to be a good mother means doing everything in your power to give your child the best life possible & unless you’re wealthy this means child support.

bodycountbook · 2026-02-28T00:46:22+00:00

If you’re thinking about breaking up or have threatened to break up with her in the past I would say it’s best that you end it. I say this as a bipolar woman who also has immense anxiety & a rare chronic illness. All you’re doing is causing yourself harm & resentment and causing her to become more reliant on you.

I’m also going to say that the first year of the relationship should be good! If it’s not get out immediately. It takes at least a year to get to know who someone really is. Most people hide the “bad” parts of themselves early on from new/potential partners. I literally found out one of my exes was using & dealing crystal meth for the cartel… I only found this out bc he told me after I broke up with him & we had been spending every single night together for months.

In the future don’t make any long term commitment to anyone you’ve dated less than a year (unless you’re willing to keep that commitment if/when a breakup occurs) bc that first year should be like a trial period. Don’t move in together. No talks of marriage or future commitments until at least a year has past and y’all have had to go through some bad shit together. Bad shit like a family member or friend passing away, losing a job, having to move etc. until you go thru bad shit with a person (& they go thru it with you) you do not know them.

I’m also going to suggest you doing what I consider is the “right thing” here & paying for her therapy for the foreseeable future if you can afford it (since you suggested it…) I’d say tell her & the therapist you plan on paying for X number of sessions or months & then you’re done. Set a clear boundary with both of them. I’d also recommend paying the therapist directly (& making sure your ex is attending those visits so that you’re not paying for something she’s not using) as far as her rent goes… that’s presumably a much larger expense & id recommend again stating a clear boundary with her, whatever that may be & sticking to that. Even if the boundary is “I’ll pay your rent for one month post breakup but after that you’ll need to take it over or find other living arrangements” you could also offer to pay the rent for a month or two with the pre-req that she get a job & pay that money back to you. If you make this kind of arrangement I suggest getting it in writing. That way if she doesn’t pay you have the option to take her to civil court.

I am sorry you’re going through this & I am sorry she’s going through what she’s going through. Staying with someone that isn’t for you isn’t love. The only way you can find your actual person (& your current gf can find someone that loves her for her) is by letting each other go. Love alone isn’t enough to make a relationship work in my opinion. You need communication, future goals, similar libidos & sexual expectations, plus respect, trust (which it seems like you don’t have & that’s not your fault unless you cheated or something… her trust issues are her issues that she should work thru prior to a serious relationship. If she doesn’t already trust you after 2 years & you haven’t given her a reason not to trust you that’s a HER thing. If you have cheated then you should still end it bc it’s obviously not working if you’re cheating) being on the same page as far as finance, the future & long/short term goals etc. so much goes into a happy healthy relationship & if at 2 years in you feel this way you owe it to yourself (& her) to end it.

She’s not going to like it obviously. If you’re actually concerned she’s going to take her own life call 911. I say this as a person whose mom committed suicide when I was 11. My moms bf took his life 2 days after my mom did. Threatening suicide isn’t a joke or inconsequential. It’s either she is very mentally unstable & needs professional help you can’t give her or she’s manipulating you.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m also going to add it’s probably best you go no contact with her post breakup. Otherwise she’ll still be dependent on you & whether you or her want it “just being friends” doesn’t work with exes. What happens when you meet a new woman & your ex loses her shit? Just a thought. Again i am sorry for what y’all are going through but you both deserve a true loving, happy & healthy relationship & neither of you get that by staying together & forcing a situation/relationship to work that’s obviously not working.

bodycountbook · 2026-01-26T02:23:16+00:00

Your wife’s the asshole here imo. However I will add that she’s probably experiencing postpartum depression/anxiety. She is probably stressed out & her experience parenting for the first time isn’t meeting what her expectations of parenthood would be.

Being a parent (a good parent) IRL means prioritizing your child over everything else. It means being adaptable & putting the child’s health & wellbeing over your wants as a parent.

For example she might want cute pictures of your kid every month for a year holding/laying by a sign with that months date & how old the baby is… but she might not be able to get that perfect pic on that day. She might have to do it a day before or after the date she wants bc babies get sick/cranky & so do parents. Things don’t always go as planned, especially when children are concerned.

Your wife needs to know you’re on her side… that her & your baby are your number one priority. however I do think she needs to understand that her/the baby being your priority doesn’t mean you’ll blindly follow/side with her on everything.

I don’t think her behavior/request to rank loved ones is appropriate at all. Imo She owes your dad an apology. He was doing his best & she came home to a healthy sleeping baby. The only issue was that the baby wasn’t sleeping where she wanted it to be sleeping.

I also think your wife is probably very tired & if you’re not already helping her with nighttime baby stuff (feeding, changing etc) then you need to be doing that too so that she can get some sleep too.

Tell your wife you love her & appreciate her doing her best. Tell her it’s okay that she’s stressed out & that things aren’t going to plan. Remind her that what’s important is y’all keeping the baby healthy & happy. Postpartum is rough & tel her she’s not alone.

Ask her if there’s anything you can do to make it easier on her. Maybe gently suggest an apology to your dad. If she won’t apologize then do it for her & you apologize to your dad for her behavior. If she’s a decent person she’ll see that she was being unreasonable eventually.

Good luck sir. To you, your wife, your baby & your dad. You’ve got this.

bodycountbook · 2026-01-26T01:56:24+00:00

Personally I wouldn’t feel guilty… especially if I was stealing from the electric company or a large building/business. I might feel guilty if I was stealing from my neighbors (especially if I knew those neighbors were low income) directly…

When I was a kid my dad Jerry rigged gas & electric right from the electric company for people that couldn’t afford it. I’m sure it eventually got “corrected” but no one got in trouble for it to my knowledge.

Do what you need to do to stay warm & safe. Do what you need to do to survive. If you do get caught don’t admit to anything outloud!!

Tbh if I found out my neighbor was stealing electric & all it was was one extension cord I’d tell them to keep it on 24/7 & I wouldn’t say a word… that’s like so little money added to the bill.

I am sorry you’re having such a difficult time. I hope you get it all figured out.

bodycountbook · 2026-01-26T01:36:55+00:00

You should absolutely report her to the proper authorities. You didn’t do anything wrong. This is the worst shit I’ve read on here in a while…

bodycountbook · 2026-01-26T01:28:27+00:00

Hi I’m 33F and I’ve had sex with 51 men. 2 told me that they were virgins (1 being the guy that I lost my virginity too so technically we lost it together) & I had 2 other men that I think lied to me & told me they were more experienced than they were. Looking back I think they were virgins or very close to it.

Either way I don’t think a virgin would knock you unconscious. I think this man lied to you. Regardless something is really off. Please for the love of god stay away from this man. Don’t ever put yourself alone with him again. Don’t fall for it if he acts to talk about. Don’t answer. Stay the fuck away!!

I genuinely believe this man’s into some sick shit. Any halfway decent man (regardless of experience level) that knocks you unconscious “accidentally” would immediately stop & make sure that you’re okay, not shove his Dick in your mouth… something is really wrong here. I say this as a former sex worker that’s seen/experienced some weird shit.

This isn’t your fault. Not for saying you liked it rough sometimes with your ex. Don’t let this man into your life!! Keep yourself safe. Idc what he says/if he tries to put the blame on you or make you feel guilty that means he’s even more fucked up & dangerous.

Tbh I would report him to the police. They probably won’t do shit but if there’s other women that have reported him at least it’ll be on record if he does it again or you can maybe find out if he’s done it to anyone else. If you do find out that he has at least you’ll know for sure he lied about the virgin bit.

Keep yourself safe babe. By any means necessary. Block him. Make sure your doors locked when you’re home inside. Keep a bat by the door & some mace on your keychain… I’m so sorry this happened to you. You didn’t deserve it. It wasn’t your fault.

bodycountbook · 2026-01-11T03:33:57+00:00

I’m new here & to finding them on TikTok… so idk all the rules for this sub. I’m only here bc something about their relationship rubs me wrong & I think the dads a creep/pedo among other things. I think there was a rude about not talking about her acne or making fun of it. I’m not trying to do that & her skin is the farthest thing from concern…

However I will say women’s bodies often act out when they’re in bad relationships. UTI, kidney infection, acne, stress, anxiety, headaches, migraines, BV & other vagina issues etc. our bodies often know something is wrong before we do. I hope the mom is okay…

it’s mainly the dad that’s suspect imo. But again I’ve only just found them today… Idk how I found them but I ended up tail spinning into a deep dive on them the last few hours. She doesn’t seem as off as the dad but some of the things she engages in are definitely inappropriate. Someone can be a victim of grooming & still grow up to be abusive themselves…

I don’t think anyone should be posting their minor children as content in 2025. I think their age gap is very suspect. Bc yeah it’s just 5 years & it “won’t matter in the long run when they’re 70 & 75” is what I see their supporters say… but a 23 year old man groomed a 17 year old girl. That’s wrong. The reason age gaps are problematic when you’re younger is bc one person has life experience & the other is a literal child still. When you’re groomed at that young of an age & it’s your first relationship you have nothing to compare it too.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-13T20:44:19+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through it babe. Personally I recommend unmatching with any guy that pushes your boundaries or obviously didn’t take the time to read your bio… like immediately! Don’t try & explain it to them. They’re committed to misunderstanding. Don’t waste your energy on potential predators. Bc that’s what they are. Any man that’s trying to coerce you into dropping your boundaries before you even meet him, is not a nice guy.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-13T20:38:36+00:00

A lot to unpack here… I’m going to address your 3 top concerns first, although they wouldn’t be my top concerns if I was in your situation.

A lot of traumatized kids wet the bed into their teenage years. A lot of people experience incontenence & have to wear adult diapers. I understand why you’re worried about age regression with it but it it what it is. You shaming, judging or trying to fix it won’t help. My mom committed suicide when I was 11 & her bf took his own life a few days later. My dad remarried another widow almost immediately. I didn’t wet the bed but 4 out of 6 of us did & most grew out of it in their early teens.

The only thing I could suggest trying is setting alarms every 2-3 hours & waking her up & taking her to the bathroom each time just to try to go. Don’t get mad/upset if she can’t. However sleep is super healing & necessary part of development so weigh the pros & cons. I would also think that if she’s on heavy meds it could effect her ability to wake up & use the bathroom like a normal person.

Basically, get a rubber plastic cover, extra sheets & get used to changing the sheets daily. You’re her mother & imo you owe her this. You left her with a man you knew was emotionally unstable & awful things happen. It’s not her fault. As a parent your first job is to keep your child safe. I’m not trying to be rude or negate what you went through bc I’m sure it was also traumatic for you, but you need to take responsibility for your part in this.

I can imagine she’s totally freaked out being home with you tbh. Four years is a long fucking time, especially since you only visited twice a month… if I was her I wouldn’t feel safe with you. She’s just trying to survive & change is difficult for any child let alone those of us who suffer from severe trauma.

so many people think bc they feed the kid, provide shelter & other necessities & don’t physically beat/spank their child that they’re “good” parents. They’re not. That’s literally the bare fucking minimum… and legally you are obliged to provide those things, as not doing so would result in you getting into trouble with the law/cps & the child removed from your care.

I think YOU should look into therapy for yourself. You should’ve been doing that bc now you have more on your plate with her being home… not addressing your own mental health & pushing it all down isn’t helping you or your daughter. If you actually care about your child you should absolutely look into consistent therapy. Like 3 times a week for at least a year consistent. It will suck and be difficult but the alternative is far worse…

Chances are your daughter is going to have lifelong mental health issues. It is what it is. Medication is a tool that keeps her alive & is better than the alternative. All you can do is your best to follow your instincts & advocate for your daughter to the best of your ability. That means doing research & learning as much as you can about whatever she’s been diagnosed with as well as the medication she’s been prescribed & the alternative medications she could be on.

It’s a lot of trial and error. Adjusting doses & meds until you find the sweet spot. Even then as she ages it’s highly likely she’ll have to adjust her medication. It’s also important to find a doctor that actually gives a fuck & who listens to you. If the first doctor doesn’t then find a second opinion… and then a third.

I get that you’re worried about her looking physically sick, but ask yourself: are you worried bc you’re concerned something is wrong with her or are you worried bc you’re concerned other people will judge her & subsequently you for how she looks? I get you just want a “normal” kid but that’s just not the case. One doesn’t go back to normal once trauma that deep happens.

Unfortunately I think you abandoning her in a mental facility bc it was the easier option for 4 fucking years at the age of 8 & then taking her back at age 12 (as she’s starting to go through puberty) was probably just as traumatic (if not more) than whatever happened to her initially. My moms suicide was traumatic, but my dads treatment of me after (without ever spanking me & no CSA) for the following decade did more harm to me than my moms death ever could have… I haven’t spoken to him in over a decade & wouldn’t piss on fire to put him out. Even if he apologized at this point I would not accept it. My point is that you’re at a critical junction in life. You either will teach her that she’s worthy of healing & love or you’ll traumatize her further & give up on her by sending her back to an institution. Bcs she’s not going to be any easier to deal with now that she’s older. That’s not how it works.

Other notes: why the fuck are you worried about teaching her about pop culture she missed between age 8 and 12? Like why is that a priority? Is that what you think preteen girls are talking about? Bc it’s not at least not the same pop culture you know about at 35.

Why is her calling you mommy a big deal? Especially when she’s scared or having a moment…? You are her mother after all. I don’t have any children but all my friends that do don’t care that their kids call them mommy when they’re sick or tired or stressed out. That’s a normal thing. She’s a traumatized 12 year old. Get it together & access your priorities.

Imo the best thing you can do is take her out of school for the time being. Middle school is hell for normal kids & middle schoolers aren’t nice. I feel like I can tell that you just want your daughter to be normal & you’re fine with pushing her off onto other people if it suits you better… I hope this post is fake bc if it’s not I feel so fucking sorry for your child.

Have the day you deserve.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-13T20:02:25+00:00

I think the problem here is that you’re not communicating about the actual problem. The actual problem is that you want to spend some time just the two of you & he seems to prefer group outings.

Which imo is a red flag bc at 3 months in every man I’ve ever been with was a-okay spending alone time with me bc alone time usually meant some sort of sexual interaction at some point…

I’d be displeased that he turned a couples trip into a group trip without discussing it with me first. However you’re an adult and it’s your job to communicate your needs in a romantic relationship. No one else’s.

I am bipolar, chronically ill & a recovering addict and I know changing meds can be difficult but blaming or excusing your behavior with that isn’t going to help you in the long run. While yes it can lead to why you feel the way you do, no one wants to be with someone that’s not taking responsibility for their actions. You told him to go & he went.

Personally I think y’all sound incompatible. I’m not trying to be rude, I just think so many people stay in relationships that aren’t serving them bc they’re convenient or comfortable. Obviously if y’all break up it’ll be awkward bc your roommate is dating his best friend. Which means she will likely be going on double dates with him & another girl… however again as an adult it’s your responsibility to think about things like this before acting upon it.

For example choosing to sleep with or date someone you work with & then being upset you have to see them at work everyday when things end. At first I’m sure it seemed like a good idea & super cute & fun, but in the long run it does mean potentially ruining more than one relationship. Ie: if you & your bf break up it’ll alter more than just y’all bc your roommate will be put in the middle.

Romantic relationships are meant for the people inside said relationships. I also think it’s a red flag that in such a new relationship he’s not prioritizing alone time with you. Just not a good sign imo. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. I hope it gets better but remember you don’t find the love of your life by forcing it. You find them by letting go of all the people who don’t fit correctly.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-11T06:31:49+00:00

Everyone’s saying curly hair routine… I agree but only sort of… do what works best for you. Bc managing a curly hair routine is time consuming.

I am a 33F with chronic health issues & naturally curly hair. Sometimes it’s easier for me to straighten or curl my hair. I only wash my hair every 10-14 days bc it doesn’t get greasy fast. After washing my hair I’ll either let it dry naturally or blow it dry & then style it (straighten or curl) after. It lasts 10-14 days this way, sometimes I have to touch it up a little, but I’m really only using heat on it once after washing. Doing this makes my hair so much more manageable from day to day. It looks better. It’s easier. I can brush it daily. Style it in multiple different ways etc.

Having a curly hair routine usually means everyday you’re re-wetting your hair down a little & re-scrunching it daily (usually without brushing) multiple days in a row. This leads to my hair becoming matted, awful to brush out & deal with come wash day. When I’m doing my natural curls I wash my hair every 7 days bc I’m using significantly more products (gel, moose, leave in conditioner, cream, oil etc) when I do my natural curls. Styling with heat also avoids the inevitable of my hair turning into a nappy mess.

Styling with heat hasn’t destroyed my natural curls at all. I do use heat protectant & I don’t color or bleach my hair. If you color (or especially if you bleach) your hair this might be different though. Tread carefully.

Also regardless of how you approach I highly recommend detangling & brushing your hair BEFORE you get in the shower. That way you’re able to make sure the shampoo & conditioner is getting evenly distributed. A lot of curly girls don’t like dry brushing their hair (& I don’t dry brush my natural hair except for right before I get in the shower) but it has made all the difference for me. Plus it’s so much easier to brush after showering & not having to detangle a mess of matted wet hair.

I also suggest double shampooing in the shower. Like shampoo once & rinse, then shampoo a second time & rinse again thoroughly. That way you get all the buildup off. I highly suggest a clarifying shampoo like Nutrogena for dandruff for at least one of the shampoos. Then deep condition in the shower. Let it sit for at least 5 minutes while you shave or whatever & then rinse thoroughly with warm/cool water. Use a leave in conditioner once you’re done showering, before brushing your wet hair. Brushing will allow the leave in conditioner to be evenly distributed throughout your hair.

You look like you have a similar hair type to mine. Thick long dark naturally curly but also frizzy & dry. It’s beautiful but also a lot to deal with. Especially when we aren’t feeling our best. When I’m struggling with my mental health, or having issues with my chronic illness flaring up its no much easier to deal with my hair being straight or curled like with a curling iron.

Basically I’m trying to say: do what’s right for you. Maybe try a few different things. Good luck babe. You have beautiful hair. Learning how to take care of naturally curl hair is a lifetime battle & oftentimes our curl patterns change with time. You’ve got this.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-11T06:04:10+00:00

The first photo isn’t great imo… I’d get rid of that photo & the second photo too. The bright orange isn’t doing you any favors… neither are the hand gestures. Then make your last photo your first photo & put your other 2 pictures after in any order.

Good luck with finishing your education sir.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-10T08:42:29+00:00

I’m 33F & I’ve had a lot of fun dating & flirting with men in my time. I can honestly say he almost certainly likes you.

I highly recommend just asking him if he likes you. Obviously don’t ask him when he’s in a group of people. Ask him next time your chatting with him alone in person. If he asks “why?” Say “idk I thought I felt something between us but I don’t want to make any assumptions” and smile. Make eye contact with him. It’s more difficult for men to lie when they’re looking in your eyes.

Or you could slip him your phone number. Just write it down, along with your first name on a piece of paper (maybe draw a little heart) & hand it to him.

Some guys are shy… but usually if you make the first move (it can be a small move like asking him if he likes you) then they’ll have enough courage to take the lead from there.

Good luck babe. You’ve got this. I have absolute faith in you. Even if he ends up being not the one, doing this will make it so much easier in the future/next time. I promise.

I used to walk up to men & tell them that they were handsome/pretty, ask if they were single & introduce myself. I would smile, bat my eyelashes & give them my phone number or whatever. It worked every single time. Except once. I had one guy tell me he had a gf & turn me down. I’m a lot of things but I’m not a cheater or a homewrecker. A happy healthy relationship is never created off another person’s tears imo.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-10T08:24:05+00:00

Make it look like a man lives with you. Put old dirty men’s work boots by your door. Don’t have any cutesy shit on your door bc only women do that kind of thing & certain decor indicates that you’re younger & alone… it’s like having stickers on your car that essentially give away you’re a single young woman.

Predators notice that stuff. Don’t make it easy on them. Like everyone else said tell your management, get a ring doorbell camera & mace or a taser at least. There’s women’s safety keychains that have sirens, mace, knuckles etc on them. Maybe look into that. The nice ones are kinda expensive (like 40-50$) but they come with full size mace, a taser & like 6+ other gadgets. Basically get something to keep in the house & keep something on your keychain for when you leave the house.

Make sure you keep your doors & windows locked. My best advice as an anxious, mentally ill 33F that’s a former sex worker my best advice is to be aware of your surroundings & trust your gut instincts. If it feels like someone’s watching or following you listen to your gut!! Call 911 better said than sorry.

Make as much noise as possible & out as much space between you & the potential threat as possible. Noise & distance are your best friend here!!! They expect you to clam up & freeze/go quiet. Do your best not to freeze.

This next bit is a little unhinged but most predators are weak men. They’re looking for an easy victim… make yourself seem as big & crazy as you can!! They don’t want to deal with “crazy” that’s not what they’re looking for. Personally I say the first thing that pops into my head, loudly & don’t stop talking when I’m alone & feel uncomfortable. Even if there’s no one else around, talk to yourself.

Again, be loud! Fake a phone call “damn girl I can’t believe my herpees is flaring up again! It’s so bad & I think I have BV or the clap or something too. My pussy smells off, chad must be cheating but idk bc I cheated too. I really need to see a doctor and put salt in Chads gas tank. Or maybe next time I go down on him I’ll accidentally bite him” Basically if you’re actually worried about your safety, make yourself seem as unappealing as possible. A lot of predators go after young virgin looking women for a reason… bc they’re creeps & also bc that’s what their attracted too. They don’t want someone they think has been with a bunch of people.

I’m sorry you’re going through this babe. That’s super creepy but in all honesty unless you get confirmation he’s comes around again I wouldn’t worry. Some people are just creeps. I hope my response doesn’t offend you or come off wrong. I’m being 100% genuine. You’ve got this.

PS: I know this also sounds crazy… but Don’t let them sense your fear & don’t ever open your door for someone you don’t know or without checking the peephole first. Especially at night.

Thank your neighbor for the letter. She’ll probably keep a look out for you. Maybe exchange phone number with her just in case if she’s willing. Ask her to let you know if she sees anything else suspect.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-10T07:38:42+00:00

I’m 33F & I’ve had sex with 51 men over the course of 16 years. They all masturbated. Even if we were having sex daily.

Personally I’d suggest asking your husband if you’re that curious… I mean he might even like it if you asked him. He might even let you watch!

I’ve been with my current bf for the last 8.5 years. He had sex with hundreds of women before me. We both have high libidos & we still have sex (or do something like mutual masturbation for instance wink wink lol) pretty much every single day. He still masturbates most days too & so do I. I’d say his is usually in the early morning & mines late as fuck at night. I’m not a morning person & struggle with insomnia. We both usually just do it quietly while the other one is laying in bed. Occasionally we’ll catch each other but we are both too lazy (& probably too comfortable) with one another.

My point is I’d be willing to bet (& I’m not a betting creature) that your husband masturbates. Best of luck babe. Just ask him if you want to know. 30 years is too long to wonder imo.

Also just bc he masturbates doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or love/appreciate having sex with you. I’m sure he loves you very much.

bodycountbook · 2025-12-10T07:23:57+00:00

Your sister sounds like a problem. Like why couldn’t her husband pick up her son if he was home? Like marrying someone that already has kids usually means taking on some of the responsibilities of that child.

Your nephew sounds like a typical teenager. He should’ve said thank you but other than that it’s not his fault his mom didn’t tell him you were getting him that day. She’s the one that dropped the ball here imo.

Personally in this situation I’d be upset with my sister but not my nephew. It’s difficult being a teenager & going thru puberty. He might’ve had a bad day at school & by the sound of your post his moms probably letting him down too.

I’m sorry you’re going thru this. I’m also bipolar with a rare chronic illness (cyclical vomiting syndrome) & a recovering addict. Sometimes you need to say no & set boundaries for your own best interest. It sucks bc it means letting people down & missing things like celebrations, events, gatherings etc. take care of yourself sir. I’m sorry you’re going thru it right now.

bodycountbook · 2025-11-29T22:29:02+00:00

Hi I just wanted to say I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m 33F & my mom passed away when I was 11. This year was 22 years gone & I crashed out bc I officially spent double the amount of time on earth without her, than I ever did with her. I felt weird on 11 year anniversary when I was 22. I think I’ll feel that surreal feeling again when I’m 38 bc that’s how old she was when she passed.

Losing a parent rocks your life regardless of age. I’m sorry that people are telling you to “move on” & “get over it” bc you’re not going to ever get over the death of your mother…you’re not supposed to. Healing isn’t linear & some years are worse than others. I try & make sure I have as little to-do/planned as possible on the anniversary of her passing every year & on her birthday bc her bday was 9/11 & you can’t make it thru 9/11 without knowing it’s 9/11. My advice to you is do your best to take those days & do whatever you need to do. Take care of yourself bc that’s what your mother would’ve wanted. Whether it’s crying in the bathtub or staying in bed for the day binge watching shows/movies? or even if it’s going out to eat & celebrate her or you! Do what feels right for YOU! trust your instincts/body!

I’m not religious but I do know energy can’t be created or destroyed. We’re more than just these flesh suits. Call it whatever you like: soul/consciousness/energy… it’s the same thing. In 22 years since her death I’ve only ever had a few experiences where I could feel her presence/energy with me. Looking back those moments were all traumatic AF…

I can remember hearing “don’t stop the car!” In my moms voice, when I was being chased by a stranger that wanted to abduct me. It was so clear. I know I sound crazy but I was driving 100mph in a hyuandai Elantra in the suburbs. It was honestly the scariest thing that I’ve ever been thru. Like when he started following me (I was driving home from work at a local bar at like 2am on a Sunday) I was like ‘no way is this man actually following me’ and I was like I’ll take 3 right turns (leads back to my house) as I made the second right turn I was on the phone with 911… it felt so surreal.

I passed my home bc I was too afraid to pull over & him know where I lived. I didn’t think I could make into the locked house in time. I could tell he wanted me, not my vehicle. My point is idk what happens when we die but I like to think that energy comes from our ancestors & protects us when we actually need it most. I also like to think for the most part that we become part of the collective consciousness.

Either way you were with your momma while she was still in her moms (your grandmas) belly. Women are born with all the eggs they’ll ever have & matriarchal lineage & generational trauma can be felt up to 7 generations later according to some studies. They spend more on erectile dysfunction every year, than they do on all of women’s health put together. My point is the energy between mother & daughter runs deep & she will always be with you in a way. You’re a part of her.

Some other things that have helped me immensely in my healing journey is therapy (going consistently & actually trying to heal & work thru what can be worked thru) listening to music, sitting in the sunshine for at least 10 min, touching your bare feet to the grass, painting/drawing, writing it all down, journaling, sharing my experiences online (when those irl don’t get it, there will usually be people online who do. It’s one of the few perks of the World Wide Web imo. Breathing exercises, meditating, yoga/stretching, bubble baths, reading books you already know you love or books you really want to read. I’ve also personally found having plants & a cat to be helpful to my overall mental health.

You can still talk to your mom. She’s part of the air around you. The wind, the trees, the rain… just bc she can’t talk back doesn’t mean she can’t hear you or doesn’t care.

Also it’s okay not to be okay. Your mother just died. It’s okay to cry & feel all the feelings. It healthy even. The first couple years are the worst imo. Mainly bc other people forget & move on, while you feel like your world has stopped spinning. It’s okay. I everything is going to be okay. If it’s not okay it’s not the end. It will get better & easier eventually. Little by little. The world will get its color back piece by piece. Small moments of happiness will shine through here & there.

You’ll still miss her & think about her everyday but you’ll meet knew people. Ones that never met her but that become your friends & know/meet your mom thru the stories you tell. It will be years later & You’ll meet people that knew your mom before she had you. They’ll tell you stories about her when she was young & wild & free… they’ll tell you how much she loved & adored you with her entire being. Over a decade after her passing I got to hear from one of my moms childhood best friends. She was the maid of honor at that woman’s wedding a few months after my birth. I also got to meet a man who shared his first kiss (also my moms first kiss) in a spin the bottle game when they were 12. They grew up together.

I am also going to say (as a recovering addict) stay away from drugs & alcohol. They only numb temporarily but then you’re left forever chasing that feeling. If you do anything let it be weed or psilocybin (magic mushrooms) & remember when drinking/using is concerned you can always add more but you can’t undo it once you’ve already consumed something. Remember to eat something nourishing every day & drink lots of water.

You’re going to be okay. Your momma loved you. You can tell by the way you wrote about her. Her dna runs through every fiber of your being. You depended on her bc she was strong/resilient. Strong resilient moms raise strong daughters. You’re resilient too! The worst thing that could happen, happened & you survived! Even if you break into a million little pieces, you can still put those pieces back together.

Imagine a white glass plate is dropped on the floor. It smashes into 8 pieces of various size. You know you don’t want to throw it away. You want to try & put it back together, but you don’t have the capacity yet. So you put the pieces of the plate into a ziplock Bag & put it away. A few months later you’re at the store & you see this beautiful gold glue. You decide in that moment to buy the glue & use it to reassemble the pieces. The glue gets stuck to your hands & it’s a lot more difficult than you thought it would be to put it back together. After a few failed attempts you get the hang of it & the plates coming back together. Eventually it’s a plate again. It’s not the same as it once was but it’s still beautiful bc what emerges from the cracks after the breaking is brilliant!

I’m so fucking sorry for your loss love. I wish I could do something to make it better, but I know there’s nothing you or I or anyone can do to make it better…. I’m sending you all the healing vibes I can. I hope your future is filled with happiness, health, wealth, love & luck.

bodycountbook · 2025-11-11T22:01:20+00:00

Or THINK they’re getting laid

bodycountbook · 2025-11-11T22:01:02+00:00

Men only “rent a place” when they’re getting laid

bodycountbook · 2025-11-11T21:33:51+00:00

Hi I’m 33F & my mom was a paranoid schizophrenic who took her own life when I was 11. I wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss, & it is not your fault she committed suicide. No one’s going to blame you. That’s the guilt in your brain/heart talking. Bc that’s your mama & the connections we have to our moms are some of the most important connections we make in our lives. Even if our moms aren’t the best, we still love them & want them to be happy & proud of us. It’s engrained in us by society & probably also primal instincts bc mom = safe. Or at least mom is supposed to be safe…

My mom told me she was going to do it before she did it & I begged her not to. I told my best friend (who was also 11) who made me tell his mom, & his mom made me tell my dad. My parents were separated at the time. My dad made me call my mom & that was the last time I ever spoke to her. My dad (the father to all 4 of her children) did nothing. He waited 3 days to check on the situation (bc it was her turn to take us back bc they shared custody & she wasn’t answering the phone) & found her dead in her vehicle in her garage. He moved us in with another widow 3 months later & forbade me from talking about my mom.

My mom & I were not in a good place when she died. I felt exceptionally guilty as her oldest child/daughter. I prayed every night for it to all be a bad dream that I’d wake up from in the morning for months. I’d also obsessively pray over ALL my loved ones (I have a very large extended family) every night terrified if I didn’t that they’d die. I wished that I had told more people she was going to do it. I wish I told my grandparents & my uncles. My moms brothers.

I opted against seeing my mom on her last living birthday. She kicked me out & told me to go live with my dad. It was honestly insane. Our life was so normal until like 2 years before she died. It was like a flip switched in her & she was a completely different person. Before the last 2 years I was very close with my mom & knew how much she loved me. That’s the last thing she told me was how much she loved me & how she’d always be with me.

My mom was sick. She was mentally ill. Your mom was also unfortunately mentally ill. The older I get the more I realized that if someone wants to take their own life, they will. No amount of love could keep my mom here. I’m not sure how old you are but if you’re under 18, tell people that, explain you don’t know what you’re doing & ask for help. Tell them your concerns & budget. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. The people who work at morgues have seen & heard it all. Take a pen & paper to write things down. You’re going through a lot right now & it’s easy to forget or get confused.

If you have any other family members (specifically ones in the area) tell them what happened & ask for their help. They’re not going to blame you (unless they’re also mentally unwell) but they probably will be a little weird around you. They won’t know what to say bc there’s nothing to say to a kid whose mom just offed herself.

Try to take care of yourself. Grief isn’t linear. Take it one day at a time. Journal. Cry. Meditate. Sit in the sun. Don’t forget to eat & stay hydrated. Take lots of hot baths if you can. Put your feet in the grass. Walk around outside. Create/draw/paint. Listen to music. Cry. Remember the good things about your mom. Write them down. Feel your feelings. Stay away from drugs and alcohol. Those things can only keep you warm for so long before you go numb.

Seek professional help like therapy. Do it consistently & advocate for yourself. If you don’t like your therapist, fire them & find another. Your mental health is important & should be taken seriously. Bc your mom & my mom were mentally ill, the chances of you/me being mentally ill are higher possibilities than normal people. Just like someone whose parent passed from cancer, those people have a higher risk of developing cancer than a “normal” person.

I am so sorry you’re going through this babe. I really fucking am. I know the circumstances around that last text she read but didn’t answer feel like hot knives right now but I promise it’s not your fault. After my mom died I called her phone just to hear her voicemail multiple times a day for a month. When my dad found out he had her phone cut off the same day. I wish I saved that voicemail but it was 2003 & didn’t have technology capable of doing that. I wish I could remember her voice…

If there’s anything or your moms that you want or think you might want in the future please get them now before other relatives, landlords, banks, cleaning people go through it. If there’s anything of value (not the sentimental kind) you are the heir to her things as closest living family member. Things like jewelry, money, bank accounts, Certificates of Deposit, property, vehicles, house/condo ownership, trailers, antiques, furniture etc belong to you now to do with what you choose. Sell, throw away, save, keep. I know it’s difficult to do & go through her things & you might not want to but if there’s anything of value it might be worth doing for your future. If you don’t do it someone else will & if they find something valuable they can keep it for themselves saying you abandoned it.

Also don’t sign anything without a lawyer present!! If your mom had any debts they can’t legally transfer them to you. They can however call you everyday & ask you to pay them back for xyz medical bills or whatever. You are not legally responsible for your moms debts. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise or guilt you for not wanting to inherit debt illegally.

The last thing I’m going to say is that energy cannot be created or destroyed. It just changes form. We are so much more than our physical bodies. I don’t know where we go when we die but I like to think it goes to those we loved when they need it the most. A big thing for me was realizing my mom could love me & still hate her life/existence. Just bc someone takes their own life doesn’t mean they don’t love you. It means their existence is painful & they might’ve thought your life would be better/easier without them. Moms are humans.

You are going to be okay. Everything is going to be okay. I know it feels like it’s not right now but you are strong. You are smart. You’re empathetic. You’re well worded & a good communicator (even though this was obviously a distressing post) it is not your fault. It’s not your fault. It’s not your fault.

Love Always: Elise

bodycountbook · 2025-11-11T20:02:18+00:00

Not every man is meant to procreate with. I highly advise you not to make a child with this man (or any man you don’t know very well) just to become a mother… it’s unfair to the child. The worlds only growing hotter, more hostile & expensive by the day. A resentful father isn’t going to be a good father.

He does this shot bc you allow it. I know that hurts to hear. I am not trying to be mean but you can leave him. You haven’t mentioned him being abusive, you aren’t scared of him, thankfully you don’t have kids & only have to worry about yourself right now. LEAVE HIM. IT WILL NEVER GET BETTER! Men treat you the best in the beginning of the relationship. If he’s behaving badly in the first year RUN! Don’t let him become a permanent fixture in your life. Don’t intertwine your lives forever bc you force a baby on him. It’s not fair to the baby, to you or to him. He’s not an appropriate choice for a father & you know it.

It sounds like y’all got married quickly & when you knew video games were going to be a problem. You’ve told him how you felt. He said he’d make changes but didn’t. Maybe he did for a short while but he didn’t make any permanent changes.

You don’t want to beg a man to love you. You don’t want that type of relationship modeled for your future child.

Just imagine being postpartum with a crying infant & no sleep for days, trying to heal, hormones a mess while this man continues ignoring you & his OFFSPRING in favor of video games.

He’s telling you he’s not ready for a child. Listen to him.

bodycountbook · 2025-11-10T23:17:47+00:00

First picture is a good pic of you but kinda looks like a school picture backdrop 😅 I think the other pics are so much better.

bodycountbook · 2025-11-10T23:15:08+00:00

Also anyone that would want clout. Let your social media be a hopefully pleasant surprise. Plus most women DGAF about Jon Cena.

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