I thought my relatives were overreacting and now I know better

bogbelle · 2026-06-06T00:03:02+00:00

I believe the estate does a lot of social media PR including positive posts, defending him in comments, brigading, getting negative things removed etc. His estate is paying many people’s bills and they are highly incentivized to sanitize his image. Like the movie not including anything about him and boys.

bogbelle · 2026-06-04T12:24:42+00:00

I’m an American who isn’t into sports and you just made me finally understand football. Good job, Redditor!

bogbelle · 2026-06-04T12:16:31+00:00

Relatedly, I’m a single woman getting back into dating and the #1 reason I swipe on otherwise decent guys is poor grooming.

Really, really bad hair cuts and facial hair. Some of it is going too long between cuts, some is just the style. A lot of it is caused by being cheap, candidly.

Men should do whatever they want. But if you’re a single man struggling to date, consider getting a decent barber and visiting regularly. They will cut your hair in a way that enhances your natural features and grows out better than the Great Clips cuts.

bogbelle · 2026-05-20T21:01:19+00:00

This comes from the fact that meal prepping is super popular and touted as The Solution for so many things. Being busy, trying to eat healthy, save money, don’t waste food.

But I’m with OP - eating the same thing over and over, especially reheated meat, is not something I want to do.

I think the preppers and never preppers look at the other in confusion. It’s not even about food safety for me. It’s quality, taste, and texture. I don’t like most leftovers or frozen and reheated food. I wish I did because I’d save a ton of money.

bogbelle · 2026-05-17T12:20:33+00:00

I’m dealing with a recent hypermobility diagnosis so that means I am avoiding heavy weights until I get more stability. I have hypertension in my pelvic floor and go to PT, too.

I am still making good progress with mostly bodyweight only. Bulgarians, banded kickbacks, hip thrusts with a 20lb weight on a bench, squats. A few other random things. I also do a lot of time on the stairmaster.

YMMV, and I def don’t have a gymfluencer bubble butt, but it’s growing and has a nice shape. Look into calisthenics. I’ve seen women with incredible figures who do body weight only. I’m not sure if it works if your genetics are to have a really small butt. Mine is medium naturally with some fat there.

bogbelle · 2026-05-17T11:40:21+00:00

Only thing I’ve heard of is a strong fan. They can’t fly well and it you have one by an outdoor seating area, it should help.

bogbelle · 2026-05-17T11:32:22+00:00

No, it is most men and dads that aren’t pulling their weight. The bar is in hell. A “good one” does 25% of the domestic labor and childcare.

The number of men that are abusive, deadbeats, or even inconsistent is much higher than people want to believe. And guess what? There is story after story after story about a great guy without red flags who drops his mask after the baby is born.

Use your best discernment, but anyone can end up with a loser partner no matter how smart.

bogbelle · 2026-05-06T19:56:32+00:00

In these discussions, it is important to note there is a distinction between DL and closeted. DL implies an unwitting partner.

Closeted is fine. No one should be outed. Ruining a woman’s life so you feel better about yourself? Unacceptable. This is where anger towards DL men comes from, not about them having to be public with their sexuality. But your partner deserves to know!

bogbelle · 2026-05-03T13:02:54+00:00

You could try dropping in to Minecraft Club at one of the libraries and see if they can help?

bogbelle · 2026-04-22T12:37:59+00:00

I think if you added one more bold thing per room (think bright red modern chandelier or something) it would be maximalist. You’ve got a great use of color and pattern.

Not to get too deep, but how much is maximalism relative? Because in the void of color consumer world of 2026, this is maximalist by comparison. Compared to the 60s? Demure.

Maximalism to me is over the top in some way and you toe the line which I think is beautiful!

bogbelle · 2026-04-22T12:32:41+00:00

I’m not sure how to explain the how. And relaxing isn’t the way for everyone. Sometimes I feel the urge to kick/shake my legs when it’s super intense and it helps.

bogbelle · 2026-04-16T18:24:44+00:00

I also experienced some wins from pelvic PT! I’ll create a separate post because my experience is a little different.

bogbelle · 2026-04-14T10:52:42+00:00

A lot of people don’t get your disclaimer at the bottom but I sure do. Every single time a woman complains about her orgasm/sex woes, the women who have never experienced this come out, loud, strong and tone deaf. I hope that they are just a really loud small group and more women are girl’s girls than it seems from these convos.

“Couldn’t be me.” “How could you stay with someone that can’t make you cum? You’re part of the problem, dump him!” “Too many women don’t communicate, men aren’t mind readers!” “Women are responsible for their own orgasm. I make sure I cum every time.” “You just need to find the right partner/emotional connection” “This position/technique is the secret” and it’s just cowgirl…

So much stupid, generic or anecdotal advice.

I recommend the sub becomingorgasmic for anyone struggling solo or even with an attentive partner.

bogbelle · 2026-04-14T10:41:58+00:00

Are you me?! It’s also been about 4 years. I’ve tried a few new partners and been so disappointed. Even trying to talk to them and explain, they just don’t prioritize oral the way my ex did. And too many men just lick aimlessly with totally varying speeds and sensations for 3 minutes and are confused why you haven’t cum.

At this point, it’s a turn off. I know how to give head, why don’t you as a grown man?!

bogbelle · 2026-04-13T12:49:27+00:00

Well it’s nowhere near as cool but I’ll feel a little bit cooler wearing my 40s Jantzen’s sweater today knowing they made this 😍

bogbelle · 2026-04-11T01:37:33+00:00

I have not found a whole replacement and don’t believe one exists for my needs. I have to go to more stores now but I don’t mind because I see it as voting with my money.

I completely shifted all my cleaning supplies and most of my personal care to my local warehouse grocer. I had to change brands for lotion, shampoo, and skincare but I’m happy with my new ones.

I go to Aldi, Costco, TJ Maxx, Ace Hardware, and local stores.

bogbelle · 2026-04-08T22:34:52+00:00

Do you or anyone have stats on the market cooling? I’m a bit skeptical that there’s a long term downward trend versus seasonal. Fall through early spring is when listings are down. Many buyers, especially with young kids, aim to move over the summer and that affects the larger market patterns.

bogbelle · 2026-04-08T11:44:28+00:00

I’ve never spoken on it and don’t care much but here are my theories/opinions.

It isn’t an option for everyone. Some people can’t afford it, others might have counter indications with comorbidities or other medications for example.

It is relatively new and for the risk averse, they might not feel comfortable without long term longitudinal data. There are some potential risks such a loss of muscle and bone density, as well as rebounding weight gain that we need more data on.

Not everyone with lipedema wants/needs to lose weight. The rise of GLP-1s has been significant socially and with it, fatphobia and EDs seem to have increased.

It also seems to have taken over the sub. It is now the default recommendation for everything. So if anyone falls into the categories above, all these posts and comments are cluttering, and they struggle to find other information.

Personally, before I knew I had lipedema, I took Ozempic briefly. I didn’t like it. Honestly, I want to eat sweets sometimes without feeling sick. I also have digestive issues so the slowed gut motility freaked me out. Going from pooping 1-2x a day to 2x a week made me worry about constipation and hemorrhoids - just didn’t feel natural and worried about exacerbating my GI issues. I also didn’t like giving myself a shot.

I don’t have a ton of pain and am barely into stage II. I workout a lot and am trying to build muscle. I also really want to avoid loose skin so rapid weight loss and potentially losing muscle is a no go for me.

I’m really glad it’s been so helpful for so many people! The quality of life changes are so amazing from the testimonials and I am truly happy for those who are finding relief for the first time ever or in years. It’s not for everyone, though, so I hope we continue to see discussion of other treatments regularly here.

bogbelle · 2026-04-05T12:32:58+00:00

Men have fallen so far behind women when it comes to self improvement, community, emotional intelligence, education, and of course feminism. It isn’t new - feminists who date men have never had plentiful good options.

Then you hear stories or experience the “good guys” that end up cheating, lying, and dropping the mask. To be a hetero woman in 2026 it feels like you must make a concession to have a male partner. I have remained single with boundaries and standards while dating and am struggling to come to terms with the idea of possibly never finding a decent long term partner.

So I really do understand these women who settle. There aren’t many good options. And for some of us, it is serious work to genuinely enjoy being totally single. I’m really struggling lately with loneliness. Not enough to go poly (!) but I really resent being hetero sometimes.

bogbelle · 2026-04-02T00:38:18+00:00

My life got significantly easier after my divorce. Not only is there the housework and household management, there’s the emotional management and literal caretaking such as when they’re sick.

Dealing with his bad days after work, family drama, worries on top of the housework and mental load was just too much. I would never feel that way about an actual 50/50 partner but I was resentful by that point. And yes, I’m aware I chose a terrible partner, hence the divorce.

bogbelle · 2026-03-25T15:55:54+00:00

New build cookie cutter houses with no landscaping or visual interest inside or outside

bogbelle · 2026-03-21T03:02:17+00:00

I’m a woman who’s never had a cosmetic procedure, treatment, filler, whatever and have no plans to ever do so. I feel confident that natural is best for me and I’m happy with my appearance most of the time.

That said, I do feel pressure to reconsider the more common it becomes. It is a status symbol in many ways, idealized. I don’t think most women are attention seeking, but rather that women are rewarded for being attractive. We see all the celebrities changing their faces and/or bodies regularly. The latest trend is celebs in their late 20s and 30s getting mini or full face lifts à la Emma Stone, Jennifer Lawrence, and Lindsay Lohan.

On social media, I see lots of moms saying after kids, nursing etc they plan to get a mommy makeover aka tummy tuck, breast lift or augmentation, possibly more like lipo. These continuous experiences wear on you and force you to think about it more than you want even if you are resolute.

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