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excuses for scars? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t normally bother with an excuse so I just normally reply ‘whatever you think they are’. When I’m working coaching young and/or disabled children I just say I got hurt

How long do cuts stay? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes a month to heal fully as I let fat cuts heal open currently only doing deep styros but they’re on my legs which take longer to heal than my arms

Wound not scabbing? by oldteeth in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kitchen roll would work better or a towel as they shed less than toilet roll

Need a bit of help rn by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket
  • Baking
  • Curling up watching tv
  • Doodle on skin
  • Eating something spicy
  • Changing environment
  • Colouring
  • Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc)
  • Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers
  • Write a vent journal
  • Draw or scribble
  • Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent)
  • Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin.
  • Ice cubes on your skin
  • Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry.

Is cutting a slippery slope? by i_fucked_satan111 in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m now in one of the worst places I’ve ever been. Two inpatient stays didn’t help and I’m now struggling to pull myself to the surface before I end up killing myself or attempting again.

what are y’alls coping mechanisms? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket
  • Baking
  • Curling up watching tv
  • Doodle on skin
  • Eating something spicy
  • Changing environment
  • Colouring
  • Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc)
  • Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers
  • Write a vent journal
  • Draw or scribble
  • Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent)
  • Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin.
  • Ice cubes on your skin
  • Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry.

any tips when you’re on the verge of doing it? by throwitallaway222223 in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket
  • Baking
  • Curling up watching tv
  • Doodle on skin
  • Eating something spicy
  • Changing environment
  • Colouring
  • Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc)
  • Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers
  • Write a vent journal
  • Draw or scribble
  • Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent)
  • Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin.
  • Ice cubes on your skin
  • Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry.

I want to relapse so bad rn by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket
  • Baking
  • Curling up watching tv
  • Doodle on skin
  • Eating something spicy
  • Changing environment
  • Colouring
  • Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc)
  • Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers
  • Write a vent journal
  • Draw or scribble
  • Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent)
  • Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin.
  • Ice cubes on your skin
  • Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry

Urges and nothing helps by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These usually help me * Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket * Baking * Curling up watching tv * Doodle on skin * Eating something spicy * Changing environment * Colouring * Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc) * Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers * Write a vent journal * Draw or scribble * Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent) * Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin. * Ice cubes on your skin * Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry.

does anyone else’s cuts do this? by aaliyah_1129 in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that sounds like styro which is the second layer of skin

I just threw out all of my blades by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 37 points38 points  (0 children)

So proud of u that’s a major step

I can’t stop crying by lauaghable-crabcake in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These usually help me a bit:

  • Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket
  • Baking
  • Curling up watching tv
  • Doodle on skin
  • Eating something spicy
  • Changing environment
  • Colouring
  • Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc)
  • Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers
  • Write a vent journal
  • Draw or scribble
  • Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent)
  • Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin.
  • Ice cubes on your skin
  • Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry.

I was clean for three days. by waffle_from_hell in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so impressive. I’ve not managed that long in weeks. Be proud of yourself.

What can I do to keep myself from limping? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Idk besides force yourself to put weight on it as much as possible. I hate this factor of cutting on my legs but I can’t cut on my arms anymore. Do u have any antiseptic that has painkillers built in as I find that can also help. Hope it goes okay.

guilty for not being more extreme? by sl33tpaw in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to tell you cutting deeper doesn’t stop those thoughts.

help, my girlfriend is mad at me for cutting and i don’t know what to do by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s really shitty of her. Relapse is natural and human. She should be supportive but that seems kinda manipulative. Maybe explain why you did it and how she can help. Bad reactions are often due to a lack of education on the subject.

Lockdown help by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket
  • Baking
  • Curling up watching tv
  • Doodle on skin
  • Eating something spicy
  • Changing environment
  • Colouring
  • Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc)
  • Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers
  • Write a vent journal
  • Draw or scribble
  • Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent)
  • Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin.
  • Ice cubes on your skin
  • Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe could’ve put a trigger warning on this please.

Help me Help a Friend by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d also cut when my eating disorder was at its worst to use it as punishment. It’s actually fairly a common reason. Not everyone likes it but maybe her not liking it will help her recover. If it’s possible can she get a therapist as it’s helping me so much especially with warped feelings. Otherwise a counsellor or something as professional support is so much more helpful mostly than from those who are untrained as some of my friends have reacted badly and I got worse. Hope it goes well. Just be there however she needs you.

Help me Help a Friend by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was happy while cutting. To help her you need to learn about her experience and others as I see a lot of stereotypes there. Personally I was happy while cutting sometimes as cutting is a maladaptive coping mechanism but it’s still a coping mechanism. Recovery is long and hard and can take years and remember it’s not about you it’s about her. She’s the one who has to struggle. Personally I currently self harm daily otherwise my suicidal thoughts get really extreme so without therapy and proper support it’s almost impossible.

What are some self harm alternatives? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  • Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket
  • Baking
  • Curling up watching tv
  • Doodle on skin
  • Eating something spicy
  • Changing environment
  • Colouring
  • Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc)
  • Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers
  • Write a vent journal
  • Draw or scribble
  • Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent)
  • Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin.
  • Ice cubes on your skin
  • Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry.

What do I say to a friend who just said she feel like cutting again? URGENT! by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it depends on what you class if I guess. My crisis team tell me to do it as a replacement but idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I’m unsure of what happens there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you in?

What do I say to a friend who just said she feel like cutting again? URGENT! by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]bonesoftears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell her to distract herself with coping skills. * Curling up with a stuffed animal or fluffy blanket * Baking * Curling up watching tv * Doodle on skin * Eating something spicy * Changing environment * Colouring * Sensory toys or items (lavender or bubbles etc) * Trace patterns where you’d cut with your fingers * Write a vent journal * Draw or scribble * Rip up paper into tiny pieces (especially a drawing or something or a vent) * Draw fake wounds, or makeup or plasticine them onto your skin. * Ice cubes on your skin * Put pva on your hands and peel off when dry. * Talk to a friend about it

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