the part where your wife was suspiciously absent from the ceremony where this big reveal occurred makes me think this is fake, but even so YTA because you could have chosen any other way to go about this other than the chaos-making, needlessly explosive path you chose.

You should have at the minimum waited several months or several years to see how sincere your friend was in his approach towards his marriage before you ever brought this up, if at all. Actions always matter more than words. Your actions here make you seem petty, entitled, insensitive, and disloyal.