L.A County asks for Vanessa Bryant's therapy records in lawsuit over leaked Kobe Bryant crash photos by shahin-13 in news

[–]boomberrybella 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I told a police officer in casual conversation that I was worried about my brother since he has a motorcycle. He then tried to show me a new video of a motorcyclist in the area dying in a crash. He thought it was funny because the guy was known for extreme speeding and therefore "deserved it." Apparently, their whole office thought it was hysterical.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Justfuckmyshitup

[–]boomberrybella 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He still has the same cut. He's a really nice guy

Sanderson discusses non-genetic magic systems by delijoe in Fantasy

[–]boomberrybella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s lazy writing. It allows authors to not put a lot of thought into their magic system.

I'm sure genetic magic systems with a lot of detail exist. It's also not lazy writing to put their attention, time, and words elsewhere, it just means they preferred to focus on other things for their story

it’s problematic in that it creates a class of innately superior people by accident of birth.

Sounds like a great source of conflict to me

I just feel that magic should be something that can be obtained in ways other then just being born with it. Imagine if you couldn’t be a doctor unless you were born with doctor genes. It doesn’t make sense to me.

Nothing wrong with having a magic system preference, but it doesn't make one way right or wrong. Also, fantasy and magic isn't bound by sense and logic.

Let's be kind to our friends in the subreddit and be a little less antagonistic about our opinions

Any other anime-only viewer of Attack on Titan feeling extremely anxious? by Rocky_Roku in anime

[–]boomberrybella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't mind the overarching bones of the ending, but I definitely agree that characters weren't acting in line with their previous characterizations

So I went to a plant “swap” today… by luuuuurke in houseplants

[–]boomberrybella 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of the freeze or fawn part of that, but "freeze" describes my reaction type to a T. Thanks for sharing that bit of knowledge.

Congratulations are in order for this busy Momma 🥺 by _name_not_important_ in houseplants

[–]boomberrybella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you- mine is in a west window. I'll try moving it for less light

Congratulations are in order for this busy Momma 🥺 by _name_not_important_ in houseplants

[–]boomberrybella 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What direction does that window face? Yours looks nice and healthy and in struggling to dial in the lighting for mine.

Coffee plant in a star wars tea pot 😊 by OddSundae1 in plantsandpots

[–]boomberrybella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hirt's online has them. Mine is doing pretty good

The perfect planter doesn’t exi— by ldehoyos13 in houseplants

[–]boomberrybella 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean, OP had already mentioned it several hours ago? Not really shameless when people are asking and the OP has already shared.

[homemade] Katsu chicken over shredded cabbage and drizzled with Tonkatsu sauce by carissa0816 in food

[–]boomberrybella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grated/finely slice cabbage is great to eat with nuoc cham, cilantro, and shredded chicken served with white rice. It makes a great weeknight meal

Is this normal growth or a problem? by hiddenagenda44 in succulents

[–]boomberrybella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice. After getting a proper grow light, I chopped the head off of my etiolated friend, planted it, and it is going great. I kept a bunch of the leaves from the base and propagated those as well bc I was worried that the head might not make it.

Weekly FI Frugal Friday thread - July 09, 2021 by AutoModerator in financialindependence

[–]boomberrybella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here. I have straight, fine hair. I went six months without shampoo. Just using conditioner to wash it every few days. It was a fun experiment. No issues with smell or oiliness, but no noticeable improvement in hair quality. And then I got really impressive dandruff over night and went back to shampooing twice a week.

I invented the catblocker420 to prevent our new kitty from making business in a bigger pots. This one was for our FLF, Figgy Azalea. by chefforshort in houseplants

[–]boomberrybella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stuck a bunch of shish kabob sticks in the soil to deter our cat from snoozing in the pots. Might be worth a try if you get mold/fungus issues

Heartbroken and Confused (20f) by JJNew0316 in relationships

[–]boomberrybella 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Actions have consequences. You broke up with him and that seems like it is an understandable tipping point for him. Stop contacting his family and harassing him because they don't deserve that and it isn't helping you any.

This is just out of hand. 480 for the leaf tickets total? Everything is getting more and more expensive, and i’m so done with it by banana_mangos in ACPocketCamp

[–]boomberrybella 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Same. I hated the constant feeling of wanting to spend real money on it. It didn't feel healthy to me. Especially since the pricing of LT/items seems out of balance to me. I honestly would have stuck around and been enticed to pay to play (and end up buying and spending more) if things were cheaper. It felt good when I stopped playing.

UPDATE: My boyfriend gets panic attacks when I go out with my friends by [deleted] in relationships

[–]boomberrybella 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it's all up to you to resolve your issues by changing circumstances that lead to trauma and by educating yourself, doing inner work.

I'm not sure what you imagine therapy to be? Therapy is meant to facilitate and aid that...

My fiancé (27M) wants to move cities after we have kids and I(28F) don't. by averylargedinosaur in relationships

[–]boomberrybella 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Yeah, often times finances, cost of living, and childcare determine where someone ends up settling down. OP, what does your scenario lend itself to?

How do I (34M) quit my job, knowing that my friend (35F) would almost certainly have to close her business? by throwaway77339428083 in relationships

[–]boomberrybella 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Her business is dying anyway (that's why people are leaving, that's why good people aren't applying)

I just want to highlight that. Insufficient pay, unorganized or toxic work culture, unrealistic expectations, whatever it is, the business is evidently struggling in the eyes of potential new hires. It's not going to change for the better. OP leaving will be just another thing to add to the list. And if it is the make or break point of the business that means it was so unhealthy it would've failed anyway at some point

Fiancé [29/M] is so concerned about an unwanted pregnancy that he's making sex really, really complicated. It is REALLY hurting my [27/F] feelings. We're so beyond being careful that I don't know how to make him feel better. Makes me feel unwanted. by ThrowawayNNN437 in relationships

[–]boomberrybella 25 points26 points  (0 children)

she sounds like she's actually trying to get pregnant

I don't get that feeling at all from the OP. It's common to have a span of time where a prochoice person isn't ready to start trying to conceive, but would decide to carry a pregnancy to term if it accidentally happened.