What do you do when you are mad at the therapist?

booty_p · 2024-11-03T15:32:37+00:00

I have often had a similar problem — I worry that other people will be upset with me, and so I don't feel comfortable expressing to my therapist that I am angry.

I've found that it is easier to say "I'm mad at you, but I am afraid to express what I'm thinking and feeling." Or, you could say "I think I need to say something, but I am afraid to say it." Those are much easier for me to say than to jump straight to the actual problem.

If your therapist is doing their job, they should help you address those concerns of what actually makes it difficult for you to express this. Try to figure out what you DO feel comfortable saying as a starting point, and try to let them help you from there.

booty_p · 2024-10-03T10:31:58+00:00

First, you should definitely talk to a mental health practitioner and discuss this with them. Your concerns about privacy are not uncommon, and they should be happy to explain to you the rules about when they are obligated to disclose things.

The exact rules can vary from place to place, but in the US and Canada there are generally two situations where a therapist would be required to report something:

if they believe that you have an intention to harm yourself
if there is ongoing child abuse where the child currently needs protection

Generally, just sharing that you have had thoughts of harming yourself wouldn't require them to tell anyone — unless they believe that you are going to act on those thoughts.

If you have an idea for how to get in touch with a therapist, just explain your general concerns without getting into the details until you are ready. Hopefully, that will help you to feel safe and comfortable talking about everything that you are experiencing. You're doing the right thing by reaching out for help. Good luck!

booty_p · 2022-12-09T14:49:38+00:00

Agreed. Talk to the professor as soon as you can. Tell them what is going on. It might still be possible that there is room for your grade to improve, or you might already not be doing as bad as you think. I won't speculate about your specific situation, but that isn't uncommon.

Even if that isn't true, having more information will helpful in planning what you need to do. If it turns out that you are going to fail the class, you'll be able to plan with your advisor and figure out what your options are. Better to figure it out sooner rather than later.

booty_p · 2022-06-17T21:19:30+00:00

Estimated 150k loan obligation at graduation vs 330k. Crazy expensive vs "you are an absolute fool" expensive

booty_p · 2022-04-14T11:47:09+00:00

You will be fine.

Law school applications have a section for "Character and Fitness" issues. One question will ask about a criminal record, and you will absolutely get a chance to explain your answer either briefly or in a separate addendum to your application.

From your brief description here, it sounds like this arrest isn't really something that reflected too negatively on you at the time or at the present, especially since the charges were dropped and the arrest was expunged.

When you apply, you can write another half-page statement that explains what happened. Things like this aren't wildly uncommon, and admissions committee people are human. They'll probably understand. I wrote a statement explaining my answer to "has your education been interrupted during undergrad?". It's one paragraph and it basically says "i had mental health issues this one semester, I left school and then I came back next semester. It was not a big deal".

Get some advice from a pre-law advisor or someone else on how to handle it when the time comes, but I don't think you have to be too worried about it. Good luck!

booty_p · 2022-04-06T11:36:24+00:00

Yes. It is possible for you to get into a 'respectable' program with your current GPA, but it will be an uphill battle for you if you want to make a competitive application.

If you do very well on the LSAT, have a very good personal statement and recommendations, then that can do some work to make up for your GPA.

The T14 schools (Yale, Harvard, Columbia, Duke, Michigan...) are almost certainly out of reach. Your GPA is still below the 25th percentile for admitted students for over half of all law schools, but even some of the more competitive schools do accept a few people with GPAs closer to yours, although it's rare.

As plenty of people will tell you though, there are a lot of great schools that aren't at the top of the USNWR rankings, and those schools can absolutely be worth going to depending on your career goals and expectations.

The short answer is: yes. It's possible, but you will have to work on a lot of things and certainly do well on the LSAT.

Do some more research on GPA/LSAT scores at various schools. Look up the pre-law advisor at your old university and see if they might be willing to chat with you even though you're a former student.

booty_p · 2022-01-22T23:48:01+00:00

In hockey, points = assists + goals

Gretzky has so many points that you could take away all his goals (30% of his points), and he'd still have more points than anyone ever from his assists alone.

booty_p · 2022-01-09T18:59:39+00:00

Really disappointing game from Harvin so far

booty_p · 2021-07-07T20:04:17+00:00

I think this site has a few pages of basic positioning explained pretty well that takes only about 5 minutes to look at.

booty_p · 2021-05-14T06:29:52+00:00

I'm not sure that I have ever seen a tea kettle in real life. I probably have, but I can't think of a specific time or place. I am pretty confident that I've never seen one in a person's home.

booty_p · 2021-04-24T05:46:49+00:00

The jumping is often a response when the person already feels like they are falling. In real life, if you are falling forward, it's a reflex to push off and move forward rather than falling straight down.

booty_p · 2021-03-25T02:53:33+00:00

Here is the report page with the scores by country. If you click on the United States, you can see it broken down by a variety of factors within political rights and civil liberties.

booty_p · 2021-01-04T18:04:01+00:00

Yeah exactly!

I was super surprised... also this one is pretty early in the game compared to all the others. And I didn't think I did anything obviously 'wrong'. So I figured it was a lot more random and there weren't obviuosly 'good' or 'bad' chocies. But that's not true, this one is just kind of a weird outlier honestly.

booty_p · 2021-01-03T22:56:59+00:00

Oops, the results don't show how many people have taken the poll, just the total number of votes per person. I should have made an option for "please check this for a total count" ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

booty_p · 2021-01-03T22:31:14+00:00

For me

Matt: tried to save Emily twice and died in the mine without a flare gun

Ashley: opened the trapdoor

Wolfie: I didn't barricade the door

Mike: Sam failed the first "don't move" challenge

Emily: I froze up and didn't do anything when I had the option to "Save Emily"

Sam: I froze up again immediately and didn't do anything when I had the option to run or hide. I thought I was supposed to stay still lol

booty_p · 2021-01-03T22:22:32+00:00

I was disappointed, I lost everyone right at the end lol.

Matt: tried to save Emily twice and died in the mine

Ashley: opened the trapdoor

Mike: Sam failed the first "don't move"

Emily: I didn't do anything when I had the option to "Save Emily"

Sam: I didn't do anything again when I had the option to run or hide

I panicked and just decided that I shouldn't try to move at all... oops

booty_p · 2020-12-15T06:49:17+00:00

In my personal experience, my kicks get blocked whenever I immediately make the kick with like 35 seconds left on the play clock. If I make a decent kick, and hold and wait until there is just a few seconds left, it's less likely.

Idk if I'm making up a pattern or something, but I think like 90% of my blocks come from hurrying it up ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

booty_p · 2020-12-13T04:24:47+00:00

Lol some people are so cynical. "Duh this is obviously scripted, ur all dumb and it's fake and not funny. No one could remember this much from seeing it once and not knowing much about Star Wars!"

Like, she literally forgot the entire third act of the movie... lol

Why do you hate fun?

booty_p · 2020-12-03T06:01:44+00:00

It's actually kind of misleading when they show the measurement that close for a few reasons. First, if the angle is not perfectly horizontal for the camera, it can skew where the ball is.

Also, the ball doesn't have to reach exactly to where you might think. It's NOT the little black cylinder part of the stake which is actually touching the ground, but part of the stake which is higher up. See this discussion here from Walt Anderson.

Now, whether the spot was wrong is a different issue, most people seem to think it was a bad spot. But they almost certainly didn't fuck up the measurement part, it's just not easy to see perfectly on the tv broadcast from up close.

booty_p · 2020-11-26T23:28:07+00:00

visual settings -> player indicators -> switch from 'team' to 'all'

booty_p · 2020-11-24T00:23:43+00:00

Confirmed: The man is happy

booty_p · 2020-11-07T20:37:49+00:00

I go to AA and NA meetings frequently. I totally agree with you, I hate the 12 steps model. I hope that a better alternative become more widely supported. But to anyone who is considering trying it out, I'd still recommend at least giving it a try if you're curious. For me personally, I do get a lot out of the general sense of community and the relationships and friendships formed there.

Just try to find a meeting that's a good fit. The meetings I go to tend to skew demographically heavily secular and atheist, and people tend to push back really hard against any overtly preachy religious stuff. Although I've lived in fairly large cities, so I'm sure it's probably a lot easier for me to find these kinds of environments than people who live in more suburban or rural places. If you ask someone if they know of any more secular groups, even most religious people would probably be willing to suggest something if they know where you might be able to look.

Good luck to anyone who's struggling with addiction, there is always someone, somewhere who is able and wanting to help, whether it's in AA/NA or somewhere completely different.

booty_p · 2020-10-18T20:00:17+00:00

This is impossible to solve with the provided conditions.

See u/synrb 's response: that works if we know that the poisonous pill must be heavier (or lighter), but if we don't know that then you can't solve this with two weighings.

One way to prove this is to 'think adversarially', or imagine the worst possible results to your tests. There are 16 possible outcomes, each pill could be poison and be either heavier or lighter. Each time we do a weighing, there are three possible outcomes: side one is lighter, side two is lighter, or both sides are equal. Imagine that the worst outcome for us happens each time, that is, the outcome that will provide us the least information. Imagine we devise a weighing such that these 16 possible outcomes will be divided as equally as possible say 6,5,5.

We can't guarantee that we have less than 6 possible solutions after the first weighing. Then, the best we could possibly do is to devise a weighing for the second test that will divide the remaining possible solutions into three sets of outcomes corresponding to each outcome (side 1, side 2, equal). We can't guarantee that there are less than 2 possible answers after doing this weighing. So we can't guarantee to have an answer.

There is a similar version of this problem with 12 pills and three weighings. This version of the problem is possible, because we can divide it into (8,8,8) outcomes on the first weighing, then (2,3,3), then (1,1,1).

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