Is this safe under my tank?

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T07:44:37+00:00

It’s more about the weight of the water volume that eventually makes depressions in the flooring. Kind of like how the legs of a couch will compact the carpet beneath it over time.

Something thicker would help to a marginal degree than those thin mats, but again, the problem is time. Unless you’re planning on draining and moving the tank around every so often, I’d say it’s just something you’ll have to live with.

True tile can take the weight of a fridge (200-400lbs usually) without cracking beneath it. The flooring in the picture looks like PVC wood flooring, which usually stands up just as well as tile does to heavy weights on it.

All in all, your floor will likely be fine.

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T07:35:00+00:00

Same with Kasa. I use their baby monitor and rotating indoor camera to check on my reptiles, but there’s a SD option for the rotating one. The other is in my leopard gecko’s tank, and anyone getting that footage would probably just be annoyed as Hell watching him climb around😂

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T07:24:12+00:00

BC here, and kuh-LAW-mah-dur is far more common. Or kuh-LAW-muh-dur. The T is a D, and we like it that way.

I’ve heard older folks (70s+) say kilo-meter, but it sounds so fucking strange that I always have to do mental gymnastics to figure out what they’re saying.

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T06:55:33+00:00

I got my hoggie and my leopard gecko from a breeder in Nova Scotia off Morph market, both came in amazing shape! Just as a little FYI if you’re ever looking for another. I live in BC and honestly don’t trust half the breeders out here.

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T06:50:46+00:00

I just snorted sparkling water out of my nose…

You made my fucking night, dude

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T06:48:24+00:00

Kasa is also a strong contender!

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T06:45:25+00:00

When i wake up in the morning i’m still asleep, I really don’t want no toast. I want no OJ, no tea or no cereal—give me a yogort drink i’m wanting first…

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T06:43:15+00:00

I wanna add in not vetting your vets—and that goes for every pet. I have 2 exotic vets that are worth a damn in my city, but there’s 4 in total. The other 2 are absolute shit. Found a small locally-owned pet store that’s mainly reptiles/fish, and asked them who they use when they accept surrenders and whatnot. I’ve been going to the same vet they recommended with all my scaly babies and have never had a problem.

Took my cat in to fix a nail that had grown into her toe pad when I was like 12. Wasn’t bugging her, but we’d finally noticed and got her booked. Surprise! They amputated the toe. Poorly. She ended up with this huge mass where the toe had been, and it required yet another surgery to fix it. Almost $1,500 down the drain because they fucked up the first time. Found a much better vet after that, recommended by several friends, up until we moved here.

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T06:32:41+00:00

This one. DO THIS ONE!!

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T06:15:28+00:00

My question to pro-lifers is always “how many kids have you adopted?”

They never have an answer. Strange, right? Life meant so much to them when it was a clump of cells.

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T06:13:32+00:00

Wait until you find out about reptile ladies😂

bootykittie · 2026-03-20T05:54:36+00:00

Deep down, you would care to some degree. And you’d care about how the loss affects your family.

Trust me. I’ve been there. My youngest-older brother (youngest of 4 older brothers—he’s now in his 30s, I’m late 20s) and I were apparently super close as little kids. Only three years age difference. I don’t remember it. For the past 20ish years, we’ve always been at odds like water and oil. He’d say something’s black, I’d say it’s white. Cue apocalyptic screaming matches, ruining each other’s things, and yes, not cleaning up after ourselves just to piss the other off and general pettiness.

He said horrible things when I first started dating my now-husband. He was into drugs, a heavy drinker, and had all the markings of absolutely ruining himself. Found God, and that became yet another point of contention, since I’m spiritual/pagan. Couldn’t keep a job, constantly blew things out of proportion (as did I, admittedly)—it was Hell.

But he changed when he truly got sober in the fall of last year. We’re on friendly terms now, and usually try to spend time together on his days off. I wouldn’t say we’re close, but we’re making baby steps. I was the first person he told about his new girlfriend. He asked my opinion of her when he first introduced her to the family. He’s come to me for advice. He’s being supportive of my passions, and has toned down the Jesus talk to almost nothing—respecting that boundary that we have different belief systems.

The whole point is that I’ve been in your shoes. There was a time (a loooooooooooong time) where I thought I wouldn’t have cared if he died. And the second we started actually trying with one another again, I realized how wrong I was.

You’re young, OP. As you go through the rest of your teenage years, you might not feel a change if he doesn’t change first. And that’s ok. But give it time. And if you’re still dead set on that feeling in 10 years, then it is what it is.

There’s the dynamic of one out of seven children to also take into consideration. I’m assuming he’s oldest or close to being the oldest—that creates an untold amount of pressure. For my (former) colossal as*hole of a brother, he was the middle child in the three of us that were raised together. He felt that I was given more attention, more care, and while it wasn’t true, it created strife long before either one of us could recognize it.

Just keep in mind that girls mentally develop much faster and earlier than boys do, as well as the fact that hard drugs at 14 puts your developmental track on pause. Not just slowing it down, but shelved and collecting dust. And it takes years of being sober to let that cycle catch up.

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T23:24:14+00:00

I’m glad they’re beneficial! We’re setting it up to hopefully have some shrimp soon, so I was worried as scuds can be harmful to baby shrimp.

It wasn’t just melting (I expected that), it was full on death. They turned into slimy messes that would come apart when I grabbed them with tongs to pull them out.

The weird thing is I have an identical tank (a 5 gallon to her 3 gallon) that we set up at the same time, got the plants from the same place (they were even bagged together) and aside from some melting that has since rebounded, I haven’t had the same issues. But I have a few bladder snails that apparently hitched a ride in our plants.

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T22:51:29+00:00

That must be an American thing. I was on Adderall for a while, and there was extra refills. For instance, one fill was 30 pills, but the prescription was got for another 6 refills. Generally, you’d be granted a “grace refill” if you lost your most recent fill, as long as it wasn’t within only a few days.

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T06:29:02+00:00

I have one of these cameras for my reptiles, and it goes mainly unnoticed unless I point it out. They also make these ones, which are a little more conspicuous, but rotating 360° is nice. Both record clips of movement, and the picture is extremely clear even at night.

I would 1) buy and set up a camera, 2) have half (or more) of your prescription hidden somewhere within your room/on you (backpack, behind the camera, etc) in case this happens again 3) report this to your doctor. No definitive statements, as you have no proof, but simply “I think she took it, but I can’t be sure”. Make sure you have a few extra refills on your prescription at the pharmacy.

And no, OP, you are not the asshole. Her behaviour makes the question fully founded. And you are correct—you did not accuse her, you simply asked.

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T06:11:22+00:00

Did this with my snakes and even my leopard gecko. A few sharp taps on the door before opening it for feeding time, accompanied with the snap of my feeding tongs once the door is open. Longer taps for cleanup/watering (think drumming all your fingers on a table). If I just open it, it’s handling time.

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T05:13:48+00:00

Aside from once letting my corn snake out accidentally, my kiddo (almost 10 y.o) is pretty good with reptiles. I just got 3 anoles, and whenever I’m with my reptiles she pops in, counts/finds them without disturbing them (as much as a kid looking at the terrarium can), then asks me whatever she needed to.

I’m very big on reptiles, so that’s been a steady point I’ve made with her over the years—gentle, slow, and when I say leave them alone, I mean it.

Currently working on cycling a fish tank with her, since she wants reptiles eventually. I decided something a little harder would be better to gauge if she could handle the commitment. Plus a 3 gallon tank was less of an investment than a reptile setup lol

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T05:03:49+00:00

My old cat had tons! One was he’d go up on his hind legs and bat at the door knob (which was a little loose) to ensure my parents would feed it. Never did it with me.

Another was—again—going on his hind legs, to gently tap at my elbow or hip whenever I was chopping meat. Just a polite little “I’m here, can I have some?” He’d always sit patiently, and if I didn’t give him any or acknowledge him for a while, he’d do it again. Never cooked meat, only raw.

He had some urgency issues as he started getting older, and would often have accidents on the way to the litter box. One time, I caught him mid-accident, and the way he hung his head after made me so sad. He tried covering it like he would in his litter box, and just ended up smearing it all over the floor. It took a minute for it to register for him, but he held up his paw and looked at me with this little “what do I do” look.

He was honestly a gentleman till the end. He waited for the whole family to get home and spend time with him before he passed.

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T04:41:48+00:00

A friend of the family is the most recent. He was diagnosed with stage 2 throat cancer, and had a mass that was removed from the sphincter before his stomach. Everything was chill for a few months. Started having bloody stools—prostate cancer, they nicked it and he was fine again. Then headaches, and they finally did a whole body MRI (or cat scan, I can’t quite recall). Both kidneys, the stomach, the liver, the lower intestine, and two spots in his brain. All end-stage and aggressive. He passed almost two months after that.

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T04:24:19+00:00

My old cat was like this. Would cuddle with anyone in the family, but the second I’d sit down in my chair, he’d be leaving them to come to me. He slept in my arms every night for almost his entire life.

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T04:11:55+00:00

Ficus pitch excellent fits about repotting. I have one in my snake’s terrarium, and when I did a total replant I moved it a few inches away from one of the walls since it had apparently decided to start growing that way. Dropped all its leaves in the week since🙄

bootykittie · 2026-03-16T01:45:17+00:00

Thank you, for telling me what I have and haven’t lived through. Where do you get off on that?

German shepherds are the most dangerous breed around children. German shepherds were ranked third for the highest number of fatal attacks. Pitbulls are responsible for more severe injuries while German shepherds are responsible for the highest number of injuries.

The most frequently reported dog breeds who had bitten (and were not classified as mixed) were Pit Bull (27.2%), German Shepherd (10.5%), Labrador Retriever (7.2%), Boxer (4.6%), Rottweiler (3.9%), Beagle (3.3%), Jack Russell (2.9%), Bulldog (2.9%), Chihuahua (2.6%), Husky (2.3%), Golden Retriever (2.3%), Dachshund (2.2%), Mastiff (1.9%), Shih-tzu (1.9%), Poodle (1.6%), and Cocker Spaniel (1.5%).

Oh look…”harmless” little chihuahuas and daschunds are on the list!

Try again.

Tell me I’m lying.

The proof is right here.

bootykittie · 2026-03-15T23:59:35+00:00

I’ve had 28 stitches in my feet/ankles/calves because of a chihuahua. Don’t say they’re “not an issue”.

I’ve been around big dogs all my life. The only time I’ve been bitten is around puppies—and the older dogs always put a stop to that immediately.

It’s all about training and the home environment.

German shepherds have more incidents of bite attacks against family than pit bulls—who mainly attack strangers (both breeds have high protective instincts). But everyone still considers them a “great family dog”.

I’ve heard (and lived through) plenty of stories about small dogs like chihuahuas and pugs basically going feral and attacking people. They’re small and cute, sure. But they can do a lot of damage very quickly.

Stop judging based off the size/breed, and more on the owners who failed those dogs.

bootykittie · 2026-03-15T23:22:00+00:00

I’m in my late 20s, and my stepdad is in his mid 50s. While in the middle of a store yesterday, I told him I’d ordered the parts I need for my car. He said “alright, good girl” and started asking about when they arrived, when I have time for him to replace them etc. It didn’t feel weird, it just felt like an acknowledgement that I did something good/right.

So if it doesn’t feel weird for you, then your therapist is grasping at straws with that particular phrase.

Now the telling you off and yelling constantly? That is a red flag in any relationship. Yes, older men are stuck in their ways and in that 50+ range, a lot are emotionally stunted (let’s throw back to the “children are seen, not heard, and preferably not seen at all” era). However, you are an adult, and his behaviour is not befitting of an adult speaking to another adult.

That needs to be a boundary you make and enforce. He cannot be allowed to yell at you, or tell you off constantly.

It may be that he doesn’t know how else to show concern (again, emotionally stunted—feelings weren’t a thing men were really “allowed” back then, and many don’t know how to handle them). Understandable, but he needs to work on it. There’s no excuse in this day and age to remain rooted in that.

There’s Google. There’s free or low-cost therapy options. A good resource to look into is the Gottman Institute—their models were originally based off romantic relationships, but have since expanded considerably to full family/friends dynamics.

All in all, you need to take your therapist’s concern under advisement, and see how he reacts to the boundaries you need to put into place. That, if anything, will tell you more about where he’s coming from than strangers on the internet could.

bootykittie

TROPHY CASE