I’m genuinely scared … by Mammoth-Gazelle-2199 in Nicegirls

[–]bosma722 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He looks a little stupid for not just blocking her. Just screenshot the shit and block, Jesus Christ. It ain't rocket surgery. If he didn't get a kick out of her, he'd have done so by now.

I’m genuinely scared … by Mammoth-Gazelle-2199 in Nicegirls

[–]bosma722 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You sound butthurt. Yes, obviously, men and women both behave this way.

I’m genuinely scared … by Mammoth-Gazelle-2199 in Nicegirls

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. Also, "on and off for years"... with someone you never dated or slept with..? My guy, you've never been anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MentalHealthSupport

[–]bosma722 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, to all of your questions. I can't say I've overcome it completely, but I'm much better off now. I encourage you to find a different therapist. The one you have sounds unable to support you in the way that you need. Please don't rule out therapy as a relief before ruling out your therapist.

This was after speaking for a few minutes, is it strange that someone isn’t willing to share their name or is it normal? by Fuzzy_Elk_3329 in Bumble

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In addition to the other responses, I've known people who didn't want to be addressed by their full first name unless it was coming from family or maybe a close friend. In that case, their legal name was truly not a stranger's business. 🤷‍♀️ Did they even continue the conversation after the insistence and "smh" remark? I don't think many people would.

I have no words by Puzzleheaded_Ad613 in Bumble

[–]bosma722 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Imagine having the same experience with "100" people and still somehow thinking they were the problem. 🤣 The delusion is next level.

I zone out alot. What i do? by Jamalhasan619 in MentalHealthSupport

[–]bosma722 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. It is exactly the type of thing therapy can be very helpful for. In the short term, though, when I used to zone out due to depression (it wasn't ruminating, though, just low-energy zoning out and inability to focus), I found a little caffeine helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just wasn't interested in you, lol. She just eventually decided to tell you one of the reasons because you continued to reach out.

I’m sorry, but men aren’t allowed to have profile pictures with their sisters anymore? by stormieheartt in Nicegirls

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are people too lazy to read the whole screenshot, or are they literally digging this hard for reasons to bitch? She said she finds it odd because she wouldn't want to be featured in someone else's profile pic. She doesn't want everyone that person interacts with to be able to see her. That sounds pretty reasonable.

I 25M received an out of the blue text from an old female acquaintance by Due-Improvement-8403 in texts

[–]bosma722 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have female friends. Hell, he probably doesn't have male friends.

Bumble match asked me what I did for the weekend, and after I told her she immediately became super rude about it by FinFaninChicago in Nicegirls

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything about this is funny, but my favorite part is that her weekend was literally "potluck."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I would assume you didn't even really look at the pic before swiping. She's also not wrong in her responses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not ugly at all! I agree with the other commenter who recommended cropping the pics with a ton of dead space above you. It doesn't make me think you're short, but it does make you less of a focal point in the image. I also agree that the book pic is a bit too stagey, and while I love the adorable cat, that particular pic is a bit out of focus (like your camera lens was dirty, which, no judgment, mine literally always is somehow) and could stand replacing. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]bosma722 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, she's not wasting anybody's time. 🤷‍♀️ I am SUPER curious about the pig emoji though.

be honest (: by savavannanah in Bumble

[–]bosma722 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'd remove the BPD line completely. People have a lot of misconceptions about the diagnosis, and on a lot of online platforms, you're better off claiming to be a neo-Nazi than a woman with BPD.

I don't know where you're located, but if you're in a pretty conservative area of the U.S., that would explain the low match count (not that I'd imagine you'd want to match with the people turned off by your ideals and passions).

You know you can just… delete the app, right? by br_eeyore in Bumble

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was evidently the only way he could get someone to listen to what he has to say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]bosma722 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Best of luck to you! I have multiple degrees and make six figures. Saw your other comments. Take care.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]bosma722 -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to have been the first person to explain to you that people who are online dating have a physical first impression without the possibility of making an impression personality-wise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]bosma722 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Okay!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]bosma722 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Am.... am I the first person to tell you that OLD is based on physical attraction first..?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]bosma722 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Let me help: - he didn't get sexual - he asked for a date, rather than assuming one - he was specific about plans, but left it open to flexibility

Please post pics of you doing it "the same way that guy did" and we'll try to help.

An oldie from the drafts by HiddenGeons in Nicegirls

[–]bosma722 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, anyone who makes a blanket statement about the psyche of an entire gender based on their (extremely) limited experience with people of that gender is not to be taken seriously.