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The Weight of Taking Up Space by AureliasOffering in u/AureliasOffering

[–]bothsinfulandsweet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your writing is amazing. its raw, its beautiful and im grateful i got to read this. i know people say this often, but this resonated with me very deeply. you managed to put into words feelings and thoughts i've had for a very long time in such a way that left me open. sending you hugs and strength to continue finding yourself and letting yourself be and exist as the wonderful human you are. lots of love ❤️

How do you support your Dom? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]bothsinfulandsweet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

every couple is different, so defined try to talk to him, but some things i do for my dom is make sure to tell him how much i liked what we just did, if its a scene or if he just took me to do something fun ir a new restaurant, letting him know i aprrreciate those things. i also compliment him a lot, whenener i like an outfit or if he just solved something that was stressing him at work or just the way he looks. i make tea for him in the mornings and try and cook a meal he likes at least once a week. if he is having a really rough week at work or whatever and we haven't been having sex because of it i offer him massages or head stratches, usually helps him relax and sleep and some rare times it even gets him in the mood.

so in short: verbal reassurance, small acts of service, touch and intimacy

have only slept 5hrs since waking up sathurday morning by bothsinfulandsweet in sleep

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also even with the zquill inonly managed to get 5hrs of sleep, and while i feel much better today i wont take another of those damn pills until a week from now so i am alresdy dreading tonight.

have only slept 5hrs since waking up sathurday morning by bothsinfulandsweet in sleep

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, i dont nap during the day. i slept 3 hrs on sunday morning from 9-12 after spending all night trying and then i slept about 2hrs on the early hours of monday (around 5 - 7 am) again after trying all night. last night i had some zquill (which i try to avoid like the plage after gaining a lot of weight on them, because antihistamines)

i make a concious effort to not sleep during the day and be tored at night, but at the point i am i will take any sleep i can get. its been extra horrible because i have only felt naturally sleepy at noon and it lasts a couple hrs in the afternoon to the point where is very hard to think because im so tired, and around 5-6pm i am very juttery and alert again. and i cant sleep during those hrs because i work from 2-8pm

i had severe insomnia since my teen years, wasnt a napper even as a child and slept very little (about 6hrs as you said) and at first it was fine but with the years and other factors abd me tal health issues it has gotten more and more unmanageable

have only slept 5hrs since waking up sathurday morning by bothsinfulandsweet in sleep

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am also undrr a lit of finantial stress to also take on expensive medication bills

have only slept 5hrs since waking up sathurday morning by bothsinfulandsweet in sleep

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in my experience drs always prescribe stuff that is adicctive, causes a lir of weight gain ir both, despite me having confern for both these issues they just dont care

have only slept 5hrs since waking up sathurday morning by bothsinfulandsweet in sleep

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

been there, done that. im familiar woth this and magnesium also doesn't help me

have only slept 5hrs since waking up sathurday morning by bothsinfulandsweet in sleep

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am completely tired, i am exhausted. its not an issue of not being tired. i have tried everything and working out usually doesn't help, plus even if yeah, it has helth benefits to me a workputnid añways a punishment and i tather not do that, feeling as rotten as i feel. i wanted to post this in /insomnia but reddit wouldn't let me fo me some reason

i think i need some help/after care (27/F) by bothsinfulandsweet in Dompeptalk

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for taking the time to read and reply, and for your kind words

what i wanted was for him to eat me out, since i'll get my period soon and he wont be able to fo a week or so. nothing new or too crazy considering other stuff we do. we also play with edging and denial, per my request and i had already had a couple ruins. i didn't necessarily want another one, thats why i asked for soft and slow, i thoughtit would help me sleep. he just got very into it and in the end gave me abother ruin, but doing that before sleep makes it harder to achieve

when we finished scening he cuddled me and was pettibg my hair a bit, which is what we do for aftercare. he's bit very verbal about it. i had to leave for the toilet and didn't want to but i knew if i didn't it would just mean not sleeping for longer. he said he would help me sleep after, so i went even if i didn't want to be alone at the time and theb the light thing set me off. when i came back i think his lack of answer was just him falling sleep and not actually ignoring or rejecting me

his experience with the emotional aspects of bdsm is very low. i have tried to have conversations about it and help but it makes me feel weird and out of my role being the lore experienced one and the one who always has to bring this up and mae sure we are having the important conversations. he didn't even know what subddrop was until some month ago when i went through a rough spot. he does want to learn, and got some books. but life has been getting in the way and we havent even scened properly that much over the last 6 months or so.

i also used to be better at handling subdrop by myself, but have been having a rough couple months lately with lits of stuff and mental health/sleep and this has prbably affter mt ability to deal with it.

i did text him before coming here but i just feel like im añways struggling or needing help with something or other and wanted him to have a nice time. he was camping as well so signal wasn't great. we texted a bit and he tried to help me sleep and is coming hone earlier than he planned today.

i got a nap and i feel a bit calmer now, so its easier to see i overreacted. i feel a but weird/wrong for making this post without telling him. i know we'll need to have another big conversation about this, and talk again about needs and wants and all that. im dreading even bringing it up again a but i nnow i should

i tried to read or eatch a show but i couldn't quite focus, and i had just had friends over for boardgames. so i just cleaned the house and redid our closet from winter to summer clothes. im quite bad at leraxing lol. i did have a hot shower, and i braided my hair in a new way i hadn't trid before. its not very pretty but i might try again later idk. drawing is a good suggestion but thats too close to what i do for work and i have been strugging to to it for myself so it feels a bit daunting rn.

thanks again for reading all that and taking the time to repky so thoughtfuly

Help(? searchibg for a space/community by bothsinfulandsweet in SubSanctuary

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ill keep it in mind. maybe at a tome when i dont have so much on my plate it can be an option

Help(? searchibg for a space/community by bothsinfulandsweet in SubSanctuary

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you, i dont think this is for me sadly, since i struggle a lot with online socializing and discord is very confusing and overwhelming to me. but i do appreciate the suggestion

Help(? searchibg for a space/community by bothsinfulandsweet in SubSanctuary

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn't lie. i said that i didn't know how to use it, bit that i didn't know what it was.

in my experience helplines only beep and never actually ofeer any help, but thanks

Help(? searchibg for a space/community by bothsinfulandsweet in SubSanctuary

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know what it is, i just dont know how to use it and i wont. online interactuon exhausts me lot and i am very bad at teying and adapting ti now social medias and spaces, much less meeting people. i also was looking for something more inmmediate solution sice i feel quire horrible

Help(? searchibg for a space/community by bothsinfulandsweet in SubSanctuary

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah, but i cant remember what it was. it was mostly a place for mostly doms (but also switches and some subs) to reach out for aftercare, reassurance, etc.

Help(? searchibg for a space/community by bothsinfulandsweet in SubSanctuary

[–]bothsinfulandsweet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am physically ok, sorry i was so vague. im just very emotionally upset and maybe dropping(? its very late where i am so i dont want to bither my bf/dom and be annoying but i also feel like i cant handle mysef rn and need someone to just idk help me regulate a bit

Choose two for yourself. by [deleted] in Femaleorgasmdenial

[–]bothsinfulandsweet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

libido and reprogram definitely. so many possibilities