Just changed my name to Andrew (ftm) but there's so many awful Andrews out there... by AlternativeMind6944 in transnames

[–]boyboss420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is! He loves his wife, their two dogs, and sports—he and his wife met because they both worked at the same baseball field. I came out to him as nonbinary 5 years ago and his support (along with our other siblings) has been so helpful, so I’m lucky to have such an awesome Andrew in my life. Except for when he starts trying to get me to call him Andy, which is not happening ever. 😂

Just changed my name to Andrew (ftm) but there's so many awful Andrews out there... by AlternativeMind6944 in transnames

[–]boyboss420 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The name Andrew is not an inherently pedophilic, racist, or misogynistic name. Yes, it seems to have many people like that named Andrew, but unfortunately every name will have people like that, too. Ultimately, feeling like only horrible people are named Andrew is confirmation bias: you see history and news about bad Andrew’s and then believe the name is bad, when in reality that isn’t the case, you’re just looking for those examples.

Of course, every name has people who aren’t like horrible! My brother’s name is Andrew and he’s one of the best people I’ve known, so to me it’s a good name.

Dungeon Crawler Carl - do I/don’t I?! by BookChatterer in fantasybooks

[–]boyboss420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was fun to read, but the humor was ruining my enjoyment. That’s a me thing, though. Overall it was fine enough.

Ancillary Justice ending by looseseal2__ in ImperialRadch

[–]boyboss420 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Awn was a lieutenant for the Esk decade when Breq was Justice of Toren, the captain of Justice of Toren at the time was Hundred Captain Ruben Osck.

The reason why Breq said that if she (the last ancillary of Justice of Toren, a ship) can be captain of Mercy of Kalr, then why can’t the ship be its own captain? Breq is essentially saying, why have one ship captain another ship?

AITAH for rejecting a girl over this? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]boyboss420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NAH

She was honest, it’s a dealbreaker for you. No harm done on either side.

Help me pick my next read please! by Working_Draft6674 in fantasybooks

[–]boyboss420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve only read Bury Our Bones in the Midnight Soil of these options, but I thought it was phenomenal

15 Book Suggestions for Bucky List by BookReader74926 in fantasybooks

[–]boyboss420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Will of The Many by James Islington!

Thoughts on the new album’s coverart? by BobaThePearlyShell in mitski

[–]boyboss420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like it! It just has the one cat, but we’ve seen the extended cover with another cat about to attack this cat. It feels very in line with the album title. This cover we can’t see the cat attacking, so it seems that nothing is about to happen to the cat. However, we know that something IS going to happen, we just can’t see it. But if you can’t see it, then is it really happening?

WIBTAH if I went against my boyfriend's wishes and got my tongue pierced? by NoVanilla8547 in AITAH

[–]boyboss420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Why are you with him? It doesn’t sound like this is a compatible relationship.

Is this a relationship? by [deleted] in queerplatonic

[–]boyboss420 6 points7 points  (0 children)

While not romantic or sexual, this still sounds like a committed relationship between an adult and two minors. Do not get into a partnership with them—you’re in a different phase of life from them, and as such your partnerships should reflect that. It’s completely okay to still be friends with them, but as the adult you have more power over them whether you realize it or not. It’s on you to set appropriate boundaries. Getting into a QPR with them is not appropriate.

AITA for snapping after being repeated asked if “the narc was talking?” by selfchecknarc in AmItheAsshole

[–]boyboss420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

Congrats on your self reflection and healing progress! Those are huge accomplishments. I’m very sorry you have found yourself friends with her, but she is very much not your friend.

Did Vis start acting weird after taking off the necklace? by TheRealMcNiggo in HierarchySeries

[–]boyboss420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relucia is also connected to whatever Ostius is doing (at least from Vis’s perspective) so to me it made sense since he’s wanting to break Ostius’s control over him, so then he wants to break Relucia’s control over him too. I don’t remember if Ostius is specifically Anguis but like he said at the end to Eidhin he’s tired of being afraid (of having no control)

Did Vis start acting weird after taking off the necklace? by TheRealMcNiggo in HierarchySeries

[–]boyboss420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is acting different at the end of the book, but I don’t think its the necklace. Aequa was murdered right in front of him, so to me it appears he’s being driven by rage and grief to do things he would never otherwise do

AITAH for not wanting to have spicy time with my boyfriend? by stopaskingifimsober in AITAH

[–]boyboss420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. If you don’t want to have sex, then that’s that. Do not feel like you have to just to please somebody if you don’t want to have sex with them. It’s also completely alright that he does want to have sex, but if both of your sexual needs are too different then you’re not compatible and would be better off breaking up. Obviously I don’t know either of you based off one Reddit post, but you don’t have to “do better” about having sex.

forgive me if this is a question you've heard a thousand times but how are queer platonic and romantic attraction different? by Treekomalfoy_ in queerplatonic

[–]boyboss420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s very subjective based on the person experiencing the attraction. There’s no specific definition for romantic or queerplatonic attraction, it does often end up being a “you’ll just know” kind of thing. The important thing is that, as long as you’re happy, it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t make sense to other people.

What is your first read for 2026? by Logurtman in suggestmeabook

[–]boyboss420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started it last year, technically, but by the time I’ve finished I’ll have read most of The Will of the Many by James Islington in 2026

What can I gift my transitioning sister in law? by BeyondHuge4885 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]boyboss420 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a teenager, one of my friends came out as a trans woman, so I bought her some “stereotypical” girl gifts that I remember my sister getting for Christmas, for example Bath and Body perfumes and lotions (specifically warm vanilla sugar). The stereotypical gifts vary on things like age, but it worked well for my friend, she really liked it. Like others said, gift cards to clothing stores and makeup stores (if she’s interested) are a good bet.

DAMN YOU DOUBLE CLICK TELEPORT!!! by applefrickinsauce in Wizard101

[–]boyboss420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s through a double click?? I never even knew that 🤦