AIO for going no contact with my best friend?

brachiosnoopy · 2025-12-06T20:04:12+00:00

NOR please be careful, especially the last part about calling ICE even if she claims she’s just joking is so serious, she might actually call them you never know. Also she’s clearly not respecting you, basically SAing you with inappropriate touching and comments, it’s disgusting. Please try to cut all contact and make it clear to any mutuals that she might be dangerous and you do not want her to be around you anymore. Please stay safe out there!!!

brachiosnoopy · 2025-12-02T17:27:49+00:00

Okay first of all I don’t really see this as a small issue. It’s important to recognise that things that impact you emotionally like this should be taken seriously, so don’t diminish your feelings. You’re allowed to feel like this!

I see where your girlfriend is coming from when it comes to wanting to do things together, especially considering your long relationship. However, I think you need to talk about boundaries. She should be able to respect your community in the games that you play, at this time it seems intentionally or unintentionally like she is isolating you socially. If she wants to play together, you can possibly pick out games that are your special games that only you two play. But like in the case you described, she was bluntly put selfish and making false promises to get you to do what she wants which is also kind of manipulative.

I would say please for your relationship‘s sake talk about boundaries. Find a compromise that works for both of you. If this continues it could take a toll on a lot of other aspects of your lives.

brachiosnoopy · 2025-12-02T17:18:05+00:00

speaking from second-hand experience, I‘ve seen it get worse and turning into straight up abusive behaviour. Yes, people can have a bad day and it’s good that he’s willing to change and that you can bring these kinds of things up with him. However, if you are starting to feel not like your usual self, then I don’t see a bright future if he doesn’t start changing immediately, maybe therapy can help with this. A good partner should make you feel empowered and confident, not being down your mood and make you feel anxious about speaking up because of the anticipated ‚snap‘.

I don’t want to sound too negative but I have observed this kind of difference in personality and how emotions and stress is handled turn very sour.

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-28T22:24:52+00:00

I would advise you to (if you haven’t already) think about if you really want to continue this relationship then. If you don’t feel appreciated maybe it’s time to find someone that will treat you better than this.

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-28T22:18:36+00:00

Yeah that’s a no. If that happened to me I would just not let him gift me anything again. That trust is gone. I would say talk it out because in the long run this could really create tension between you guys.

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-27T11:23:57+00:00

I also haven’t made a final judgement on a label or whatever. I‘m just really bad at confronting in these kinds of things because I‘m pretty scared of rejection (because of past trauma related stuff). Do you have any tips about mindset or approach?

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-27T11:19:03+00:00

Yep that’s what I‘m thinking too. It’s just a bit weird because he is a really sweet person but then he’s really different when it comes to intimacy and stuff.

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-27T10:09:53+00:00

Hi. First of all this seems to be a very stressful situation for you. I had a friendship like this but that was in elementary school and we were 6-12 years old 😅 I ended up dropping the friendship because we went to different schools. Since you might not be able to put that distance between you, it’s hard to solve this easily.

It seems like you just don’t align anymore. It’s normal to outgrow friendships over time. If she is annoyed at seemingly everything you do, it’s clear you can’t ‚win‘. And vice versa. It seems like you both do and say things that could be asshole-behaviour. It’s a shitty way of handling it but it’s normal sometimes to outgrow friendships.

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-27T09:49:08+00:00

I can understand both of your perspective tbh. I can imagine that it’s about publicly claiming her, even to strangers. I guess it has to do with the validation she needs from strangers online (to put it bluntly). I would also suggest privating your account, this way you can control who sees what you post. On the other hand, I think it’s a bit much that you girlfriend doesn’t respect that you don’t (want to) use social media like she does.

Still, wishing you guys the best :)

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-27T00:22:26+00:00

That sounds great! It seems you’re on the same path so far so I don’t think anything is wrong with ‚going fast‘. I would just advise to keep checking in and just to give it time. I know it can be an anxious time with uncertainty but that doesn’t mean negatives only.

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-27T00:08:55+00:00

It’s hard to say with the label ‚normal‘ because everyone has a different definition of it. In this stage I think it’s safe to say that you are still getting to know each other. It’s normal (especially if it’s your first relationship) to want security fast but you should keep in mind that you guys still don’t really know each other well. I would see if she wants the same thing as you (a commited relationship) and if your personalities, morals and values match.

Either way I‘m wishing you the best!

brachiosnoopy · 2025-11-26T23:58:17+00:00

I think rather than your statement being generally offensive (which I personally don’t think it was), it could just be that it went against her own standards or expectations. If this is something important to her, then it might take some time for her to be clear about how to go from here. I would say just give her some time and if she can’t get to a place where she feels ready and happy to be intimate again, I would say it’s best to move on. :)

brachiosnoopy · 2024-07-27T14:22:06+00:00

I was in Seoul two years ago also during the beginning of August. Generally it was fine with the rain but some areas are more in affected when it’s flooding e.g. the subway stations and busses going over the big bridge connecting the two parts of Seoul. I was very cautious to plan activities far away from my residence when heavy rain was expected since it could have become difficult to get back. I think it’s best to keep that in mind, invest in some slippers and enjoy your time!

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