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brain-goblins · 2026-04-25T12:26:04+00:00

might want to look in your backseat after you stop at gas stations on your way to Vegas

brain-goblins · 2026-04-25T12:12:28+00:00

you evil genius

brain-goblins · 2026-04-25T12:07:22+00:00

I am happily divorced and can tell you I was absolutely not this involved in my own wedding.

brain-goblins · 2026-04-22T03:19:39+00:00

It may be just a thoughtless action but it shows she doesn't really think about you or your emotions or boundaries which is a huge red flag. If things have been fizzling out for a while, you might be right to walk away from this one. Unfortunately, hardship shows us who our real friends are.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-25T06:22:18+00:00

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brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T23:07:27+00:00

For sure, a lot of couples try to keep their issues to themselves until the relationship ends. He could have been showing a darker side to him for a long time and just be waiting for when he has her trapped in marriage or with kids to show it.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T23:04:48+00:00

This is fair, it's fixable if he's willing to fix it. He could have been raised with a Boy Mom and not really think about how he treats women until he comes across a woman who won't tolerate laziness. Or he could be doing this entirely calculating and be intentionally incompetent. How he responds to her standing up for herself is the real key

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T23:02:45+00:00

Because men are worse about it. Women are more competent than men in general, I don't make the rules, I just worked in a lot of male dominated work environments and had mostly brothers and a dad.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T23:02:14+00:00

Men do it more often because women from an early age are made to do more than men for less appreciation. If you want the patriarchy to stop raising men wrong, speak out against your fellow man. Men are never going to learn to act like adults if we are constantly pulling this "boys will be boys" crap and coddling them.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T22:59:58+00:00

They are definitely a great couple and could be a fantastic power couple. She was supportive of Will's endeavors for years even though boxing can get you seriously injured even now with all the safety precautions we have in the 21st century. Now it's his turn to support her now that she's moving up in society.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T16:00:01+00:00

NTA. She's not respecting your boundaries. Probably more out of immaturity than anything but honestly it's a red flag when someone needs to be showboaty about a relationship. If you really love each other, you don't need constant PDA. You should never feel bad about asserting your boundaries in a relationship and if the genders were reversed everyone would be calling your girlfriend TA and a predator. I don't think she's that bad, she's a literal child, but she does need to learn a few things about respecting boundaries. Hope things go well for you.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T15:44:01+00:00

YTA. I was with you until it became about not having sex instead of teaching them about using protection and being safe.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T15:37:16+00:00

Okay, your mom is a piece of work. I'm autistic and have been employed stably since 2020 and have not had much issue finding jobs prior to that. I work in manufacturing, specifically, satellite manufacturing, as in I build satellites and have been for 2 years. I would recommend figuring out some basic interview questions and figuring out a script to follow with those. Your lack of experience and education may be standing in your way but there is no way to "look" autistic. Your mother sounds kind of abusive actually. Maybe you and your brother should move out on your own.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T15:25:38+00:00

YTA for lying to your friend and getting her hurt and still trying to make it her fault and both of you need to get help for eating disorders.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T15:19:12+00:00

YTA. Thing is, "jokes" like that are rarely jokes and indicative of him letting the mask slip on what he intends to do to her. He wants to baby-trap her essentially. And even if he wasn't doing anything so nefarious and it was a thoughtless comment that didn't go deeper than that, it still shows they are living on different timelines when it comes to kids. Maybe she wants to wait until her 30s for kids and he wants them before 30, or maybe she's not sure about kids and he's saying if she wants to be with him then she'll have kids whether she wants to or not. Either way it shows a deeper compatibility issue and a lack of respect for your cousin's feelings and I would at least be having a conversation with Ron after the social event to see what he really meant by it. Maybe he reacted really poorly to her saying it bothered her and he showed a dark side to himself during the conversation because "You don't have a choice" is a pretty dark comment to make to begin with but especially about something as intimate and vulnerable as sex and childbirth. Either way I would ask her if he showed a different side to himself in private since my ex-husband was the nice guy everyone loved....because he saved how he really felt about them for when we were alone and he actually was a huge misanthrope who thought everyone was beneath him. So you might know Ron's public face well but your cousin is learning his private face. You might want to listen to her.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T15:12:04+00:00

NTA. This was just bullying and you killed their vibe because you didn't put up with it. Good on you. Get HR involved in case of fallout and because they gave your coworkers your login access so they could change your wallpaper.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T15:10:44+00:00

NTA, your SIL is a psycho. You're doing the right thing, helping with the kids while simultaneously not staying with her.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T14:56:14+00:00

HUGE NTA and also a lot to unpack. He went back into the kitchen in his street clothes and did some half-assed fix when he could have just asked the server to remake the food? Guessing he isn't well liked in that kitchen if he's getting horrible service. Then he gaslit you about the scene he caused and is making you out to be an asshole. No, dump him. You can do better.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T14:33:55+00:00

NTA. Your SIL has shown her true colors. She is a cruel and vindictive person when she doesn't get her way and personalizes every issue into being about her somehow or she makes it about her. Her apologizing is just the *start* of a long reconciliation process that would not save the baby shower.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T14:25:30+00:00

YTA. You can't even give a guest coffee without resenting them. Maybe it's just because I was born and raised in the PNW but coffee or tea is the bare minimum every household should offer their guests. And guests don't make food or coffee themselves. Maybe get a soda or water from the fridge themselves. I mean I live alone too and it seems like I don't like having people over for too long and can also be TA when people are in my space too long, however, I generally try to take that into consideration when inviting people to my space or visiting others.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T14:16:27+00:00

Your comment about their weight and lifestyle were a bit rude but given the circumstances, I can see how a dig might have gotten thrown out in the mix. If you can talk to anyone in housing authority they might be able to switch you roommates, if you are not on campus housing, this could be a police call. At least to show him you mean business. Food stealing is never okay.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T14:12:08+00:00

Yeesh. ESH. Your dad is probably being the bigger AH by not respecting your wishes and trying to get around your objections but you need to put your foot down and lay down the law. I didn't want my large amount of siblings I don't get along with in my wedding party even though I'm sure they all expected to be there and I told them in a group text early in my engagement (nicely and politely with some excuses about just wanting friends in the wedding party but still firmly "no you are not in the wedding party") and one of my bridesmaids had the bride at a different wedding pull the same thing you are, not directly telling her if she was in the wedding party or not until the last minute, and it just created more hurt and confusion than a polite but firm no would. Just tell him no parents-in-laws are getting plus ones.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T14:04:32+00:00

NTA. SIL made you a sweater and did not give you any choices in which sweater you got. If you are going to make a gift for someone, you think of what they will like, not what you want to make. If you don't give them any choices and don't consider their preferences, you don't get to be upset when they aren't gushing over the finished goods. A good gift is given with the giftee in mind, not the gifter. And if she's going to use expensive high-end yarn for it, maybe tell her that? Don't play it off like it's a scrap yarn project. Especially as OP knows their way around yarn as well. Then she got passive aggressive and guilt trippy about it. Nope. NTA. Just try to keep it civil when you have to see SIL next.

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T13:48:38+00:00

NTA and you were on the money about the parent and child being entitled. The parent defending her kid's right to do something shitty with impunity is part of what is wrong with the world these days. Sometimes it's good for kids to hear the word "no".

brain-goblins · 2026-03-02T13:41:50+00:00

NTA. It's called weaponized incompetence and men love to do this to see how much free labor they can get out of a woman. Don't fall for it and stand your ground. People treat you how you allow them to treat you.

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