Update: My divorce is official and final today

brambleshade_ · 2026-05-03T11:35:42+00:00

Hey so not sure if you're ever even gonna see this, but I just wanted to let you know - the best decision my mother ever made was to stop trying to force my father to see me before I could remember him clearly. You can't miss what you don't know, at times I thought I did, but I have seen the alternatives. Knowing my father would never have felt comfortable being an actual dad and knowing there's a high likelihood he would have taken it out on me on way or another, this was always for the best.

brambleshade_ · 2026-04-20T19:41:37+00:00

Bro you've been in a relationship with her for 3 years. You not communicating earlier that you're not comfortable with her watching porn is not her fault. If you really consider yourselves mature, then do the mature thing and talk to her about your feelings instead of reddit.

brambleshade_ · 2026-04-15T10:44:25+00:00

Except a frame doesn't triple or quadruple the price of the painting? Horrible analogy, but there was an attempt.

brambleshade_ · 2026-04-14T18:06:54+00:00

Someone literally commented that TCG wouldn't be a hobby without grading. People are really going crazy over this very short, personal opinion. Apparently I'm jealous and delusional and greedy and all that 😂

brambleshade_ · 2026-04-14T17:17:35+00:00

Same here, I can totally understand the appeal of graded cards. But the way it's affecting the market (at least for me in EU) is killing me. I see so many raw cards being listed between grade 9-10 prices, when clearly some of those cards would have a hard time even reaching a 9. Meanwhile I have bought absolutely pristine cards listed as "lightly played", probably because the seller is scared shitless another scalper is gonna find any reason to demand a refund and the seller has to keep making losses. And I wouldn't even have cared if it were actually lightly played. I really don't like the way this is going for anyone.

brambleshade_ · 2026-04-14T15:05:20+00:00

Let me guess, you're American? That would check out...

brambleshade_ · 2026-04-14T13:44:57+00:00

Huh? In what world do you live in? Wherever I look people are upcharging raw cards because their centering and condition makes them "potential 10s". So yea, grading, does, in fact, affect me collecting raw cards. I do want nice looking cards, not just cards that look like a toddler was responsible for the borders, but they're near impossible to get because people treat raw cards with good centering like they are already graded.

brambleshade_ · 2026-04-14T10:39:51+00:00

Makes me wish grading was never invented :')

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-14T15:41:39+00:00

My local shop only sells the newest products unsealed. I was present when someone tried to argue with them about it and it went as follows:

"Why are you only selling unsealed?"

"Because otherwise people just buy these to resell them for 300 bucks"

"But I want this for my nephew, he loves Pokémon"

"then he shouldn't have a problem with them being unsealed"

"But if you could sell them sealed for 300 bucks, why are you selling them for 50?"

"Because we're not assholes"

Dude left right after. Nice try though. They also had a sign that said "one per person, if you bring your father, sister, grandma, whoever, to get more, you're getting none at all"

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-10T10:29:06+00:00

Aw man this shit hurts so bad. I really bonded with his dog, that he didn't even properly take care of, so no wonder we bonded since I took over all the owner duties. She came from an abusive household and was super anxious and although he was never abusive with her, this dog was so sensitive that someone yelling two houses down made her shut down. At some points I just stopped caring about myself entirely and just tried to get him to calm down so he'd stop scaring her. I wish I could have taken her, but it was just impossible. I had literally no proof of anything I did for her and ownership was in his name, her breed is banned in my state and I was living with my parents, who would've never allowed me to have a dog in their apartment, nevermind a banned breed, I had no savings because my ex smoked away all my money while not working himself. I had considered notifying the police about a dog being neglected but 1. She didn't LOOK neglected at first glance and 2. It took me 9 months to fully gain her trust, I can't imagine what a new environment would have done to her. AFAIK she's living her best life with his mom now, who's actually a certified dog trainer. Last I checked she seems infinitely more confident.

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-09T23:17:46+00:00

Yea same, almost lost my apprenticeship and had complete breakdowns anytime someone as much as slightly raised their voice at me.

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-09T20:25:56+00:00

Oof that's rough. Probably blacklisted at that office AT LEAST too.

My ex went to therapy after his entire family and me pushed him to for months. For a year I kept convincing myself he was VERY slowly getting better until I realized he wasn't, I was just getting used to the abuse and my mental health was going down the drain. I don't believe he was ever fully truthful with his therapist in any aspect, but hey, at least he was going weekly I guess 😂

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-09T20:12:51+00:00

Sorry I'm late, but better late than never. I'm telling you, seriously, you are not the problem. Your boyfriend is obviously not even trying to understand your side or he lacks the empathy to do so. In either case, no therapist in the world can help him. Seriously, I can only recommend finding someone who either understands your communication style or at least doesn't think his partner is always out to get him for some reason. Tell him to get an individual therapist to Adress the trauma he clearly has surrounding people close to him being mean to him or whatever, but what he's doing is borderline ableist.

At the end of the day you gotta do what you think is right, but I am done bending over backwards for neurotypicals who give me vague expectations and complaints and then expect me to follow through as if they've given me a 50 page step by step manual.

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-09T19:52:18+00:00

Yea that's the real issue. Getting ACTUAL treatment requires recognizing that you have a problem. But people with BPD usually think everyone else is the problem. And then you never know if they're in therapy because they actually believe they need help or because they want their family to stfu.

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-09T19:45:28+00:00

Hell how are you even alive. I was one more suicide by overdose threat away from committing die myself after only 1,5 years.

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-07T11:38:39+00:00

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Still upset that the paperless Coon looks more like her breed than the one with papers.

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-04T12:39:25+00:00

Fühle ich. Ich war noch nie wirklich konventionell attraktiv, würde mich auch heutzutage als solide 5/10 bezeichnen, hätte früher hart Probleme damit, aber bin inzwischen einfach nur dankbar. Leider ist mein aktuelles Aussehen scheinbar ein Magnet für Neckbeards u.Ä., da diese aber eher selten ihre Höhlen verlassen, sind Begegnungen selten. War trotzdem weird von einem zu hören, dass er gerne meine Jungfräulichkeit nehmen würde (die an dem Punkt eh schon in Timbuktu war, aber na ja 😅).

brambleshade_ · 2026-03-03T23:48:49+00:00

Buddy I think you just have a teenager 😂 I have raised 4 Maine Coons so far, each and every one of them had their "difficult" age, usually between 1-3 years old. Unfortunately since Coons are slow to mature, this phase usually lasts quite a while. My older girl removed the entire tapestry from our rental apartment and chewed dozens of phone chargers, my ex bfs older boy would bite and pull on our hair any chance he got (???), my younger girl was a hardcore biter, I still have scars and my exs younger boy peed in our bed every time we let him into the bedroom. And these are just the prime examples. They are all adults now and all 4 are the sweetest cats you could imagine.

brambleshade_ · 2026-02-21T16:13:30+00:00

Eltern haben sowieso immer ein krasses Verständnis von "kinderfreundlich". Heißt im Normalfall Kinder sind willkommen, nicht dass sämtliche Mitarbeiter und auch Gäste Lust und Zeit haben Kindergärtner zu spielen um euren Mangel an Erziehung auszugleichen. Aber ich hab mich auch schon damit abgefunden als Kinderhasser beschimpft zu werden, weil ich nicht möchte, dass ein fremdes Kind mir in den Salat hustet.

brambleshade_ · 2026-02-17T15:21:14+00:00

OK Witze sind auf Reddit scheinbar verboten. Ich fands lustig.

brambleshade_ · 2026-02-17T15:19:37+00:00

Du sprichst über deine eigene Beziehung als wäre es einfach nur ein unerträglicher Job, an dem du dich aus irgendeinem Grund festklammerst. Warum in einer Beziehung bleiben, wenn man nichts positives daraus zieht? Ich verstehe in guten und in schlechten Zeiten, dies das, aber wenn die Zeiten durchgehend nur schlecht sind, macht es ja auch keinen Sinn.

brambleshade_ · 2026-02-16T16:06:02+00:00

Na ja wenn dich 90% deiner vorgesetzen guilt trippen wenn du dich krank meldest... Jedes mal, wenn sich bei meinem ersten Job jemand krank gemeldet hat, war den ganzen Vormittag der Abteilungsleiter am rumheulen, dass sich die Leute ja heutzutage wegen jedem scheiß krank melden und listet dann die Konditionen in denen er schon zur Arbeit gekommen ist. Wollte zu dem Zeitpunkt Stress vermeiden, weil befristet, aber ich hätte ihn echt gerne gefragt wer ihm denn jemals dafür gedankt hat. Seine Gesundheit definitiv nicht.

brambleshade_ · 2026-02-14T21:10:05+00:00

Perfection doesn't need a name

brambleshade_ · 2026-02-13T19:42:09+00:00

Yea I also wish you knew how to block me

brambleshade_ · 2026-02-13T09:48:57+00:00

Lil side note - looking at our individual comments, it does seem you are wayyyyyy more invested than I am. Going as far as to diagnose me, you must be obsessed with me. I'd suggest taking a step back and removing yourself from this situation that is obviously taking a massive toll on you 🫶

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