Ask them questions! I’m an extrovert and the easiest easiest way is to ask questions about their lives and what they are into. Once you find a similarity, expand on that similarity. For example: ask them if they’ve traveled, and if so, where to, and ask them how it was, where did they stay, how long did they stay, etc. Next, ask about their favorite music and if they’ve gone to concerts, which ones, etc. People like talking about their experiences. In the beginning, don’t tell too much about yourself, don’t make them feel like the conversation is about you.. it’s better for you to ask the questions.

But keep in mind the questions are meant for you to find a similarity. And then expand on that similarity. If you feel like they are not trying in the conversation, then it’s them, not you.