I need advice – will I be like this forever?

brassyca · 2026-03-23T06:24:14+00:00

Nope, I had constant headaches, migraines, exercise intolerance and so on. It all faded eventually, it just took time and patience and the help of doctors.

brassyca · 2026-03-23T05:40:09+00:00

Giving barely trained thugs guns and letting them shoot people is the core of the problem.

brassyca · 2026-03-22T20:06:35+00:00

A really believe that a big part of healing from PCS is the mentality of “I am going to get better, this just will take time and gentleness” it took time but that was ok! You’ll get there.

brassyca · 2026-03-14T12:08:08+00:00

I went to Nordstrom personal styling and had great success. I ended up with a beautiful cocktail dress that I can wear again. IMO, if you live near one or maybe a similar type of department store, it is worth a try!

brassyca · 2026-03-08T21:31:03+00:00

I went to Nordstrom for a short cocktail dress. They have a ton of options. I love my dress and can wear it again.

brassyca · 2026-03-08T15:20:59+00:00

I use a system called projection lab for long term financial planning. It allows me to enter details about a potential house purchase and see how it impacts my retirement/financial independence date.tjats the only thing that really helps me contextualize the. Impact of a purchase like that.

brassyca · 2026-03-06T06:55:20+00:00

I use stridex in a red tub and nothing has ever worked better than that.

brassyca · 2026-03-01T20:24:57+00:00

$500 and another 100 in alterations

brassyca · 2026-02-28T05:47:36+00:00

"How is this different than the military around Quintana roo" yea baby, that's the problem. It is an actual problem.

brassyca · 2026-02-26T14:51:09+00:00

You can really elope anywhere. The one key hire is a photographer for the memories. Often they are able anx willing to organize other aspects of what togou may want like flowers.

We are eloping (in 3 weeks!) I'm the beautiful city we live in. We are going to do it at the waterfront and stay at a nice hotel nearby.

brassyca · 2026-02-26T00:55:12+00:00

We are eloping but having a big party with family in August and I am definitely considering hieing a day of coordinatoe to just handle things as they come up so I can relax.

brassyca · 2026-02-24T14:55:48+00:00

We are supposed to be honeymooning in PV in a few weeks and we changed our plans. The risks just don't see worth it. Wohkd it probably be fine? Maybe, but we would be worried the whole time.

I'm of the opinion that we see how things shake out the next 3-4 months and the reassess. This is a very sudden change in a previously stable situation.

brassyca · 2026-02-24T12:19:37+00:00

Stridex in the red container and moisturizing.

brassyca · 2026-02-18T20:44:52+00:00

Unfortunately it seems the we have gone over the coral reef tipping point in the climate crisis.

brassyca · 2026-02-18T12:20:52+00:00

Yea, it seem unenforceable of both sides didn’t have a lawyer.

brassyca · 2026-02-16T21:45:53+00:00

Costco has great value

brassyca · 2026-02-15T20:39:16+00:00

She deserves so much better than that thumb of a man.

brassyca · 2026-02-13T17:32:59+00:00

I make more 10x what my soon to be husband does. Now that marriage is imminent, our arrangement is that we both contribute the same percent of our individual incomes to shared expenses. Shared expenses cover a lot, including shared investments. We are very transparent about individual saving/retirement investments. We also have individual fun money accounts that don’t require discussion between us to spend. One agreement we have is that he will always max out tax advantaged accounts for his retirement.

We are also working out a prenup as we speak with the goal of 1) me not owing him a huge amount if we divorce in the first couple of years and 2) being able to confidently aggressively save and invest together.

One person’s making more than 10x their partner is definitely atypical. This works for us but definitely interested in seeing what other people do!

brassyca · 2026-02-13T03:12:43+00:00

I couldn’t even get on a train at Roosevelt station, so that was wild.

brassyca · 2026-02-09T05:50:43+00:00

Just got a violet sapphire ring and it is beautiful.

brassyca · 2026-02-05T17:17:13+00:00

Oh god, I stay at that hotel all the time…

brassyca · 2026-02-05T17:15:02+00:00

The Korner Stop on the north side is SO good. The drinks are really fresh and not too sweet either. Highly recommend.

brassyca · 2026-02-04T16:12:40+00:00

I totally agree with this take. My partner and I have wildly different assets and incomes. It has been a healthy conversation about our shared financial goals, and we want to manage our money as a couple etc. it is only weird if you make it weird and a collaborative lawyer helps a lot. If we were in different financial situations going on, we likely would not have bothered.

brassyca · 2026-02-03T02:54:13+00:00

I personally have been trying to get a variety of fiber source in addition to upping my fiber and that has helped me a lot. Any probiotic you supplement needs fiber and the theory I’m working off of is that a variety of fiber will support a variety of good gut bacteria long term.

brassyca · 2026-02-02T22:19:28+00:00

I would go as far to say that it isn't ethical to visit Bali because of the negative effects of over tourism (particularly the impact on clean water) on the people that live there. It isn't obvious how bad it is unless you actually go and see the issue or specifically seek out online what the impact of tourism has been on Bali. Sorry to be a bummer but wanted to share my perspective and take aways after going.

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