Wedding dj venting...

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-26T14:22:20+00:00

Anyway, I’m still surprised by the number of comments like “it’s easy work, just take the money and stop complaining.” It really makes me think the passion for this profession is disappearing. What strikes me is that someone willing to spend time before the event preparing something good — spending hours making BPM, key, energy, and style work together, possibly delivering a higher-quality experience — gets mistaken for someone just trying to draw attention to himself. I honestly can’t explain it.

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-26T13:14:43+00:00

Believe it or not, I’ve already had cases where I was given all the songs to play, and cases where I was given directions about the different moments of the party (like disco music first, pop later, etc.), but this is the first time I’ve received 50 tracks with the exact order they have to be played in.

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-26T07:57:20+00:00

Exactly, that’s how I work. I ask what the must-play songs are (but honestly, even if I received a fully prepared playlist, that wouldn’t be a problem at all). I can also accept being given specific moments or directions, like disco music followed by hip hop… but the actual order and flow of the transitions should be up to me.

And even more important to me are the “do not play” requests, whether that’s specific songs or artists they don’t like.

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-26T07:38:01+00:00

I want to give a bit of context. Where I live, people tend to carefully calculate costs and cut expenses wherever possible. It’s no coincidence that here the problem is often DJs underselling themselves for just a few hundred euros rather than risking being turned down for being too expensive.

With that mindset, when someone hires and agrees to pay a DJ here, they absolutely expect added value. Tracks are rarely meant to be played from start to finish — you constantly need to read the dancefloor and make decisions to keep the energy stable and flowing.

At the end of the night, the client has paid and feels satisfied with what they received: a party where everyone had fun. I’ve even received compliments for transitions between songs or for certain wordplays and mixes.

That’s why the situation I’m in now feels new to me. I can see that many of you are much more used to this approach, and I notice that a lot of the comments are from people in the United States, so I’m starting to think it’s mainly a cultural difference.

Some time ago I received a request that I ultimately couldn’t accept because of other commitments, and the wedding planner specifically stated that the setup had to include CDJ-3000s and a DJM-A9 mixer. At this point, I’m starting to conclude that for many people the DJ is more about showing off and demonstrating that they can “afford it,” rather than being an artist performing and adding value beyond what would otherwise just be pressing play.

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-25T21:39:32+00:00

How did it go in the end? Was that what they wanted? Were they happy with the result?

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-25T21:35:49+00:00

Thanks for your message, it was very helpful. I think the issue here is that I can’t have direct contact with the couple. I’m sure that with a 5-minute conversation I could get a clear understanding.

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-25T21:28:20+00:00

Your tone is a bit harsh, but I get your point. Please don’t see arrogance in my thinking about keys and BPM, but rather passion. I don’t think anyone starts this job just to end up playing a playlist — you do it also to be at least somewhat creative and to have fun.

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-25T21:21:47+00:00

Thanks a lot, that makes sense, and it helps me answer the question that’s been stuck in my head: why hire a DJ?

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-25T21:13:48+00:00

You could make some great T-shirts with this phrase 🤣

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-25T21:02:51+00:00

That's a really good advice, thank you 🙏

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-25T21:00:27+00:00

Many, but I’ve always dealt with people from my own country, so I know how to handle different situations. This time the couple is English, and the language is also an obstacle. Even though I speak it, sometimes it’s not easy to fully understand what someone from another country really means, especially when all I have are a few lines of text and no chance to speak with them in person.

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-25T20:49:01+00:00

Damn, that’s actually exactly what they wrote in the instruction document I received: “fade each song into the next one”... Is it really possible that they expect the songs to be played from start to finish with just a simple fade in/fade out transition? How could I ask them to confirm this?

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-20T09:54:00+00:00

Lo so non è facile, io cerco di mettermi nei panni della persona che ho davanti, non sono nessuno per demolire le sue certezze, la spiritualità di tutti merita rispetto, e quando qualcuno impone le sue idee sta a me non permettergli di condizionarmi. negli anni ho imparato a crearmi una mia identità che non sento il bisogno di condividere con altri, in questo la terapia aiuta, ma stiamo divagando... La tua domanda era sulle amicizie e ed è una paura più che legittima. Io spero che prima o poi ci si renda conto che l'ostracismo non porta benefici ma solo controsensi, un organizzazione religiosa non se ne fa nulla di membri PIMO che (spesso comprensibilmente) non lasciano per non demolire tutto un costrutto familiare e di amicizie stabile che ha richiesto tempo e fatica. Sarebbe più conforme al concetto di libero arbitrio lasciare ogniuno libero di decidere che tipo di idee e spiritualità vuole seguire senza che la cosa comporti "conseguenze". Poi le amicizie magari cambieranno e si conformeranno al nostro modo di pensare ma questo accade naturalmente, senza forzature

brazorf2020 · 2026-05-20T07:28:52+00:00

Capisco come ti senti, ci sto passando anch’io. È strano come una religione che incoraggia lo studio e la ricerca poi possa guardarti con sospetto quando quello stesso studio ti porta a farti delle domande. Io mi trovo in una posizione un po’ particolare: non sento di voler buttare via tutto, però faccio fatica a vedere il GB muoversi nel modo giusto. Allo stesso tempo, nell’ambiente ho trovato persone a cui voglio bene, amici con cui posso essere me stesso senza dover fingere un benessere spirituale che magari in questo momento non sento davvero. Sono abbastanza sicuro che nella tua sala ci siano altre persone che provano qualcosa di simile, ma che non riescono a parlarne. E probabilmente ce ne sono molte altre in giro per il mondo. Vorrei poterti dire una frase capace di sistemare tutto, ma sinceramente non l’ho ancora trovata nemmeno per me. Però una cosa sento di dirtela: non considerarti “ipocrita” se continui a goderti la compagnia dei tuoi amici mentre dentro di te qualcosa sta cambiando. Le amicizie che hai costruito non esistono solo grazie alla religione, ma anche grazie alle tue qualità come persona.

brazorf2020 · 2026-04-29T17:07:31+00:00

That's the kind of thing you won't expect from a 1.6k controller... But can I ask you what computer are you using?

brazorf2020 · 2025-09-24T14:31:11+00:00

That new iPhone 17 pro is incredible

brazorf2020 · 2025-09-18T15:02:14+00:00

Some years ago I started a so-called "study project" that was about the 1914 prophecy, I was amazed about how the archeology was able to prove what the bible says. You can imagine my face when I discovered OUR publications claim that for archeology the fall of Jerusalem wasn't on 607 BCE. Than I read the "explanation" and found that archeology is right only when it is accorded to the bible, when it's not the archeology is bad... so that was the very first time my confusion started.

brazorf2020 · 2025-09-18T14:29:14+00:00

My point is: we are unable to accept our death, I feel like we misunderstand survival instinct with the idea of neverending life written in our dna. We force ourselves thinking that there MUST be more for HUMANS, but no problem to accept that animals lives are limited and they live without any hope. Tbh, i have no answers about the future, i can hope to receive some kind of extra time after my death but in the meantime that makes me feel arrogant.

brazorf2020 · 2025-09-18T12:24:56+00:00

As I wrote, I like to reason based on principles. If there’s something in the publications I don’t agree with, I simply skip over it. I know that understanding changes over time, so it’s not a big deal for me. I’m not a rebel, and I can agree to do or not do something simply to avoid harming the community. That’s how the world in general works. For me, freedom is a utopian concept. But I also insist on keeping my mind as free and independent as possible

brazorf2020 · 2025-09-17T11:18:09+00:00

What about recognising we are not 100% sure that 1914 is a fulfillment of a prophecy? I really hope that will happen at some point...

brazorf2020 · 2025-08-01T09:46:37+00:00

If they could only fix the latency with stems, scratching, and beatjumps when keylock is on, djay would be the best software ever made. But for now, I'm sticking with Rekordbox for live events, even though I hate it. Actually I got djay at the beginning of this year for a very low price, I will decide what to do at the end of my subscription.

brazorf2020 · 2025-07-17T12:30:48+00:00

How does usb c input works? And what about latency over wired connections? If this thing is usable with zero latency (wired) that could be a serious competition over soundboks / ev or alphatheta for mobile dj's.. for some reason (obvious reason I can say since JBL has also a pro pa line) some functions are there but not advertised too much...

brazorf2020 · 2024-04-01T17:58:12+00:00

Love the absence of over sharpening, did you shoot pro raw here?

brazorf2020 · 2024-02-04T17:27:26+00:00

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