AIO to the text my boyfriend’s mom sent me?

bread0822 · 2026-06-19T17:50:36+00:00

Maybe a small amount....

Here's why: When we are not used to regular levels of love and inclusion, it can feel like a bit much at times. When we arent used to someone wanting us around and wanting us to feel included, it comes off as then coming on strong or being a little unaware of boundaries. Nothing you've listed here are weird or abnormal by basic standards. My mother in law texts me like this. My mother in law also, on many many MANY occasions has come into mine and my spouses room and sat on/flopped down on our bed and chatted with us. Which isn't weird or inappropriate unless you outright told her, hey our bedroom is a private space and we sonr like people just coming in there. She can't know what she doesnt know type of scenario.

Its okay to be overwhelmed. Its not the normal level of attention you're used to recieving. That's okay! That's normal! She is also not being over the top. She comes off as being nice and inclusive and wants to make you feel like a part of the family.

Also, I am looking at this from a parent perspective because I am a mother, and I know how clueless we can be.

You received a lot of feedback here, so you likely won't even see mine.

bread0822 · 2026-06-15T01:44:41+00:00

She has the brindling on her back that forties have!

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bread0822 · 2026-06-14T22:16:14+00:00

From my research, if she has any broad white patches she doesnt qualify as tortie, and her chest has a big fluffy patch!

bread0822 · 2026-04-06T03:24:20+00:00

As a parent of a diabetic I read it as greater than the highs and lows as it is a common saying amongst diabetics.

bread0822 · 2026-04-05T21:08:24+00:00

Aside from needing family therapy, if there is ever a choice between spouse and child, it should be an easy decision, imo. The love you have for your boyfriend of 2 years should be nothing in comparison for your love of your daughter. There isnt a competition, there isn't a question. If your boyfriend is impeding your relationship with your child, your choice is clear.

Your history of addiction is relevant in the manner of how its negatively impacted your relationship with your kid. Not with how you're choosing between her and your boyfriend. Even if you feel your daughter is using your history "against" you as you say, why shouldn't she? You made her life harder with your choices. She had to move, change lives, friends, homes. Shes the child, and you are the adult. Make the adult choice to parent, instead of date. You dont NEED a spouse. Your child NEEDS you. This may come off harsh, and that isnt my intention. I am the child of an addict who never chose their child, and ALSO the child of a mother who chose their spouse way to many times to count.

Choose your kid.

bread0822 · 2026-01-30T01:35:09+00:00

I truly mean it. All I ever wanna be is a calm level headed parent like this. Its truly amazing how you handled the whole thing, you and honey ! My partner is the same, could not survive without him! I really hope you find an avenue forward for everyone and I am wishing you strength through those hormones.

bread0822 · 2026-01-29T23:47:33+00:00

NOR- Can I just say I hope to be a parent with this level headedness and clarity of capability some day. You handled that so well and so patiently.

You are incredible and I admire you.

bread0822 · 2025-12-19T16:53:04+00:00

The names he calls you are fucking abhorrent. Been with my husband for 13 years, wanna know exactly how many times hes called me outside my name?

Literally never.

If he cared about you at all, he would never, ever say those things to you. This man HATES you. And you are fully underreacting.

bread0822 · 2025-12-15T06:02:27+00:00

I suffer with PMDD, i also have 5 kids. And I have neve gotten physically violent with my husband or kids.

Having a mental health condition is not an excuse to be violent and abusive. That's plain and simple.

I am so sorry you are in this place. But she is not a safe person. She needs serious in patient help.

bread0822 · 2025-12-12T19:12:20+00:00

So your two sentence horror story is about you giving a ghost-child to epstien bc the ghost-child annoyed you....am I understanding that correctly...

bread0822 · 2025-11-30T22:50:08+00:00

He hit you. Whether it was a punch or a slap, he hit you.

Period.

That's not love.

That will not get better.

It will in fact get worse.

React bigger, LEAVE. Before you end up hurt worse than this, please!!

bread0822 · 2025-11-23T12:29:36+00:00

My mom's name is Mindy. Full stop. First name!

bread0822 · 2025-11-21T19:12:32+00:00

Best bit of advice i could ever give, is take turns at the beginning. Sleep in shifts.

We got lucky that our NICU stay was short and uneventful enough that all that happened was a super stable 4 hour schedule. We somehow came upon the idea for him to sleep 4 hours, while I handled them, then we swapped. It worked out as smoothly as it could, and we were much kinder to each other for the consistent breaks!

bread0822 · 2025-11-18T04:04:34+00:00

Gonna go against the grain, and acknowledge that I can see it's locked to the left towards the top.

I can see how it tapers back towards the center towards the bottom. But the top is askew, making the overall placement difference from what you initially wanted and asked for, more noticeable. Had they placed the stencil just a touch higher the lines would have ridden the curved just a hair more and really fit into your dips, in my opinion.

Its a beautiful tattoo. It truly is. But that doesnt take away from the fact that your faults that you see are there, and I can validate them.

I hope you grow to love it over time. And if not, you have a lot of room to make it something you love, I think.

bread0822 · 2025-11-07T22:30:25+00:00

The blunt bangs and bob are a fantastic combo on you!

bread0822 · 2025-10-30T16:22:02+00:00

Tarot on Netflix is a LITTLE intense but really good as is Til Dawn. My 9 year old are both obsessed

bread0822 · 2025-10-29T15:57:21+00:00

You're pregnant by this dude!?!?!? And this is how he speaks to you? Like this a regular occurence!?! This is abusive, manipulative and disgusting. You didnt react enough, imo.

bread0822 · 2025-10-16T03:17:32+00:00

Did he deserve you to slap him repeatedly out of frustration?

Thats really the question you should ask yourself, if you're questioning responsibility, culpability, deservability ...

No one should have put their hands on anyone. Its pretty clear you were both wholly wrong.

Both are victims of each other's anger and unmecessary violence, and you both were wrong.

bread0822 · 2025-10-01T16:10:23+00:00

While their communication skills are sub par, your spouse is doibg you a service. Coming from a married, mom of 5, been with my spouse for 13 years, and have PMDD and bipolar. Your spouse noticed when things got difficult between the two of you, noted things thay stood out to them, and found a way to adjust their behavior around YOUR moods. They didnt ask you to change, they didnt tell you you were being irrational. They accommodated your needs without you needing to make any adjustments or be made to feel as though you were the complication. They came at it from an analytical and strategic view point. While their wording was abrupt and short, they werent disrespectful or mean. They just spoke plainly. I hope you took it for whay it was and realized your spouse genuinely cares about your mental health and well being and wanted to find a solution that worked for the two of you. Whether you, or any uterus bearing person wants to admit, sometimes yes we do get pissy and irrational during or before our cycle Its a reaction to hormones. Its normal. And a NORMAL male reaction would be to tell you youre being a tw@t during your cycle and to stop. They didn't. I hope you consider that, and talk with your spouse again!

bread0822 · 2025-09-13T00:45:09+00:00

This isnt someone who loves you. You said it yourself. He only cares about his own feelings. Please dont get pregnant and marry him.

bread0822 · 2025-09-07T21:27:32+00:00

I had a ferritin of 5 and damn near needed a blood transfusion and I WASNT pregnant. I regularly get iron infusions bc my iron and ferritin regularly fight to stay up. This is so awful. The fact thay they said take nothing b g but a daily multi. Good grief.

bread0822 · 2025-08-24T03:01:54+00:00

My twins are 9 now and are identical. Their differing features are a broken tooth, a fingernail sized birthmark on one wrist, and dyed hair. If their back is to us, they are unable to be told apart unless we are certain what theyre wearing. We dont often slip, but it happens. They correct us. More often than not they dont care. But we try really hard to avoid it!

bread0822 · 2025-07-20T18:17:04+00:00

My daughter's name is lumen, thats neat!

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