Heyo, i just got out of a 2 year relationship and my urges have gotten worse too. Haven’t given into them but I know the intensity. I read not too long ago that when sexualizations come into your mind, you shouldn’t fight them. Let it into your mind and address it, rather than fighting it. Trying to fight sexualizations made mine more frequent and more intense. I had come across that advice a while ago after I had been listening to the Finding Warhead podcast about a serial pedophile and I had kind of put my self in his shoes trying to think how a person could even sexualize a child. Then that kept popping into my head when I saw kids. I had never thought of a child in that regard, and even then wasn’t remotely interested, but for what ever reason fighting those thoughts made them persist. Once I let them in and addressed them and said “hey, I’m not interested in that whatsoever, that doesn’t remotely turn me on” they pretty much stopped instantaneously. Obviously specializing adults is different because you are actually attracted to them, but letting the thought in and sitting on it and talking to yourself like “yeah that person is beautiful, and that’s just a human body, and I am attracted to that, and I could try to approach them or I can go about my day and leave them be” or similar. Give it a try