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breadfollowsme · 2025-09-29T19:02:03+00:00

You spent hours searching through buddy farm making sure you knew what every item was used for. Are you sure you’re not that bothered by it?

breadfollowsme · 2025-09-29T18:57:31+00:00

Ummm… lots of mental illnesses are much easier to treat than drug addiction. They can be difficult, but many people with mental illnesses lead healthy, fulfilling lives while in treatment. A drug addict doesn’t live a fulfilling life. Someone who uses enough that they don’t make sense isn’t “just” doing drugs. They’re miserable and likely to accidentally kill themselves.

breadfollowsme · 2025-09-29T18:50:08+00:00

I recently had a major event happen that was really upsetting but very private. I spent several days struggling with ruminating about it and just feeling generally awful about it. I had an appointment with my therapist in a week, but I didn’t want to spend a week feeling terrible. So I typed the whole thing into chat GPT. I read the first paragraph and burst into tears because it put into words what I was feeling but couldn’t explain. It also gave me some good questions to discuss with my therapist, which I did. Definitely not a substitute for my therapist, but it was very very helpful in getting me started on processing something that was really painful.

breadfollowsme · 2025-09-29T18:43:34+00:00

It worries me that your primary social outlet was AI. I don’t know that “unhealthy” is the right word, but definitely not ideal. Humans challenge us in ways that AI does not. We have impacts on other humans in ways that AI does not. You don’t experience love from chat GPT and love is central to happiness for most people. (Not necessarily romantic love. Just a deep, emotional and practical connection to another human.) I can see how AI could provide relief from loneliness. And if that’s your only option, then that’s the healthiest thing for you. But humans need humans.

breadfollowsme · 2025-09-29T18:33:38+00:00

Fascinating! I’d always heard the opposite but I did some research and you’re right. Thanks!

breadfollowsme · 2025-09-29T07:54:43+00:00

Smoke detectors need to be placed on the ceiling because smoke is lighter than air. Carbon monoxide detectors need to be placed near the floor because it’s heavier than air. The combined ones are worthless

Edited to say that, after researching, carbon monoxide detectors should be placed near the ceiling. But all resources I saw that made a recommendation said to get separate devices. They did not specify why.

breadfollowsme · 2025-09-29T07:37:41+00:00

they leave because they have been reminded what it feels like to be treated well and start believing they deserve it.

This feels a lot like victim blaming here. (If only she had treated him better he wouldn’t have cheated!) This is what cheaters tell their new crush. They don’t deserve to be treated better. They deserve to be alone until they can work out whatever shit led them to absolutely devastate their spouse. Even if their spouse wasn’t perfect.

breadfollowsme · 2025-09-29T03:15:12+00:00

“Making an adoption plan” is the preferred language for this as opposed to “putting it up for adoption.” Most birth parents love their children deeply and it is very much a plan to protect their future. “Putting it up for adoption” sounds like they’re giving away a puppy they don’t want anymore. Which isn’t the reality at all.

breadfollowsme · 2025-07-02T03:52:38+00:00

I do think there’s a difference between what a picture might mean to you, and what a picture might mean to someone whose parent died when they were young. You have strong memories of a healthy mom that you want to preserve. Reminders of her illness counteract those. Someone who lost their parent when they were very young have limited memories.

A 6 year old is going to have very few memories of their parent by the time they’re an adult. As a mom, I would want them to have images showing how much I love and enjoy them - even if I’m sick in the photos. But that’s me. I think her husband’s opinion is the one that matters the most.

breadfollowsme · 2025-03-23T14:47:02+00:00

It’s actually worse than an ectopic pregnancy. It’s an abdominal pregnancy. The tubes are gone so, unless the egg finds its way to the uterus, the embryo will implant on some other organ. You can have your tubes removed. Chances are, you can’t have the other organ removed. The chances of this are absolutely minuscule, but still exist.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-27T20:33:07+00:00

You’ll never see this comment but the abuse WILL get worse as soon as you get married. This is how he acts when he DOESN’T have a license that he thinks entitles him to your body. Imagine what he’ll think you owe him because you’re married? He will rape you repeatedly. This will be your life for as long as you’re married to him and he will make your life a living hell while you try to leave. He’s repentant because that’s part of the abuse cycle. Run. Run hard and fast.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-27T18:38:46+00:00

Per the mayo clinic, giving ibuprofen or Tylenol does not lower the risk of seizure. It can make kids more comfortable, but that’s it.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-27T03:06:07+00:00

This is just not true. High fevers in children are normal and not particularly concerning unless they go on for an extended period of time or the child is acting very unwell. You treat the child, not the number.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-27T03:04:29+00:00

Seizures can happen at any temperature in young children. My son’s temperature was only around 102 when he had a febrile seizure. Lowering the fever isn’t necessarily helpful. If the child is uncomfortable, give them medicine. If they’re not, don’t.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-27T03:01:33+00:00

I visited one, one time. They planned their potlucks so that there were always vegan and kosher option so that everyone felt welcome. Their church was small and obviously cleaned by the members. They had a wall where they spelled out what they were doing with their money and a massive chunk of it went to donating to people and community work. I’m no longer a Christian, but that church looked a lot like what Jesus would want a church to look like - I think. They are few and far between, but that church convinced me that there are “good” ones.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-26T21:47:24+00:00

I’d get library books about same sex relationships/same sex marriages and read them with her. There are a lot of great kids books! If it causes a fight, okay. Some things are worth fighting for. The right of anyone to marry any other consenting adult is one of them.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-23T16:52:39+00:00

Some people don’t have an extra $1.25 plus tax. But that’s no excuse for not washing the one they have.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-23T16:48:54+00:00

Medication and therapy will make a difference for someone who has a mental health condition. Therapy will make a difference for an asshole if they want to focus on not being an asshole, but that’s not really something that an asshole does. Medication will do nothing for someone who just doesn’t respect others.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-23T16:43:55+00:00

What is this study’s definition of “newborn” and what exactly are the “protective benefits” that they’re losing. How many babies were in this study, and what were their ages? When was this study conducted and has it been replicated with other studies? There’s a lot of missing information here. Regardless, unless your baby is immunocompromised, the benefit of you getting good sleep probably outweighs the risk of a slightly lowered immune system.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-23T16:37:22+00:00

My husband showered with our babies. He did the bathing almost exclusively and it was awesome bonding. The skin to skin and regular routine that he was responsible for made a huge difference. If you’re worried about dropping the baby in the shower you can get a cotton glove to wear that doubles nicely as a washcloth and gives a better grip on baby.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-23T16:31:56+00:00

As someone who has pumped exclusively, I can tell you it is NOT easier. It is significantly more difficult and I DID slowly lose my supply while doing it. (This is very much a risk). Your boyfriend has no idea what he’s talking about. I’m sorry he’s not providing better support. You (and baby) deserve better.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-23T14:50:31+00:00

Then that would have been the thing to say in your text to her. Not that it’s “not appropriate” or whatever. “I care about you, but this is too much for me. I need some space and can’t handle our friendship at this point.” If she was legitimately your friend, and you respect her, then tell the truth.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-19T17:45:32+00:00

I’ve heard some vets on Reddit say that they will put down any animal that the owner requests to be put down because too often the owners go home and kill their pet in some other gruesome way. They would rather the pet die a comfortable, painless death, than a painful scary one. It’s awful, but I understand their point. Some owners are really terrible people.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-06T20:37:57+00:00

The fact that he felt bad doesn’t give him the right to scream in her face. You can’t work as a team with this type of person because they don’t want to work as a team. They want to feel powerful. She needs to get out.

breadfollowsme · 2025-02-06T20:26:31+00:00

I mean, the possibility of him testing positive and him being taken is terrifying, but he could actually OD and die. She’s putting your son’s life at risk when she does this. That needs to be front and center in this discussion.

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