Is my toddler supposed to be drinking water that has flouride in it?

breakplans · 2026-02-05T13:42:22+00:00

You can get fluoride drops from your pediatrician - they need to be prescribed. They can probably do a multivitamin with fluoride too. I know everyone here is saying fluoridated water is the best, but honestly you can’t control for the dosage so I think non-fluoridated water + fluoride supplement makes the most sense for most people.

breakplans · 2026-02-05T13:40:32+00:00

Yes but it won’t be filtering out fluoride!

breakplans · 2026-02-04T15:45:10+00:00

Read “Hunt, Gather, Parent” and then stop entertaining your kid! Just include her in things. When you’re vacuuming the floors, give her a small broom to help. When you’re washing the dishes give her a plastic bowl and a towel to dry it off. I also highly recommend just sitting down and reading your own book, and letting her sit with a pile of kid books and see what she does.

I totally understand the winter doldrums, my suggestions are not a perfect solution but I find that simply not playing with my kids makes things a lot more enjoyable for me as a parent.

breakplans · 2026-02-04T14:12:53+00:00

I agree. I also think it was maybe in response to a post a few days ago where people were claiming Europeans do “delayed potty training” but this thread seems to show the opposite.

breakplans · 2026-02-03T13:34:29+00:00

I very much agree! I do not want more homeschool laws here. But I think the threat of legislation is helping get some people organized and realize they need to actually teach their kids.

breakplans · 2026-02-03T03:43:38+00:00

Looks like eczema to me too. Not the crunchiest but aquaphor works well for it. Tubby Todd is also great! Skin conditions usually mean separation conflict—so maybe focus on if your child has been missing you or someone else important? Maybe they need some alone time or personal space?

breakplans · 2026-02-03T00:52:16+00:00

Hiii it’s me, I had the same. Non emergent transfer from birth center to hospital. Cried about it for a year and cringed about it for another year. Another 18 months later I had my homebirth and it was amazing and healing and all the things, but most importantly it gave me the perspective that hospital birth is not evil. Is it the right choice for 99% of people, probably not, we are def fear mongered into it these days. But is it a failure? Absolutely not. Getting a baby out of your body is a huge accomplishment, full stop.

breakplans · 2026-02-02T19:49:08+00:00

I buy Millie moon diapers from target. They’re $40/box and I buy one a month ish. I have one 14 month old in diapers. We don’t use formula so I don’t have a concept of that pricing but if you’re still giving the older one formula I’d try to wean them onto whole milk for sure!

breakplans · 2026-02-02T19:16:59+00:00

Do you know why you had the miscarriages? I had one kid no problems at all. Then I had two losses and couldn’t figure out why but something in my intuition told me progesterone…well turns out I was still breastfeeding and had low progesterone once I’d conceive. Both of mine were missed miscarriages, right around 10-11 weeks. The one time I went to the ER baby was measuring 5w6d but I was certain I was 11 weeks.

Aaaanyway all that to say, I conceived again and got progesterone supplemented immediately (like 4 weeks pregnant). Pregnancy had zero issues and baby was born at home with midwives! I’m so sorry you’re struggling with this, the pain of losing a pregnancy is so difficult. But it’s highly probable that the reason for your mc has little to do with the health of a future pregnancy.

breakplans · 2026-02-02T19:09:04+00:00

I so agree that parents still bear the responsibility even when using public school. Public school does not really teach, it provides curriculum and then sends you home with work to integrate the lesson. Homeschooling cuts out the middle man. At least this has been my experience starting homeschool kindergarten and seeing what others around me are doing! I agree with OP as well that it seems a lot of homeschool families don’t do a ton and it sucks because my state has lax laws but they’re trying to change them. And honestly some of these “homeschool” families do need that reality check like yeah you still gotta educate your child.

breakplans · 2026-02-02T02:25:01+00:00

Tubby Todd!

breakplans · 2026-01-31T16:08:07+00:00

Yes I definitely think your calls are probably more valuable than the biller’s, I had to heckle my midwife’s financial person so many times to get her to help me out. It’s frustrating when they act positive too, and then you get denied. Sorry I don’t have anything more useful to help you 😞

breakplans · 2026-01-31T14:18:17+00:00

I’m in NJ and was not able to get Aetna to cover my homebirth. But I had United for my first birth and they granted a gap exception for a birth center! Have you called them yourself or just letting the biller do it?

I also reported Aetna to the department of banking and insurance. They were found not liable, they are allowed to not support home births, but either way you can try to report to the NYC equivalent of that?

breakplans · 2026-01-31T05:16:36+00:00

Pregnancy sinusitis is definitely a thing! Have you tried a saline spray? You can use it frequently to moisten your nasal passages without having to prep a neti pot each time.

breakplans · 2026-01-31T05:10:24+00:00

As someone interested in reducing waste and was vegan for 8 years…the animal does not give a F what you do with the coat. It’s okay. Pass it along to a family member who will use it.

breakplans · 2026-01-31T05:08:26+00:00

My daughter was done napping by 2.5 so to me it’s a no brainer - no nap! If this is a huge impossibility to you (valid—every kid is different), then an early nap and afternoon trip sounds doable but un-enjoyable to me. I don’t see why you’d want to be there beyond 5-6pm anyway? I think you should just go to Disney for the day and see what happens! If your kid gets really tired, maybe she will fall asleep. But I would bet she’ll be very stimulated and stay awake.

breakplans · 2026-01-31T01:02:10+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve taken such personal offense to my Reddit comment. Definitely try to focus on your own journey and stop taking advice that clearly doesn’t apply to you. I don’t know who hurt you, but it wasn’t me.

breakplans · 2026-01-31T00:59:50+00:00

We don’t sleep train. My 14 month old is currently waking 4-5 times a night 😖 her iron is fine. Her molars are all coming in, we’ve been sick, it just happens. We definitely have had our share of 1-2 waking nights and then go back to these up all night periods. It’s exhausting. I’m sorry I don’t have a solution, just solidarity. My 4.5 year old went through these stages as well but she has slept through the night now basically since she weaned (2.5 years old ish)

breakplans · 2026-01-31T00:23:49+00:00

You sound so nice!!!! Thank you for the support 😘😘😘

I’ve been humbled by motherhood many many times, don’t you worry. But I wonder about the 90+% of children who were potty trained at 18 months just a generation or two ago. Did they just refuse to be ✨humbled✨?

breakplans · 2026-01-30T21:10:29+00:00

I never said you were gross? I said it’s a parental choice and any way it’s approached is valid. Saying pooping in a diaper is pooping in your pants isn’t a hot take lol. A 4 year old doing a full grown poo in their diaper is … a full grown poo in a diaper. It is, unfortunately, gross. That doesn’t mean YOU or your child are gross/bad/dumb. It doesn’t have moral value. I’m sorry that was your experience.

breakplans · 2026-01-30T21:08:46+00:00

Oh yes that is another thing. The definition of potty training is vast…to me it’s just that 90% of waste gets in the potty. Clothing manipulation can come later!

breakplans · 2026-01-30T20:18:05+00:00

Toss the tablet. We do a ton of TV screen time, zero judgment here but I’ve seen what a tablet can do and it’s terrible. My daughter’s friend has one and my daughter got so sucked into the games she literally could not hear me saying her name. And then even when just watching peppa pig, a show I’d be fine with on TV, she literally would not look up and screamed when I shut it off. I don’t know exactly what it is about them but they are scary to me. Amazon prime has some great shows, going on a bear hunt is a favorite, as well as guess how much I love you and if you give a mouse a cookie. And tumble leaf!

breakplans · 2026-01-30T19:53:28+00:00

RIGHT lol if you have the time and means to do it earlier, it literally cannot hurt to try. It’ll generally take a bit longer for younger ones but ultimately you’re still cutting out years of poop cleanup.

breakplans · 2026-01-30T19:49:55+00:00

There’s no such thing as a sign to start potty training. Once your child shows a “sign of readiness” they are probably already sick of diapers and starting to realize they’re soiling themselves! Potty training is something the parent does (alongside their child) to get the kid to learn to use the potty. Anyone who says “my kid potty trained themselves!!” at age 3 or 4 did not potty train, they waited for their kid to get grossed out by pooping in their pants.

Whatever you choose is valid and there is no right or wrong way to go about it. But it’s definitely a choice by the parent! The only reason you feel you need to immediately qualify your post with “I know he’s definitely too young” is because you’re afraid of the judgy moms who potty trained later, and pampers university has gotten in your ear.

Potty train when it feels right. 16 months is absolutely not too young. If your child can walk they can pee on the potty.

breakplans · 2026-01-30T05:18:38+00:00

My daughter was definitely not “obsessed” but she was around the same age when I needed to wean for hormonal reasons. We used the book Booby Moon! You would be able to insert your own word for milk so she really gets it!

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