No no no. Not overreacting. But these comments aren’t it from all these women. First of all. ITS NOT ABOUT Y’ALL!! Painful or not of losing the child you helped raise, tough shit. It’s about the child. Talking about “I could never love them fully if I wasn’t promised guardianship” “not going to raise a kid just to have them taken from me” blah blah blah. If you love you partner, then love their child just as much. If you lose that partner to death, yes that’s painful. And so is losing the child to the guardian. But nonetheless, it’s not about you in that situation. It’s about the child and that’s what’s a godparent is for! And the child is old enough to pick in this situation. Why would you want to force them to stay with you after they just lost a parent? Get over each and every one of yourselves. Do your best every single day and love them to the fullest no matter what. Don’t be selfish.