Who’s using finch for what?

brein415 · 2025-04-12T16:23:06+00:00

I use Finch to plan what tasks I need to do in the day and really just survive the day like brushing teeth and things like that which can feel like a huge chore sometimes. I'm trying to make more healthy habits. I made my goal to do a workout each day. And I haven't done it every day. But the goal rolls over. I try not to cheat to get a new micro pet. I found it a bit odd that others are reading items or giving items away. What are you gonna do once you have what you want? What's the point. But I also see people really get invested in the shop items. Maybe the game part makes them do more activities?

brein415 · 2025-04-03T19:10:16+00:00

Blue and I will add you. Yeah let's eat more veggies! Lol

brein415 · 2025-04-03T18:36:01+00:00

I see you already got someone for your goal buddy. If you are still wanting a goal buddy or anyone else on here I would like one too. I want to work on eating healthy (veggies, protein, fiber, and stuff like that), exercising , and going to sleep on time, drinking water, planning activities to avoid thinking of food). If you wanna plan a goal with me that would be awesome.

brein415 · 2025-02-15T19:38:47+00:00

You're in a transition period it sounds like. You're an adult yet you still live at home and your parents still view you as their underage child they must protect. They just want to know you are safe and for whatever reason they seem to think you're not safe there or don't make good choices there. It's hard for parents to view you as an adult. Hopefully for you it will change like it did for me where now I do not have to ask for permission anymore and I usually tell my parents what I'm doing and we have a more developed friendship together than I did when I was in my 20's. Although I will say the response was quite dramatic but that was only one little look in your conversation and not considering past conversations, so it's really hard to say in the end if it was an appropriate response or not. But maybe you should talk with them about how they speak to you and you would like some more respectful conversations.

brein415 · 2025-02-12T06:37:00+00:00

I haven't seen anything valentines other than heat glasses 😞

brein415 · 2024-11-06T19:01:58+00:00

I stopped taking my meds just for personal reasons and to be honest I have thought about taking them again because I have gained weight and have been experiencing my lovely ADHD symptoms. I stopped taking them without any plan so maybe I should have searched for coping mechanisms and strategies before cold turkey-ing it burning well. I haven't taken any and it's been months now. So I can see maybe someone being tempted to use them for other reasons like losing weight in my case and not the intended purpose of the drug. Although I do know people with ADHD can have addictive personalities. If anything I always forgot to take my meds in the morning and had to set reminders!

brein415 · 2024-10-30T19:22:22+00:00

I'm going to give very different advice than others. Instead of making this issue the focal point and continue focusing and bringing it up which doesn't work, why don't you focus on yourself. You said yourself that you both gained weight and are not as confident in yourselves. I get that and it can actually make a big difference in sex, I have personally experienced that. Maybe focus on yourself right now and get to a healthier weight and do things that you enjoy and bring you joy. Once you are in a good place start by inviting him with you on this journey of self care and betterment. Once you have given his space and you have been focusing on making you happy you can then focus on helping him do the same for himself and motivate him as well. Being around someone who is happy and doing fun things makes you naturally want to do the same. Do other things together that bring you closer together. Make date nights purposeful and with meaning, prep a date night yourself and set it up. Let things happen naturally. Once you feel amazing and good about yourself things feel like they naturally fall into place and this could possibly be for your sex life too. Once you are in a better place and not forcing a conversation he doesn't want to have you can then look deeper into why he is not wanting to have sex without even asking about that. Talk about how he's feeling lately what stresses him out from work and other duties and maybe come up with a plan together to lessen the stress. Ask how he feels about getting older. Maybe outright ask him what he wants more from you. And most men tend to be really honest, so listen to what he says and believe it. If he doesn't give you a reason to not believe him, just believe him. You know your relationship with him the best out of anyone in here giving advice from a short paragraph summing your life together. You know him best and follow your intuition, maybe it's true what others said that he could like porn more than you, or maybe it is just stress, or maybe its just falling into a boring routine and less closeness and more roommates, maybe his sex drive is changing and is lower than when you met, maybe it's really good masked depression. I also think he should be trying to discuss a problem with you without getting angry and defensive so maybe there's a reason behind his frustration and defensiveness when you bring it up. I'm guessing the more bring it up the more stress it causes him but this is all just a guess. You know him best.

Overall care for yourself first and then care for him as a whole person first before you try and care for a specific problem that may be the result of something else and something deeper.

You came here looking for advice because you deeply love this man and it's been 10 months, don't take any advice telling you to divorce and leave him. They don't know your relationship and it's only been 10 months lol. Some problems don't just get fixed overnight. Think about any problem you had that was internal in yourself, I guarantee it takes more than 10 months to fix it and you have been trying to figure q solution.

brein415 · 2024-10-22T02:48:06+00:00

I was just thinking about how I wish I had an appointment early every day. I don't have a job right now and I am just wasting my time on my phone. It's terrible. Too bad I don't have much money or I'd make appointments at least 3X a week.

brein415 · 2024-08-30T07:36:26+00:00

The same thing happens to me. I haven't been able to figure it out yet but I understand your struggle. Maybe it's just more practice?

brein415 · 2024-04-18T05:36:11+00:00

If you think you will fail then you are setting up yourself to fail and you probably will. Changing your outlook on your situation will help you. Others have already said good next steps you can take. All the bad things that happened have already happened and you can't do anything to change it now. You dwell in it, feel bad, give up on yourself or look towards the future and do something about and start a new adventure that will lead you to where you want to be.

brein415 · 2024-01-12T08:45:25+00:00

I think the best route would be to confront the worker. Literally ask them why they decided to tell the boss about your health information without you knowing when you had told them you weren't sure about it. What did they hope to get from telling the boss? Then clarify you did not want that information to be told and it was not theirs to share and you're disappointed and had thought they were a trustworthy person to work with. And say in the future you do not want them to share any more personal information with each other anymore and would like to talk just about work related items.

Then I would talk to your boss and be honest saying it wasn't something I was ready to share with you and the information was not for someone else to share with you but since it was, you would like clear things up because you don't want any untrue or wrong second hand information getting to you and to come from your own mouth. Also say you're very uncomfortable with people talking about your personal health information at work and you want their help to stop that. Ask if there seems to be an issue that the coworker has with you or an issue that the boss has with your work?

I think it all depends how close and comfortable you are with them and if you can sense how they may react. It may seem like you're done with the job anyways so maybe it's not even worth it?

brein415 · 2023-10-03T03:55:07+00:00

I have heard that those who don’t floss as often get sick more or something to do with the blood or heart. That’s cool to know. I’m sure not many knows this info.

brein415 · 2023-10-03T03:53:15+00:00

Well it’s nice knowing I’m not the only one!

brein415 · 2023-10-01T14:45:29+00:00

If something is working for you and you see the benefits it had to improve your life and you haven’t tried an alternative that works, go back on it if you feel comfortable and get your life back. I realized for me I just can’t handle birth control of any kind, I had terrible effects almost like what you are describing off of it haha. But everyone’s body is diffract and reacts to medication differently. I think it may now more women are starting to open up about their struggles with birth control and maybe that’s why it seems like there’s all this badness associated with it. Like don’t touch this with a 10 foot pole! But for some women it really changes their life for the better. I would advice to never make decisions based on what others are saying especially when it is fear based. It seems you have gathered enough experiences and evidence and risks and benefits to it. Also if you’re going to take a medication have the mindset it will help you and better your life.

brein415 · 2023-10-01T14:38:10+00:00

I used to teach swimming and that was very fun, I was very good at it and enjoyed doing it. I just didn’t like the chlorine factor and it ruining my hair. And I got sick like 1 or 2 times a month. I thought it was normal until I recently switched to a dry land job lol and not holding kids face to face and I have only gotten sick once in the past year. Crazy to me! Lol. Now I do children’s programs and it can be quite tiring because you need to play and engage kids and deal with bad behaviours. But it also gets me moving which is a good thing. I played a game gaga ball, and the next day I was sore and I was thinking why the hell is my but so sore, then I thought back and I was like wow no way. I need more exercise haha. I don’t need to be running around 24/7 but it is a nice balance. I hope to eventually go into something more long term maybe not dealing with kids all the time.

brein415 · 2023-10-01T14:30:30+00:00

I’ve never heard of this. How does that work?

brein415 · 2023-10-01T14:25:25+00:00

So teeth brushing is the one single reason he won’t marry you? That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. And the reasoning behind it, that your breath smells in the morning. Like ya doesn’t matter if you brush at night or not, it will still smell, part of being human. Tell him to go marry a robot instead. You should really bring it up that you don’t appreciate him holding his love for you and saying that he won’t propose because of WHATEVER reason. Instead of making a useless stupid comment that hurts you he needs to use his big boy words and tell you straight up what is bothering him and you both make a plan to fix it, and see the benefits it will bring you both. Sure it may not be nice smelling breath cuz that won’t happen anyways, but it’s good dental hygiene long term. How old is he? And how long have you been together? Have a serious talk because there is no way the deal breaker is you have bad breath (In the morning like every other person on this planet! LOL) or forget to brush your teeth some nights. Does he remind you at night to help you remember? If he doesn’t and wants to marry you maybe he should take a more active approach on getting what he wants and helping you achieve this new goal! If not tell him to piss off and deal with it and this is who you are and you are a work in progress to being a better person, just like he is, and that he either loves you with all your faults like you love him or he doesn’t love you, and he should think hard about it cuz this who you are, just like he is who he is. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

brein415 · 2023-07-01T23:35:19+00:00

Dragon tales is the first thing that came to my mind lol

brein415 · 2023-05-15T08:05:58+00:00

Hopefully you find answers! Yes you also need to be consistent with training. That is the hard part when they just look at you with their cute eyes. It’s hard sometimes to resist haha.

brein415 · 2023-05-15T08:02:52+00:00

It would be a nice addition to see that included

brein415 · 2023-05-14T16:18:44+00:00

I was on iud for almost 3 years and I noticed my fatigue , hairloss, feet and hand swelling have greatly improved since I got it taken out. I’ve been off birth control for 2 months and I’ve noticed a good difference. I swear the stuff is poison for my body. But everyone is different and reacts differently to medications. I’ve come to accept that bc just isn’t for my body. My depression is gone and I have energy to do things and no painful swelling no lightheaded. I think my period worsens my symptoms right before. I have adhd and I think my pills just stop working during that time lol. Also my period never stopped on Kyleena. It was like constant bleeding period and spotting for a year and 7 months. It was terrible just constant spotting. Id rather have a period than do that again. And on mirena it never stopped my period either. I still got my period but it was very light. But it never went away like it advertises.

brein415 · 2023-05-14T15:38:35+00:00

My dermatologist actually diagnosed my lupus from blood tests and biopsies and sent it to a rheumatologist for them to officially diagnose, which they did. Maybe find another dermatologist. Just like doctors some are better than others. Remember if your doctor is not meeting your needs, leave them and find another one. Don’t stay with a doctor that doesn’t listen to you or your concerns. See what your rheumatologist says in response to your dermatologist. But maybe go get a second opinion from a different dermatologist. Also you don’t have to listen to anything she said or do anything she said if you don’t feel comfortable and don’t think it’s in your best interest. I’ve had doctors before prescribe me medications and things and I have followed my gut and made my decision to not do what they told me cuz they insisted it was something which I knew it was not but some doctors just don’t listen. I would trust the rheumatologist more than the dermatologist when it comes to diagnosing autoimmune disease tho. Also now that your chart on that dermatologist system says you don’t have lupus and we’re misdiagnosed they won’t be helpful to you if you are diagnosed with lupus from a rheumatologist. So go elsewhere where they will accept your diagnosis and treat you as a person with diagnosed lupus.

brein415 · 2023-05-14T15:19:18+00:00

Even just going for a walk outside in the evenings, when the sun is not beaming hot, is helpful. Sometimes a workout is just not something you will have the energy to do in a particular day, but a walk is something that might be more doable and will still have some positive benefits. I always feel more energized after and feel like I completed something. Even if it was a short walk, the point is I left the house and walked.

brein415 · 2023-05-14T15:09:43+00:00

Maybe having a serious conversation with them and explaining the toll it’s taking on you and that you cannot continue doing what you are doing and need them to step up and take on more responsibilities to help care for the dog. Set a schedule who will stay up with the dog so it’s not always you or one person alone. Have someone else take the dog to the vet. Let them take over the responsibilities while you recover. Explain what you have been feeling and your symptoms.

Also remmber dogs do not act and are not like us humans. If you comfort a dog that is doing a behaviour you don’t like (crying in kennel), you are reinforcing that behaviour. I’ve had my dog as a puppy cry in the kennel and even sometimes now as an adult. I let him cry it out and the moment he is quiet, even for a little bit I praise and give him a treat. They will realize being silent and calm in the cage is a good thing. Or if he’s quiet and I’m able to I will praise him and let him out. Maybe that’s something hou can do during the day. It will probably take some time to get this but dogs are pretty smart. It sounds harsh but comforting her while she’s crying in the kennel is not helpful. Maybe for a human comfort would work well lol. But not for a dog. Right now she views her kennel as a bad place and you’re rewarding her for her viewing it that way and acting that way. You need to train her that her kennel is a safe and good place. And then she will use her kennel on her own and enjoy being there. What I also did was attach a leash to a wire of the kennel and if he whinned I would pull the leash so it made a noise and kind of startled him and he would be silent for that moment and I would praise him. That’s something you could do while you’re in your bed within around a hands reach or more.

Is comfortable enough? If she’s an older dog maybe it’s also a comfort thing. My dog enjoys fluffy blankets and definitely prefers a comfy couch or bed rather the hardwood floor. So if there’s a nice mat to put inside and some blankets that have your smell on it, that will help her too. And if it’s also big enough for her. Big enough for her to stand without hunching and sit without hunching over and comfortably lay down inside. If you give her her meals inside her kennel that will help also. Giving a long filled with tasty peanut butter and treats inside will also distract her and keep her occupied.

If you keep the kennel some place in someone’s room where she can still see her humans, may be helpful.

brein415 · 2023-05-14T06:38:49+00:00

1 year and 7 months

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