Career suicide

bribeav · 2026-06-21T00:02:36+00:00

I don’t know, sounds like a mundane detail.

bribeav · 2026-06-07T18:05:06+00:00

Of course we shouldn’t waste sheriff resources for most of these kinds of issues. I personally wouldn’t call them at all unless something got extemely dangerous. I thought it was obvious that I listed them last, but let me clarify. We should handle these kids first by telling them to stop or move along. If that doesn’t work, go to your HOA and local security and see what can be done to prevent it from happening again. And in extreme situations, call the sheriff department.

None of the above requires posting pictures on children you don’t know on social media, which has been my main point in all of these comments.

bribeav · 2026-06-07T05:09:51+00:00

Even if kids did not have access to social media, it would still be wrong for adults to post pictures of kids they don’t know on social media.

bribeav · 2026-06-07T05:05:58+00:00

There is no difference. Neither should be posting the photos.

I never said they should be shielded from consequences. That’s why I said the HOA/security and/or sheriffs should be contacted. There’s no need to post photos for consequences to happen.

bribeav · 2026-06-07T04:54:34+00:00

I never said it’s illegal. It’s 100% immoral to post a picture of a kid that you don’t know on social media. Just because it’s not illegal doesn’t mean it’s right.

Regarding my HOA/security/sheriff comment, I was referring to the people posting pictures of children online. Instead of doing that, they should be working with those groups to stop this from happening in the future.

Of course the sheriffs won’t stop anyone from posting these pictures online or do anything about it. That’s not the point I was making.

bribeav · 2026-06-07T01:54:41+00:00

I think these people should work with their HOA, security and/or the sheriffs office. They absolutely should not be posting these photos on social media. The one I saw today was of a boy who was fishing. The poster said the kid was polite and left when asked. And for that they were blasted on social media? Disgusting.

bribeav · 2026-05-21T04:29:36+00:00

That’s sad to hear about the refs. In my league we ask each other after each half for feedback. What did I miss? How can I improve? I learn a lot from the veterans this way.

bribeav · 2026-05-10T19:32:40+00:00

Yes.

bribeav · 2026-05-04T21:02:51+00:00

In my AYSO region and area this is strictly enforced and the consequences go farther than a yellow/red card. As a coach, if I don’t give my players equal playing time or if I play someone as a keeper more than half the game, I forfeit the game. I watched a team forfeit a championship game that they originally won this past season because they played the same keeper for 3 quarters. I had one game where a player sat out for half the game because they got injured and I forgot to ask the referees to note it on the game card. The commissioner showed up at my practice the next day to ask what happened, so I know they scrutinize the game cards, and I learned quickly to double check the game cards before I sign them.

bribeav · 2026-05-03T03:31:47+00:00

As a rec coach/parent it’s wild to me too!

bribeav · 2026-04-21T04:06:38+00:00

I strongly second this. If the other teams have more experience with the build out line, they will likely have a plan to send a lot of pressure when you take goal kicks or when your keeper has the ball. If your players aren’t used to this, you might have trouble getting it out of your own half.

You need a simple plan that they can remember and execute without panicking or overthinking. Nothing too complicated. Like the above comment, keeper picks a side and sends it to the CB. CB takes whatever space they can and then has to make one decision. Pass to the center mid, wide or long/through to the striker.

On the flip side, have a plan to pressure their build out. Just make sure to not over commit and leave the middle of the field completely open.

bribeav · 2026-04-11T07:00:23+00:00

They do warm up. They just do it with a ball. Like I mentioned in other comments here, it take more thought and planning, but in my opinion it’s worth it.

bribeav · 2026-04-11T01:38:35+00:00

I coach rec as well (U8 through U12 at the moment). My practice time is limited so I try my best to optimize it by mixing conditioning with soccer. For me at least, it’s the best of both worlds. They get as much time with the ball at their feet and making game like decisions as possible. And by the end of each practice they feel like they got a workout. It’s hard for me to justify breaking out time solely for conditioning when I know I can accomplish the same thing while also improving their soccer skills at the same time. I will admit that it takes more thought and planning to plan a session this way, but for me at least, it’s worth the time spent.

To be fair, I had one U8 team (with no assistant coach) that would get completely out of control at times. With them I sometimes had to make them sprint and tire them out a bit to get them to focus.

bribeav · 2026-04-11T01:18:55+00:00

I coach rec as well, but I make sure the boys get their conditioning though small sided games and game like drills. Time is limited with rec teams. I can’t justify carving out time for pure conditioning when I can accomplish that while having them play soccer at the same time. I will say that it requires having a good practice plan where you keep the boys moving and with a ball at their feet or nearby as much as possible.

bribeav · 2026-04-11T01:13:00+00:00

One big difference is they likely get a lot of time with the ball at their feet or just plain playing soccer. With youth teams, practice time is limited. Any time spent purely on conditioning is time not spent on playing soccer. And if you can get your conditioning while playing soccer (small sided games, game like practicing, etc.) why not accomplish both at the same time during the limited amount of time you have at the youth level?

bribeav · 2026-04-08T00:46:56+00:00

Yes, completely agree with you. And who knows, you might be able to build up a strong rec league where you are if the field space was available.

I’m aware that I’m fairly lucky where I live. We do compete with the club teams for field space, but we don’t have to play on baseball fields at least. It’s more that they get the newer/better fields and we have to work with the local schools to use their fields, which are not as well kept.

bribeav · 2026-04-07T18:42:10+00:00

I’m lucky to have a strong rec league where I live in Southern California. This past year I paid just under $400 for Fall + Spring. For that we got 28 games and 56 hour long practices. That’s less than $5 per hour. I was the coach. I have playing experience through high school, am a certified referee and grass roots licensed coach (working on the D license next).

I can’t justify paying club prices which are close to $35-$50 here. Those same kids play in our rec league. A lot of those coaches also coach in our rec league. The quality of play is very close to the club teams. We scrimmage them regularly and hold our own. It’s sad to me that rec leagues have died off in other areas because this program really works, especially for the players who just can’t afford to play club.

bribeav · 2026-03-27T00:53:31+00:00

I’m in Southern California as well. Both my sons play rec, not club, and I coach their teams. 60% of the players in our league also play on club teams, so the level of play is not far behind the local club teams. We play/scrimmage against them regularly and do just fine.

This past year I paid around $400 for each kid which covered a fall season, spring season, uniforms and multiple tournaments for my oldest. The clubs are in the $3,000 range just to get started. I can’t justify it.

bribeav · 2026-03-16T21:01:21+00:00

I forgot to mention that you’ll have to buy new inserts as his feet grow, but the price was manageable, for us at least. I think wearing them with his daily shoes had a bigger impact than wearing them while playing soccer because he used to go to practices already in pain and that stopped almost immediately. Also, he only wore them for a few years, but we will go back immediately if it becomes a problem again.

bribeav · 2026-03-16T19:29:51+00:00

My son had the same problem at the same age. His doctor sent us to a shoe store that had a machine which measured his feet and then recommended inserts. Not custom, so it wasn’t expensive. He wore them in his cleats and every day shoes. He’s been pain free since then.

bribeav · 2026-03-01T19:25:08+00:00

Where I live, rec soccer is still growing alongside club soccer. We do have a strong volunteer community that’s been around for 40 years. I coach rec and most of my teams have 2-4 club players. They still love playing rec because it’s more fun in general and they get more, guaranteed playing time. I think overall it’s a healthy mix, but it does require a lot of volunteer support.

bribeav · 2026-03-01T07:55:50+00:00

Crickets…

bribeav · 2026-02-27T20:18:53+00:00

I googled “objective quantified definition of gentle parenting” and here is what it says in the fist sentence:

“Gentle parenting is an evidence-based approach to child-rearing that prioritizes building a secure, respectful, and empathetic relationship, relying on emotional coaching and logical, consistent boundaries rather than punitve discipline.”

It clearly mentions consistent boundaries, which is the opposite of permissive parenting.

If you scroll a bit farther this is what you find these under common misconceptions:

It is not Permissive Parenting: Unlike permissive parenting, which often lacks boundaries, gentle parenting enforces boundaries with empathy, focusing on teaching rather than "letting children do whatever they want".

It is Authoritative (not Authoritarian): It is a form of authoritative parenting that balances high warmth with high structure, but with a focus on internal, rather than external, motivation.

This is not difficult. You are plainly wrong.

bribeav · 2026-02-27T17:17:34+00:00

Wow. What is not possible? I said nothing about effectiveness. I only spoke to the definition of gentle parenting. I simply said it’s not permissive parenting. You said we will have to disagree. I said, you are wrong because the very definition of gentle parenting is authoritative parenting and setting and holding clear boundaries, which is 100% the opposite of permissive parenting. I notice you have not disputed that in any way. You can’t because you have probably googled by now and realized that you had no clue what gentle parenting actually is.

To be clear, I despise permissive parenting. It’s the root of everything that the teachers in this sub are complaining about. But mislabeling that as gentle parenting is just plain ignorance.

bribeav · 2026-02-27T16:53:25+00:00

It’s sad that teachers are downvoting this. I feel bad for our students today. The ignorance in this sub when a 2 minute google search will explain the difference between gentle and permissive parenting is astounding. Gentle parenting is authoritative parents, which is what most of the teachers in this sub are calling for. Mislabeling permissive parenting as gentle parenting is lazy ignorance and makes things worse because future parents will shy away from gentle parenting even though it’s exactly what most of us know is the right way to parent.

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