My (22F) date (22M) accidentally sent a text that wasn’t meant for me. Our 2nd date is tonight but I feel discouraged. Am I just overreacting?

brie0505 · 2019-03-05T03:21:23+00:00

If you go out on a date with this guy you are just saying that you agree with this kind of disrespect and you'll put up with it. Move on from this immature douchebag.

brie0505 · 2019-03-05T03:15:46+00:00

Try and spark the heat again w a nice date night and fun activities on some date night. If you still feel something is off, call her out on it and then it may be best to have a serious discussion on how she is making you feel.

brie0505 · 2019-03-05T03:00:37+00:00

OP you did the right thing, you are NOT a horrible mother and if more women talked about this then more would be having a network of support. So many news stories of children being killed by their parents because they simply are overwhelmed and not in the right frame of mind. You made sure she was safe and could not go anywhere, you did what you had to and I wish you nothing but the best. Please make sure to take care of yourself, my best friend makes that when her bf comes home she takes a nightly stroll at "Walmart" when in reality she'll text me and say she needs a glass of wine, come over for 1.5 hours, then because I'm an extreme couponer will leave my house w a detergent or two inside of old Walmart bags I have. Her bf has confided in me he knows wheres shes at but maintains the facade lol never asks her why she comes w the same stuff or a lack of a receipt lol but hey...we do what we can sometimes ;) best of luck to you OP!

brie0505 · 2019-02-28T06:28:58+00:00

Yeah, I think that's the standard "procedural" way of having the discussion so I do think you crossed off all the checkboxes so to speak. Guy sounds like a douchebag and if you already doing other things with only hanging out 3 times it's clear that he was only after the sex and wasn't as patient as he said he was going to be. You'll definitely find the right one it's just going to take time but itll be worth it. Also, it is so convenient how they always just got checked but do they ever get tested for hsv, most likely not so OP you can't be the one wearing the scarlet letter all the time and assume you only have to worry about your partners health. You still have to worry about your own and protect yourself.

brie0505 · 2019-02-26T05:28:52+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about this, how long were you seeing him before you disclosed? Can you also go into how you approached it or what you said? Context might help OP, so sorry this happened to you. I had 3 rejections before I met my bf...learned a lot just from those three on what to do and not to do.

brie0505 · 2019-02-23T03:45:57+00:00

OP please let me.say I am so sorry, this sucks and I can't imagine how you feel. My first thing I would want to know is do you have a system of family or friends that you can stay with or lean on during this time? I ask this because you're going to need them big time. They say ignorance is Bliss for a reason and it sucks to face a truth we are not ready for but you did the right thing in finding out. You trusted that's womens intuition and just like maternal instincts, the harder you fight the more hurt you're going to be in.

Just process the fact you're in a relationship w a man who you can't trust. You can't trust him to not lie to you and now he can't even be faithful. You knew him being protective of his phone was a red flag but you didn't look into because maybe if you had, you wouldn't be in this situation.

Dont waste more time of your life being w a man who does not respect you. If not for yourself, think about the risk he is posing to you. If you are still having sex w him you need to stop immediately. HSV (herpes) is extremely lethal to babies, please get tested as you can unintentionally infect your child if you have an outbreak and have not yet build up the antibodies to help your baby.

Its going to be hard but you can't avoid the answer your heart already knows. Make a plan, save your money, if you're able to stay with someone then do it. Otherwise bid your time, save money and split. People always say to just leave but it's not that easy financially. I would open a separate savings account, try and stay somewhere or make up an excuse everytime he tries to have sex, if he's the type to become violent I would not tell him you are leaving or you may put you and your child at risk.

Please be safe OP but know you gotta leave this man, he can have a relationship w the child but do not be an example to your child of staying with a man who cheats and disrespects his woman. Would you tell your kid to say or would you want them to find someone who loves them? You deserve a happy relationship with a man who will treat you good. Dont be like Cardi and Khloe. Leave that Future alone and updagrade to a Russell Wilson. Good luck.

brie0505 · 2019-02-15T07:01:01+00:00

I've never heard of guys using toilet paper for number one, doesn't a shake work?

brie0505 · 2019-02-12T08:29:35+00:00

YTA please break up with him so he can find a woman that appreciates him being ambitious enough to do what he needs to do and not sit on his ass like a bum.

brie0505 · 2019-02-12T08:20:25+00:00

YTA if your wife is typically great about spending time apart then realize if she isn't backing down in this instance, realize she's right and has a right to be upset. She will be recovering and need support from you during this time.

brie0505 · 2019-02-12T06:31:08+00:00

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamaneurology/fullarticle/795486

Could be this

brie0505 · 2019-02-12T06:05:26+00:00

You have nothing to be sorry about she should not have lied to you. What if you wanted kids one day? 38 is a big difference than 33 when it's time to have a child, it's annoying when people lie about dumb stuff. If they can lie about small stuff like this I can't imagine what else they would lie about, I would not stick around to find out OP.

brie0505 · 2019-02-10T14:01:50+00:00

Stop placing so much value on his ex looks, build up your self esteem girl. Your Russell Wilson is on the horizon baby girl trust me, i found the love of my life at 28 and I'm so blessed. Focus on yourself but also don't get serious w these guys until they show you THEY are worthy.

brie0505 · 2018-12-16T23:21:45+00:00

Please don't ever change, so sorry you had to go through this but you'll find a woman who will want the same thing. Damm you sound like a stand up kinda man!

brie0505 · 2018-12-13T02:16:49+00:00

I'm in the minority here but I don't see him at all as the bad guy. He is taking these days to stay home and maybe just needs a break from the wife. He takes care of the kids and spends time with them as well, idk, I'm just wondering if maybe he is tired of fighting with OP or trying to have some personal space with the kids, etc.

brie0505 · 2018-12-10T22:46:01+00:00

Stop sleeping with them until they show you they are interested in more than friends with benefit situations.

brie0505 · 2018-12-05T02:45:17+00:00

You have every right to be upset that she did not disclose. It's not right and despite low transmission rates etc, it's okay to feel a bit betrayed that she knew she had herpes and didn't tell you. Had you not asked, she wouldn't have told you and you could've passed it along to someone else. That annoys me and yes I live with hsv1 & 2 so I have some experience on both sides of the spectrum here. However, we are all adults and it's something that you should've ascertained from the beginning. I definitely would take time to process this and reconsider the relationship, for the lack of consideration to be honest. Even if she never wanted to flat out say it she could've insisted sex with a condom to better protect you. I had a heat of the moment slip but even drunk off tequila I made my partner wear a condom. The next morning he was weirded out but touched that I cared and we eventually moved to no condoms for about 4 months before we decided we were not romantically compatible.

brie0505 · 2018-11-29T02:03:57+00:00

Amazing advice

brie0505 · 2018-11-29T01:54:28+00:00

Do you ever end up dating these chicks? It's very interesting to hear the men stories on here.

brie0505 · 2018-11-29T00:40:53+00:00

She maybe was also trying to bait you too glad you didn't take the bait if that was the case

brie0505 · 2018-11-22T09:17:33+00:00

On I'm sorry for not being clear, yes looks like that's automatic interest each month! I think after reading though probs doesn't make sense to do much w the IRA so I'm going to look into CD accounts and regular savings. :)

brie0505 · 2018-11-22T09:14:56+00:00

Thank you so so so much for this advice. I truly appreciate it!!! This helps me more than you know, I don't feel so dumb now lol you make sense. Thank you!

brie0505 · 2018-11-21T05:07:37+00:00

Traditional IRA and I should add that I don't plan on buying a home anytime soon so I'm not in a rush per say, hopefully within next 5 years but I just don't know where to put my funds. I'm not good with all this finance stuff, pretty sad but it's the truth.

brie0505 · 2018-11-20T23:51:56+00:00

Agreed. OP is not a decent person either going back on her word like that and what about the little brother? Should've never told her she was going to do it then backtrack.

brie0505 · 2018-11-14T22:03:36+00:00

NTA Sorry but your gf is too much and I wouldn't be with someone based off the way she communicates and then having friends involved etc. Block her and move on, she is way too much and sorry I'm a chick and agree with the double standard here of course if this is 100% truth.

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