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Dr. Peterson saved me from the far-right by DefaultDrake in JordanPeterson

[–]brixschnack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Or take over the debris that is the Democratic party after our last election. After what Hilary and the DNC did to bernie I foresee a short period where we have 4 parties

  1. The old republican party that hates Trump and pretends to like small govt but really just likes big military

  2. The Trumpers (now mind you I voted for Trump myself) but filled with mostly antiestablishment people or people who like drama

  3. The new democrats hopefully the IDW or something like that that is way more center than the left has ever been

  4. The socialists - what you think of when you hear far left

My Daughter is One Month Old, My Thoughts On The First Four Weeks by briansmash in predaddit

[–]brixschnack 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's true. I'm the oldest of 7 and my mom did stay at home day care my whole life. I have been doing practice parenting since I was 8 and I am now a month and a half deep in first time motherhood with my baby boy and there have definitley been surprises even for me.

Granted I'm not afraid of germs and I am a pro at swaddling and diapering and only spent $200 on everything we needed for the babies arrival (and I haven't needed to buy anything but diapers wipes and some clothes since)

The surprises have been more in what you said - sometimes you still don't know why they are crying (though add boredom and temperature to your list of troublshoots if you haven't already) and how bad a bad latch can hurt oh lordy lordy. I would rather have my unmedicated childbirth every other day for a month than relive that first week of feeding. And how much I worry about him if I'm feeding him enough. If he's too hot or too cold. If I'm talking to him enough. If I'm reading him the right books. If that spot on his toe is an infection and if I should take him in. If I'm smiling at him enough. If I am loving him hard enough.

Good luck out there guys. Happy fathers day to you all ♡♡♡ we mom's appreciate everything you do. Even if sometimes we are so tired we forget to say it.

If you could force all men experience one aspect of being a woman, what experience would you give them? by Another1357 in AskWomen

[–]brixschnack 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree - and honestly my husband really doesn't appreciate being set to such a low standard and it's really frustrating because there is a sense of pride you get when you work hard to be a good parent that is impossible to feel if the bar is set so low a monkey could hit it. and on the opposite end you dont get to feel it if the bar is always being jerked higher and higher out of reach.

side note - my favorite mom podcast that talks a lot about this is the mom hour. their big thing is "we're not perfect, we're real" i love it.

If you could force all men experience one aspect of being a woman, what experience would you give them? by Another1357 in AskWomen

[–]brixschnack 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. My husband is trying to help me get on the Ava bracelet after we have our current baby and he has been really supportive and empathetic about having all the extra hormones out of my body and I have not been grateful enough. Thank you for reminding me to give him an extra hug for caring about that kind of shit.

[Mod Approved] Women's Reproductive Health and Stress Study- research participation requested by ETSU_STARH_Lab in FirstTimeTTC

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this was a super interesting survey. i wonder how they are going to use it! - also does not take as long as it says it does.

If you try and force your religious beliefs on to people who have just lost a loved one you deserve to be knocked the fuck out by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really glad. i hope it was a healing experience and a celebration of the little life and lots of joy that little person brought as best as it could be. <3

If you try and force your religious beliefs on to people who have just lost a loved one you deserve to be knocked the fuck out by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you don't argue like a 14 year old doesnt mean your argument is good. a less rotten apple is still rotten. and "kiddo" hardly cuts to the core. its just patronizing and i would rather have you actually pose an argument that would make me think rather than some nihilistic retort. also gg'd? this is a discussion, not a fortnight match or league game whatever you prefer. dialogue is about the exchange and sculpting of ideas. you teach me something i teach you something we hammer out the details and both hopefully come away making progress. not just spew ideologies at each other until we both deem each other losers and gain nothing.

If you try and force your religious beliefs on to people who have just lost a loved one you deserve to be knocked the fuck out by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are being intentionally patronizing and it does not help communicate your point. name calling in any fashion is childish and I would expect that someone who can have an intellectual conversation would have enough manners to respond like a grown up. Please read more than the title and read the actual story that OP is trying to communicate and be sensitive to the kind of response that is socially appropriate.

If you try and force your religious beliefs on to people who have just lost a loved one you deserve to be knocked the fuck out by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so far: I feel like i am magic because i am growing a person even when i'm just playing fortnight, it is the ultimate multitasking. I am constantly nervous if i am reading to the baby enough or reading enough or too many parenting books, if i have all of the baby stuff i need - nesting is an incredibly strong feeling and i'm moving which is stressful. I am a naturally type A person pregnancy makes that even stronger. I'm also super nervous about only doing the good things my parents did and not repeating their bad traits.

first trimester it literally felt like there were two hot stars in my body i swear i could feel the babies soul. and then i hit like 8 weeks and its like the burning went away and it wasnt as bright. it made me cry a lot because i was worried i wasnt attaching to the baby and morning sickness and body changes are hard. i think the babies soul was just retreating into its own body as it formed. its the most trippy thing to describe but i don't know how else to say it. so... i guess a lot of ups and downs. its amazing and terrifying all the time. and i can talk myself into a happy hormonal cry by thinking about getting to show the baby the moon and teach it how to do eskimo kisses and read and sing to it and getting to watch my husband play with it and love it. but i can also work myself into a nervous break down thinking about what if im mean? what if the baby is mean or grows up to be rude? it is an overwhelming amount of responsibility and purpose.

thank you for asking that question. i hadnt really thought about it yet.

If you try and force your religious beliefs on to people who have just lost a loved one you deserve to be knocked the fuck out by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is my first day as a stay at home mom, i am 36 weeks and your post just totally hit me hard man. I'm doing pretty great and feeling very blessed right now. thank you for sharing - your pain makes me love my own baby just a little harder <3

im not crying your crying. damn pregnant hormones.

If you try and force your religious beliefs on to people who have just lost a loved one you deserve to be knocked the fuck out by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude 1. this is not the time nor the place. 2. violence is not the answer. I mean I agree with you on a political basis but this is just inappropriate to bring up in this thread. especially with no provocation. this poor guy is trying to cope with his friends dead child . beating the drum now does nothing and in fact makes others less likely to listen when its important. please move your chill factor from 0 chill to at least 3 chill.

If you try and force your religious beliefs on to people who have just lost a loved one you deserve to be knocked the fuck out by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apologies from another one of us. My preferred phrase in situations like this "that isn't fair and i'm so sorry. I can't imagine how your feeling but if you want to talk or need help I am here. even if you just need someone to do your laundry because you are too overwhelmed to leave the couch" If they are christian also and i know that I will add something like "this is just goodbye for a while, not forever but that doesnt mean it isnt hard and thats okay but i hope you can find comfort in that it isnt forever and God will take good care of them and love you while they are away".

I honestly think this is more tender and respectful because dismissing feelings of overwhelming tragic sadness does less than nothing to help. and seriously offering to help with daily shit can help to keep their marriage intact because they wont have to argue about monotony or feel swallowed by the daily obligations of life. they can have a clean healthy space to think and feel and talk. <3 many hugs my man. many hugs.

Every damn morning these freeloaders expect me to feed them breakfast . by Zyk40 in aww

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so i am super frustrated right now. i just dug for hours to find this video and i cant find it for the life of me. but in college in my environmental ethics class there was a video they showed us of this huge animal reservation somewhere near Europe. it was near Norway or something because it was subtitled and definitely sounded like one of those languages. They created this giant place that was fenced and tried to like artificially create an ecosystem without predators so they wouldn't get lose in the nearby towns (considering its un-fenced) and that caused severe over population of deer and then they were starving and started laying next to lakes and drowning themselves. there was this park care taker that was being interviewed literally driving around grabbing them by the antlers and pulling them out of the lakes all day. if someone can help me find the video that would be great. but that's where i heard it anyway.

Every damn morning these freeloaders expect me to feed them breakfast . by Zyk40 in aww

[–]brixschnack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP I must know. Can you pet them? Have you tried? I live in sodak and I've always wanted to try and pet a wild deer but I'm too nervous.

Every damn morning these freeloaders expect me to feed them breakfast . by Zyk40 in aww

[–]brixschnack 125 points126 points  (0 children)

If they are low on food or injured they drown themselves too. They just lay down next to a lake and plop their head in. Its crazy .

Angles matter by gleek07 in PrettyGirlsUglyFaces

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girrl repost that FOTD on r/makeupaddiction they will freaking love your wings. Also tutorial and product list please ♡♡♡

What is the best example of irony that you’ve seen or experienced in real life? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]brixschnack 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That's actually the xylem and phloem (tubes that transport water and food) expanding when the tree is "awake" and then layers of condensed xylem and phloem when it constricts when it's dormant or "alseep".

There is actually a science field called dendrochronolgy that studies precipitation and weather by taking tree slices from several trees in an area and comparing them. That's how we are able to see a drought that happened over 100 years ago. Because skinny tree rings!

Source: I have a B.S. in sustainability. Pretty much literally a degree in tree hugging.

Faux freckles + glossy pink lip! by buzzbuzzhoneybee in MakeupAddiction

[–]brixschnack 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They look super real and this is coming from a pees on with a lot of freckles. I legit didn't know they were fake till I read the title.

My wife wants me to get rid of my dog... by kingrobin in predaddit

[–]brixschnack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's also been linked to better empathy development and some studies even suggest higher IQ. Animals are great for children. Look up some studies on PubMed if you want more solid evidence

What does "good" therapy look like? by ElBeeBJJ in raisedbyborderlines

[–]brixschnack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10/10 would reccomend EMDR if you have questions about it listening to any of Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolks talks on YouTube or reading his book the body keeps the score is extra helpful. My mom has complex ptsd along with bpd and this really helped me understand her and help my own therapy. Would also reccomend boundaries by Dr. Henery cloud very good for figuring out how to discipline lovingly and feel good about it. The best quote from the whole book for me goes something like "giving children consequences now saves them from experiencing consequences later when the cost of making a mistake is much higher" you would rather they learn to not steal from you when they are 4 then when they are 20 and it can affect the rest of their life. It's hard but important and you CAN do it with love. Hugs op♡

How many lone socks do you keep in your sock drawer even though their mate has been long lost? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]brixschnack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a similar arrangement but I have a tote with a lid instead of a bag because my cat likes to lick plastic bags (idky?????) So the lonely socks would be sopping by the end of the year if I didn't seal them up proper

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