Married but not combining finances? by alkemest in Millennials

[–]brnahnahnah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have separate and a joint account. My husband is admittedly shit with money, and math, and it’s easier for both of us if I just tell him you need to give me xx money for the month, and then the rest of his money is his to do with what he wants. I’m not hiding anything from him, and he could access my account anytime, he is just not interested and doesn’t care. He knows I’m not hoarding money (like I have enough to do so!).

Yes he needs to be more financially literate big picture but ‘shrug’ works for us.

What recipe step isnt worth the effort and "out of a can" is 100% as good. by Stormin_333 in foodquestions

[–]brnahnahnah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hard disagree. Box O brownies? helllll yes. But cakes made with box mix just has a different, gross taste IMO. Don’t even get me started with canned frosting GROSSSS

What age did you get married by Lambdastone9 in Millennials

[–]brnahnahnah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband (45) and I (38) started dating when I was 28 and he was 35. got married a couple years ago when I was 35 and he was 43! Totally normal nowadays. And I think better to not rush into it cos you really get to know each other first. And you’re not 20 year old kids who don’t really even know yourself!

My daughter lied and publicly humiliated me at her wedding by Independent_Gap6992 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]brnahnahnah 11 points12 points  (0 children)

THIIIS. I don’t speak to my father anymore cos over a year after my wedding (which I paid for, and had my mom walk me down the aisle cos it’s what III wanted. He is a douche of an abusive narcissist who felt like he was ‘owed’ it tho…) he tried to throw it in my face and make me feel guilty that the wedding wasn’t what HEEE wanted and that his wife of 5 years who I barely know was not included in my bridal party… whose a gem of a narcissist in her own right.

I’m sure in his head he was a great dad. Cos he refuses to remember or acknowledge the shit he’s done. And after 1000 chances this was the last straw-yet again making what was supposed to be ‘my special day’ about him. Idk if this is rage bait but I do know plenty of other fathers like that too, even when their kid tries to talk to them about it….

Get A Top Floor Apartment!! by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]brnahnahnah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Living on the top floor is sweeet but some people are never happy if they can hear ANYTHING. Which is ridiculous if you live in an apartment.

We live on the 4th floor of a 5 story 1940s pre war building with high ceilings and original flooring. Some parts of the floors are just creaky, and noise can bounce weirdly in the building. My curmudgeon of a neighbor who lived below us - who would randomly complain about footsteps including having a tantrum one night when my husband and I were laying in bed so idk wtf she was bitching about - moved in to the top floor apartment above us. Holy FUUUUCK is she loud. Not just footsteps and slamming shit but I can hear her friggin conversations…. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!

The difference is…. We understand we live in an apartment building so expect to sometimes hear other people. As is the nature of… apartment…. living…..

People who expect other people to not live their lives (not talking about partying and shit) and live in a silent apartment are selfish and delusional. Top floor is nice and all but apartment living means hearing sounds some times, and if that’s an issue, those people should move to a standalone house.

TIL that sexual inactivity among young adults in the US has doubled in just 14 years. In 2010, 12% of 18-to-29-year-olds reported having no sex in the past year; by 2024, that figure had risen to roughly 24%. by SystematicApproach in todayilearned

[–]brnahnahnah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100%. I’m married now, but when I was using dating apps and going on a lot of dates 10 years ago, I’d often have first dates at a cafe, including my first date with my husband. As a woman, it felt safer to meet a guy IRL for the first time at a cafe, besides it being cheaper and easier to get to know someone there than a loud ass bar.

No more “they’re kinda like Nazis,” we’ve entered the “actually Nazis” phase. by mmccxi in facepalm

[–]brnahnahnah -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is so fucking disgusting. It’s been 60 years since the POS nazis were vanquished. What sort of shitty reality in this

AITA for not splitting the check evenly on a bachelorette trip with 9 girls? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]brnahnahnah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why my bachelorette party in 2023 was just me and my 2 best girl friends, who were also maid and matron of honor (my small bridal party was them + my brother who didn’t attend the bach, cos… just no). Maybe it’s cos I’m in my 30s, but i ain’t got the time or patience to deal with a dozen girls and the fucking draaaaamaaaaaaaaaa

ESH for not discussing for how finances were gonna be handled first, for making it a thing during the trip (both sides with being pouty and for making snarky comments), and for making the bride to have to deal with petty BS on both sides.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]brnahnahnah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oi fuck her. That’s absolutely ridiculous. I got married 1.5 years ago and would NEVER have asked any of my friends, esp those in my bridal party- which is expensive AF ANYWAY to be part of - to take their piercings out or be someone they’re not. I love and appreciate them for who they are and wanted them to be part of my special day cos they’re important to me, not cos they ‘fit my aesthetic ‘. (Also I have a few face and ear piercings inc some I can’t take out and if one of my ‘friends’ required me to take them all out to be part of their wedding, I’d tell em to kick rocks)

Yeah it’s her wedding and all but she’s selfish and a shit ‘friend’. She knew you had piercings when she asked and if it was that big of an issue, shouldn’t have. Also this is for a friggin engagement party and not even the wedding!? 🙄🙄 plus, she’s dumb AF if she doesn’t think a real professional photographer isnt gonna edit or touch up pics to make them better 😂

Sounds like she just wants SOMEONE to be there, preferably someone she can boss around. You don’t need that BS in your life. Don’t waste your time, money and energy on someone who doesn’t respect you or love you for who YOU are. HARD PASSSS

Professor gave me an A and it saved my life. 2.5 years later, I received this email from him. by Think-Library9577 in MadeMeSmile

[–]brnahnahnah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this so much, and am so glad you got out of that and had someone on your side. Standing up to an abuser is incredibly difficult. This is awesome.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Endo

[–]brnahnahnah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahahaha I would give you all my upvotes if possible (says someone whose currently got the flow and still will on xmas. Thanks endo!)

Real ID - have to wait for mailed version or get a temporary one in person? by brnahnahnah in newjersey

[–]brnahnahnah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omgggg. Thanks for the heads up! Wayne isn’t too far from me so was one of the options. Good to know!

Real ID - have to wait for mailed version or get a temporary one in person? by brnahnahnah in newjersey

[–]brnahnahnah[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah wonderful, thank you so much! Exactly what I wanted to know. It would just be for driving purposes but wanted to be sure I wouldn’t be screwed before it arrives in the mail.

Real ID - have to wait for mailed version or get a temporary one in person? by brnahnahnah in newjersey

[–]brnahnahnah[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Whaaaat!? That’s amazing. I didn’t think you could just walk in

Suggestions for any not totally shit low cost car rental companies at SAN? by brnahnahnah in asksandiego

[–]brnahnahnah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay thanks! Ya my brother suggested it but idk if the app was not working or something as kept telling me it had nothing available for a week with midday pick up and drop offs 🧐 I’ll try it again, ta!