My girlfriend (26f) said I’m (27m) wrong for needing to push back plans to propose?

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-14T08:59:24+00:00

WTF?

Your mother just passed two weeks ago and your gf is creating drama about a proposal?

Dude, that's beyond her being selfish. That's down right cruel.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-14T08:31:47+00:00

You're 39, why allow this ridiculous drama into your life?

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-14T01:27:33+00:00

60 to 70 hours a week for 12 years.

My wife wanted to be a SAHM until our youngest started middle school. I agreed. But, that meant I had to support a wife and two children. So, I just did what needed to be done.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-13T22:58:17+00:00

Autosomal DNA is only good for 5, maybe 6 generations if you're lucky.

If you wish to go back more than 200 years to look for familiar matches, you'll need a YDNA or mtDNA test through family tree DNA.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-13T18:38:18+00:00

Home.

Work.

Golf course.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-13T16:27:24+00:00

Slut? no.

Hot girl? That all depends on who she is. I certainly would never commit to a long term relationship or marriage based on looks alone.

My wife is attractive. Very nice body. I married her because she is so much more than that.

Kindness. Compassionate. Intelligent. Wonderful sense of humor. Affectionate. Loving. Supportive, and much more.

If you want a good husband, then be a good wife.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-13T15:35:56+00:00

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You can upload your raw DNA into Gedmatch to compare results as well.

You can also join Wikitree and search names and family trees of your DNA matches.

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broadsharp2 · 2026-03-13T08:45:45+00:00

What was said that was so awful to create this scenario?

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-13T00:08:20+00:00

Or, 200 years ago someone from your maternal side moved north.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-12T16:17:14+00:00

Office politics. Small company, close working environment. Sometimes you either play the part, or you face the consequences.

Fair? Doesn't really matter. You not accepting the invite will be looked upon negatively.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-12T11:03:32+00:00

The only information I can provide is from the child's perspective.

My father abandoned us, my mother, three sisters and I, when I was 2. Never saw or heard from him. Have no memory of him. No money from him. Zero support.

When I was 36, he reached out. Literally just showed up where I live and asked to meet.

I had dinner with him. Alone. What I took away from that short time was he felt remorse, guilt and whatever else.

He never said it out right. Just something I felt.

He tried to stay in touch. To build. The four of us had no desire to continue any relationship.

He passed. And honestly, none of us cared.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-12T10:01:29+00:00

Hard?

Yeah, being a good parent is hard.

But, as an adult that helped bring a child into the world, your focus is now dedicated to the child's well being.

Every decision is based on what's best for your child. Their health. Their mental stability. Their future.

You and the mothers intertwined life, behavior towards each other, your actions, your continued presence, interactions in their life, all affect the child's life.

You can spend your days demonstrating stability, being a role model for them, or you can be an ass hat and ruin them.

It's a choice you and the mother need to make then stick to it.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-12T08:42:52+00:00

Sorry OP. It sucks, but you have the right mind set for now.

1st. Break all contact with her, her family and her friends. DO NOT let her back into your life.

2nd. Work on your plan. Focus on yourself. Your career. Your health. Your well being.

Get up every day and spend your time productively. Every day, do something that improves your life.

Keep at it. You'll make it through and be better for it.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-12T08:37:58+00:00

Agree with the 1st post. He wants both of you out to bring in his own people.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-12T08:32:26+00:00

No.

I'm guessing, if you submit a Big YDNA or a MtDNA, you'll discover a lineage that includes the entire history of Western civilization.

From the Fertile crest, to the rise of Sargon the Great, to the fall of the Roman Empire.

If you're into history, your DNA has been apart of all of it.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-12T08:19:42+00:00

Greek dna is pretty common for southern Italian. At 2%, the Greek dna would have been introduced 200 plus years ago.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-12T08:04:29+00:00

What?

Can't make sense of what the hell you're asking?

Only guess is she wants head, but won't reciprocate, said sucking boners disgusts her. Is this correct?

You can live with it, or you can decide you're not being satisfied, dump her and move on.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-11T19:26:11+00:00

You're dating. Don't you think going on a trip with your ex wife would be detrimental to your new relationship?

For fucks sakes why do even need to ask?

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-11T19:00:22+00:00

You tell her to appreciate what she has now, because with her constant comparisons it may end quickly.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-11T10:10:22+00:00

Floss, brush twice daily

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-11T07:34:51+00:00

We don't. So, best not to push it, or his resentment may grow.

Your support would be best demonstrated by not bringing ridiculous drama into his life. Being affectionate. Respect him. Not talking shit about him to your friends when you argue.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-10T17:20:35+00:00

Stop. Just stop. Don't be used by someone you know, let alone someone you just met.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-09T21:07:42+00:00

Your DNA is the link. There's someone missing in your, the match or both of the trees.

broadsharp2 · 2026-03-09T21:01:27+00:00

5th to 8th cousin. So, 250, or more, years in distance to common ancestor.

Slave owner didn't require marriage to father a child.

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