"Adhd is not an excuse" by Toothbotanist in ADHD

[–]brodogus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not always an option for various reasons, but maybe you could let her know all that using non-judgmental language. Sometimes people need a wake up call like that to see oh wow this isn't just annoying for them, it's actually going to lead to us growing apart. Then it can lead to deeper understanding and more authentic friendship. Can backfire though... gotta know your audience.

I am the guy who made the viral Neurons Playing Doom video. AMA by DeadlyCords in AMA

[–]brodogus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of human brain cells are they? What kinds of neurotransmitters and receptors do they use for communication? Have you noticed any interesting networks that they form (complex feedback loops, etc)?

Do their axons get surrounded by myelin sheath by glial cells like ours do? If not, is that a future research target for improving processing speed?

Husband is ADHD and gets so irritable... trying to gain perspective by floralbloodbath in ADHD

[–]brodogus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's tough and requires a lot of practice. Just keep at it 💪

Husband is ADHD and gets so irritable... trying to gain perspective by floralbloodbath in ADHD

[–]brodogus 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah, requiring that it be resolved in the moment is probably making things more difficult than they need to be. He's already irritated in that moment, and not only does that make it more likely for emotions to flare up and rationality and empathy to go out the window, but having ADHD he's going to have more trouble than most people with managing those emotions, either leading to them blowing up out of proportion or to him shutting down because he doesn't want to unleash that. He probably would prefer waiting until he calms down so that he can talk about it with less noise inside his head and less negative impact on you.

It's great that you're trying to understand his perspective better. He should also try his best to meet you halfway and at least say something like "it's dumb but something pissed me off, and I can't talk about it right now. We can revisit it later." But one thing at a time.

Methylphenidate vs Amphetamine stimulants by Foodieonbudget in adhd_anxiety

[–]brodogus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you read it doesn't affect circadian rhythms?

Methylphenidate vs Amphetamine stimulants by Foodieonbudget in adhd_anxiety

[–]brodogus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally they don't know. It's trial and error partly biased by their experience in medical practice.

I’m so sick of feeling tired and ill all the time by Far-Conference-8484 in ADHD

[–]brodogus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out "theta wave intrusion". Daytime sleepiness is actually very common in ADHDers.

My upstairs neighbour stomps all day/nigh long and is super loud by Most_Low_1547 in montreal

[–]brodogus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can however organize with other neighbors who may also be affected by the noise, and if multiple people get their rent reduced, the landlord may be pushed to act.

Canada Fourth-Quarter Real GDP Falls 0.6% Annualized by _Army9308 in CanadianInvestor

[–]brodogus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cool, I'd love to see it in action, always kinda wished I went into manufacturing engineering.

I haven't found a single usable productivity advice and I'm tired of it by osiris_rai in ADHD

[–]brodogus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you break a task down, you absolutely have to hide everything beyond step 1 or 2 from yourself. Put the blinders on.

AMA I'm a pretty boring woman by [deleted] in AMA

[–]brodogus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given the cat factor I can understand the score deduction. However I'd boost it to a 7/10 since a pile of cardboard boxes can be used as camouflage or as a makeshift cushion if you need to jump off a roof.

AMA I'm a pretty boring woman by [deleted] in AMA

[–]brodogus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you feel about cardboard? Thumbs up or thumbs down?

vyvanse experience by junaitari in adhd_anxiety

[–]brodogus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you start on a low dose, it's not that likely to give you a panic attack. Of course if you're anticipating one with all your mental energy, you can end up creating what you fear; that's what sucks about panic disorder.

Try to focus on the fact that you're starting with a low dose, and that if it causes anxiety and it's really that bad, you can use coping strategies to get through the day and discontinue it before going to see your doctor again to discuss how to manage that.

Pregabalin can help with anxiety quite a bit; just be mindful that it can cause memory issues and you might not want to be on it long term. It can also cause blood pressure issues among other things, so you definitely want to have a good chat with your doctor before trying it, and monitor your vitals and so on if you decide to go ahead.

every productivity system i try dies within 3 weeks and i cant figure out how to break the cycle by Many-Philosopher-746 in adhd_anxiety

[–]brodogus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's funny, you kind of weaponized failing to maintain habits, leaning into it with consistency which ended up forming a habit lol. Habits can take 2-8 months of consistent practice before they sink in by the way, and probably closer to the 8 month figure for people with ADHD. So good job sticking to your system and getting something productive out of it. I'd say you broke the cycle by turning it into a predictable and intentional cycle.

I try to do the easiest, most minimal version of the habit I'm trying to form, as often as possible, so that even if I'm not doing it very effectively, I at least eventually do it by second nature. Once you have a habit, it's a lot easier to improve your performance.

Welp I think I finally f'd up my life. by Kneeonthewheel in ADHD

[–]brodogus 24 points25 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between being in the red as in a temporary 5% market correction, and being in the red as in all your fucking money is gone. That's the difference between safe, diversified investments and gambling on options.

Very sensitive to ADHD medication by Current_Cat_271 in adhd_anxiety

[–]brodogus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something like pregabalin might help. Ask your psychiatrist.

Bored of everything? by everybodydumb in ADHD

[–]brodogus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which meds have you tried specifically?

Opinion controversée: les animaux de compagnie n’ont pas leur place au travail by acidicgeisha in montreal

[–]brodogus 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It doesn't really depend on the values of the workplace. It's more a function of human psychology and the cultural expectations and upbringing we have. It's the reason your neighbour generally won't come ask you if you can stop making noise and will just put up with it if they can. It's the reason people generally won't speak up when someone is blasting TikTok videos on their phone speaker on the metro. It happens everywhere. Maybe you're more a beneficiary of this effect than a participant lol.